Tweets by Michael Flood

I tweet regularly on issues of men, masculinities, gender, and violence, at https://twitter.com/MichaelGLFlood. On this page, I list many of my recent tweets. So if you don't use Twitter or follow me on Twitter, then you can find most of my recent tweets here. If Twitter ceases to exist or be functional, I may continue posting at Mastodon, at @MichaelGLFlood@mastodon.au.

(Note that the text below does not include items I re-tweet. Also, while I often use graphics in my tweets, I have not added the graphics here.)

Tweets in January 2023

Our Broken Definition of Masculinity Is Bad for Everybody
Liz Plank’s book “For the Love of Men” is widening the discussion of masculinity.
https://community.thriveglobal.com/arianna-huffington-masculinity-for-t…

Study: libertarians tend to support reproductive autonomy for men but not for women
Libertarianism among Americans is associated with opposition to women's reproductive autonomy & support for men's. Hostile sexism shapes this.
https://nordot.app/988413542242189312?c=592622757532812385
Study https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/pops.12867

Why don’t more men in Western countries wear skirts?
Western women have been wearing pants for decades now without it being socially stigmatising. So aren’t more Western men wearing skirts? Skirt-type garments are worn by men the world over.
https://theconversation.com/why-dont-more-men-wear-skirts-21899

Jameela Jamil's powerful speech on ending toxic masculinity
February 2019
https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/may-fight-generation-men-read-jameela-j…

Three reasons why local feminist movements offer solutions for gender equality and peace
By Maria Butler, Director of Global Programmes, Women’s International League for Peace and Freedom (WILPF), 2018
https://oecd-development-matters.org/2018/03/27/three-reasons-why-local…

Porn and media play part in sexual violence
In order to end rape, the world needs to end all those aspects of the patriarchal legacy that led to women’s objectification and submission.
https://www.newsroom.co.nz/2019/04/18/543085/porn-and-media-play-part-i…

How Men Get Penalized for Straying from Masculine Norms
Men, like women, face backlash when they don’t adhere to gender stereotypes — when they show vulnerability, act nicer, display empathy, express sadness, exhibit modesty, and proclaim to be feminists
https://hbr.org/2018/10/how-men-get-penalized-for-straying-from-masculi…

Want to be a true feminist ally? Learn from these men
A new generation of pro-feminist men is defying stereotypes and combating sexist violence. But more need to join them.
By Julie Bindel @bindelj
https://aljazeera.com/opinions/2023/1/20/want-to-be-a-true-feminist-all…
@David_Challen @MenAtWork_MC @byronhurt @MenVSexism

Ways to Address Hegemonic Masculinity and Gun Violence
IANSA Briefing Paper, February 2022 (English, French, Spanish), International Action Network on Small Arms
https://iansa.org/ways-to-address-hegemonic-masculinity-and-gun-violence-february-14-2022/

Boys aren’t losing role models – girls are
Responses to online misogyny have missed the point
https://thecritic.co.uk/Boys-arent-losing-role-models-girls-are/

Intimate partner rape: Excellent scholarly discussion and critique of six common myths, e.g. on why women stay in relationships with abusive men, why women delay or never report the rape, etc.
Full paper in PDF: https://www.dropbox.com/s/82fs2pszqhe2mnf/Lilley%2C%20Intimate%20Partne…

‘You had better be careful in your bed tonight’: shock rise in women killed by their sons
Violence by children against parents and grandparents is Britain’s hidden abuse, often misunderstood or ignored – until too late.
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2023/jan/15/women-killed-by-sons-vi…

Why more women working in construction could also make it a better workplace for men
Female tradies are still a rare breed, but their numbers are slowly growing. Both men and women in the industry say making it more family friendly would be better for all.
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2023-01-20/men-women-in-construction-family…

Can women in Britain ever trust the police again? Here’s what must happen first
The Met’s failure to investigate David Carrick shows how little changed even after the murder of Sarah Everard. It’s time for radical reform
By Harriet Wistrich @HWistrich
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/jan/18/women-britain-tru…

It’s not about women’s safety, but about women’s *freedom*. Feminist linguist Deborah Cameron on men’s violence against women and how the problem is framed. https://debuk.wordpress.com/2021/03/14/when-words-fail-us/ @wordspinster

‘Cultural misogyny’ and why men’s aggression to women is so often expressed through sex. https://theconversation.com/cultural-misogyny-and-why-mens-aggression-t… via @ConversationEDU

Men’s work to end violence against women must be *accountable*. Because (1) struggles against oppression should be led by those who are oppressed; (2) the oppressed have a better understanding of the system than the privileged. See pp. 92-96 of FREE book: https://xyonline.net/content/new-book-engaging-men-and-boys-violence-prevention [Plus graphic, Flood, Engaging Men and Boys in Violence Prevention - Accountability excerpt]

#MRAs #Mensrights: They gain support from right-wing backlashes against efforts at social justice. They co-opt the language of equality and rights to misrepresent themselves as victims. They deny scholarly research and empirical evidence.
Chapter: http://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/Flood%2C%20Backlash%20-%20…

Engaging men makes a crucial difference to our efforts to build gender equality at work. Whether a man wears a hard hat and a high-vis vest, or a suit and tie, he can make a difference. “Men Make a Difference” report, summarised here: https://xyonline.net/content/engaging-men-workplaces-building-gender-eq…

What do we know about violence perpetration? Who uses domestic, family, and sexual violence? What are the drivers of perpetration? What are the typical trajectories of perpetration?
Keynote, Working with Men to End Family Violence Conference, Feb. 16. See https://bit.ly/3imeThZ

‘Red-pill’ misogyny is thriving – here's how Muslim women are challenging it in their communities 
https://www.glamourmagazine.co.uk/article/red-pill-misogyny-opinion-muslim-women

Three-Quarters of Teenagers Have Seen Online Pornography by Age 17
Sexually explicit content has become so prevalent online that teenagers are deluged, according to a new report by a nonprofit child advocacy group
https://www.nytimes.com/2023/01/10/technology/porn-teens-online-report…

Attention men: How to become an ally for women’s rights.
An excellent primer on men as allies in the workplace, from the Association for Women in Science. What allies are, what allyship involves. https://www.awis.org/attention-men-ally/ @AWISNational

Also see the XY collection on men's positive roles in building workplace gender equality, here: https://xyonline.net/content/men-building-gender-equality-workplace
Tip sheets, reports, and more.

Violent Misogyny in Policing and Violent Misogyny in Society
It’s not a bad apple, it’s a rotting orchard, writes Sian Norris – as a Met police officer admits to being a serial rapist
Two interlinked problems: misogyny in policing, and misogyny in society
https://bylinetimes.com/2023/01/16/violent-misogyny-in-policing-violent…

"the police is institutionally misogynistic because its structures are built on pillars of patriarchal power, violence and authority. The system has become a place which some men choose to exploit in order to access vulnerable women – and it’s a system which gives cover to" them

Misogyny in policing reflects misogyny in society.  "There is a culture of impunity when it comes to men’s violence against women and girls."
"Not all men hate and harm women, but society persistently fails to punish and hold to account those who do."

Don’t tell me that David Carrick’s crimes were ‘unbelievable’. The problem is victims aren’t believed
Another criminally misogynist police officer pleads guilty, and officials voice surprise. No wonder women feel betrayed.
By Marina Hyde
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/jan/17/david-carricks-cr…

The Conversation You Must Have With Your Sons
Many parents have the "Don't get raped" conversations with their daughters, but not the "Don't rape" conversations with their sons. We must.
By Carina Kolodny
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/the-conversation-you-must-have-with-your…

Also see this collection on the pro-feminist website XY on how to raise non-violent, gender-equitable, and feminist sons (and on parenting more generally): https://xyonline.net/content/raising-feminist-sons-xy-collection

A self-care guide for change-makers and peacebuilders during COVID-19. As we seek to address complex challenges in our communities, this brief guide outlines basic recommendations for ways we can take care of ourselves and our households. https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5d0d32005d7640000177b27d/t/5e9ca…

What is really radical in sex/gender politics? Radical feminist critiques of prostitution, pornography, and transgender ideology should be part of a consistent, coherent left analysis, Professor Robert Jensen argues. https://culturico.com/2020/07/26/what-is-really-radical-in-sex-gender-politics/

One way to improve sex ed for kids: provide sex ed for parents too. By Jenna Price @JennaPrice. https://www.theage.com.au/education/one-way-to-improve-sex-ed-for-kids-…

Gender, power, progress: How norms change. @ALIGN_Gender (Advancing Learning & Innovation on Gender Norms) examines how gender norms have changed over the past 25 years, what has supported and blocked changes, and how to accelerate and entrench change. https://www.alignplatform.org/

Traditional gender expectations limit our children, causing problems such as lower self-esteem and body image in girls and poorer reading skills, higher suicide, and violence among boys. UK report, Unlimited Potential (2020): https://www.fawcettsociety.org.uk/unlimited-potential-the-final-report-of-the-commission-on-gender-stereotypes-in-early-childhood @fawcettsociety

Parents are more uncomfortable with gender-nonconforming behaviors in boys, study finds. Parents are more comfortable with girls partaking in gender-nonconforming behavior than boys and attempt to change their sons’ behaviors more frequently.
psypost.org/2019/04/parents-more-uncomfortable-with-gender-nonconforming-behaviors-in-boys-study-finds-53540

Raising children more gender equitably: This Guidance Note provides guidance on how governments, civil society, and others can design and adapt programming and policy to shift patterns of restrictive gender socialization of boys and girls. https://www.equimundo.org/resources/understanding-how-to-raise-kids-mor… @equimundo_org

Raising sons to embrace healthy, positive masculinity: This 7-page guide offers parents simple practical tips to talk to their sons about healthy masculinity, and encourage positive beliefs & behaviours from early on. https://jss.org.au/raising-sons-to-embrace-healthy-positive-masculinity/ @PlanGlobal @PlanUSA @equimundo_org

Also see this XY collection on how we can raise boys who are equitable and respectful: https://xyonline.net/content/raising-feminist-sons-xy-collection. Links to short guides and tip sheets, resources for parents, and public campaigns.

Engaging men in gender-transformative change: 3 new learning briefs from @PlanCanada and @equimundo_org on how to: frame programs to maximize recruitment and retention; ensure high-quality facilitation; and build inclusive programs: https://www.equimundo.org/engaging-men-in-reducing-maternal-newborn-and…

How Business Can Engage Men as Allies for Gender Equality. Businesses can shift men’s individual behavior, commit to inclusive organizations, and use their external influence to shape new social norms (Mar 2020). https://ssir.org/articles/entry/how_business_can_engage_men_as_allies_f… @aliceallan3 @coopermarianne

For more on men's positive roles in building gender equality in workplaces, see this XY collection: https://xyonline.net/content/men-building-gender-equality-workplace. Including e.g. the report "Men Make a Difference" (Diversity Council of Australia), free in PDF, and much more.

Today’s Masculinity Is Stifling. As boys grow up, the process of becoming men encourages them to shed the sort of intimate connections and emotional intelligence that add meaning to life. By Sarah Rich, 2018. https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/06/imagining-a-better-b…

Parental leave: Why we need to talk about fatherhood. Handy, research-based account of the benefits of paternity leave for children, fathers and households; the barriers to fathers taking paternity leave; and how to remove these barriers. https://www.gendereconomy.org/parental-leave-why-we-need-to-talk-about-… @GenderEconomy [Plus graphic, He, Parental leave Why we need to talk about fatherhood 2019 Infographic – Barriers]

Power and Control Wheel: The ‘power and control wheel’ is a widely used and insightful depiction of the strategies of power and control often used by abusers against their partners. Domestic violence typically involves a range of strategies of power and control. [With graphic, Power and Control wheel - Domestic Abuse Intervention Programs]

Equality Wheel: The ‘equality wheel’ is an invaluable representation of what intimate relationships *should* look like. The opposite of the Power and Control Wheel. Healthy relationships involve more than the absence of violence. [Plus graphic, Equality wheel - Domestic Abuse Intervention Programs]

Men’s rape and sexual assault of women: Is the expression of gender socialisation, gender role expectations, and violence-supportive social norms. Useful scholarly overview, here: https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2019-04/Gidycz%2C%20Rape%20and%20Sexual%20Assault%20Victimization%202016.pdf [Plus graphic, Gidycz, Rape and Sexual Assault Victimization 2016 p. 461]

Conspiracy theory #12: Why there are no good men
“We’d love to let you live, Mac, but you make the rest of us look bad…”
“I understand.” [Plus graphic, Conspiracy theory - Why there are no good men]

Preventing sexual violence through education: What does effective practice in consent education in schools look like? What is the evidence of effectiveness? And, can comprehensive sexuality education contribute to preventing sexual violence? (Yes). See https://xyonline.net/content/best-practice-consent-education

Prioritising women’s safety in men’s behaviour change programs: Mapping the purpose and practices of partner contact. Key findings and future directions. Includes report and practice guide: https://www.anrows.org.au/publication/prioritising-womens-safety-in-australian-perpetrator-interventions-mapping-the-purpose-and-practices-of-partner-contact-key-findings-and-future-directions/ @ANROWS

My Dignity: A resource for people who have experienced sexualised violence or people who would like to learn more. By Insight Exchange (Australia), intended to inform and strengthen social, service and systemic responses to domestic and family violence. https://www.insightexchange.net/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/My-Dignity-My-body-is-mine-First-Edition2694.pdf [Plus graphic, Insight Exchange DVSM, My Dignity - sexualised violence (2020) – Cover]

Masculinity and Violent Extremism: I'm delighted to announce publication of this new book, with co-authors @DrJoshuaRoose, Alan Greig, Mark Alfano @moral_psych, and @SimonCopland
Free in PDF here: https://xyonline.net/content/masculinity-and-violent-extremism 1/2

The book "gives a persuasive account of the role of masculinity in far right, jihadism and anti-women movements".
A "must read for anyone wanting to understand the role masculinities play in violent extremist groups of diverse ideologies—far right, Islamist and far left". 2/2

Understanding abuse: The Ryan Giggs trial in the UK shows we still need to educate juries about coercive control.
By Jean Hatchet @JeanHatchet
https://thecritic.co.uk/understanding-abuse/

Women are credited less in science than men
The gap in the number of publications produced by women and men in science is in part the result of unacknowledged contributions: women in research teams are less likely than men to be credited with authorship.
https://www.nature.com/articles/s41586-022-04966-w?fbclid=IwAR19B5sX7UiPOZeUhVmQeg9JXpOCb3VCn3JH6zGuCcB8CBkKLrI1ywbPfDk [Plus graphic, Ross, Women are credited less in science than men 2022 – Abstract]

Also see the piece, Sexism in the Academy: An excellent, detailed account of how male dominance in the academy and scholarship is sustained (2019). https://nplusonemag.com/issue-34/essays/sexism-in-the-academy/ via @nplusonemag.
I summarised it here: https://twitter.com/MichaelGLFlood/status/1359271844671459328

On Violence against Women or Why You Should Stop Asking “What about Men?”
By Liza Caruana-Finkel
https://www.islesoftheleft.org/on-violence-against-women-or-why-you-sho…

Explainer: what does ‘gaslighting’ mean?
By Jessamy Gleeson
https://theconversation.com/explainer-what-does-gaslighting-mean-107888 @ConversationEDU

It *is* possible to make long-term change in rates of violence against women. Study over 20 years finds a genuine decrease in intimate partner violence among Nicaraguan women, likely through structural interventions. https://gh.bmj.com/content/5/4/e002339.abstract [Plus graphic, Ellsberg, Long-term change in the prevalence of intimate partner violence Nicaragua 2020 – Abstract]

Working with young people to promote respectful, healthy relationships? The brilliant violence prevention organisation Our Watch has put together an excellent guide to key resources for practitioners and educators. See https://www.theline.org.au/educators-and-practitioners/ @OurWatchAus

Violence against women: 6 problems with focusing only on telling women how to maximise their safety
1) This fails to hold perpetrators accountable for their behaviour, and locates responsibility with the potential victims.
2) Women *already* use a multitude of such strategies 1/4

3) It accepts that some men will use violence, rather than focusing on how to prevent and reduce this, and places the burden on women to police and limit their lives.
4) The strategies are false assurances. Women may ‘do everything right’ and still be assaulted.
2/4

5) The strategies typically focus on potential assaults on women by unknown men and in public places, whereas most assaults are by men known to the victim (boyfriends, husbands, male acquaintances, etc.) and in familiar locations. 3/4

6) Such a focus does nothing to *prevent* men’s violence against women, by tackling the gender inequalities and patriarchal gender norms at its heart.
For key reviews of and guides to violence prevention, in full text, see the XY collection here: http://xyonline.net/content/preventing-violence-against-women-xy-collection-key-reports-and-reviews 4/4

‘Home is the most dangerous place for women,’ but private and public violence are connected
By Professor Myrna Dawson
https://theconversation.com/home-is-the-most-dangerous-place-for-women-…

True or false? Men and women face violence in their relationships equally (False)
By Professor C. Nadine Wathen
https://theconversation.com/true-or-false-men-and-women-face-violence-i…

Sex robots increase the potential for gender-based violence
By Professor Judy Iles and Farhad Udwadia
https://theconversation.com/sex-robots-increase-the-potential-for-gende…

The Fight for Women’s Rights is a Fight Against Authoritarianism
By Macarena Saez @msaez_torres
https://www.hrw.org/news/2023/01/04/fight-womens-rights-fight-against-authoritarianism

Gender as a social structure: Gender operates at individual, interactional, and macro levels of society. Professor Barbara Risman integrates the three in her excellent chapter in the “Handbook of the Sociology of Gender”, Chapter 2 here: https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2020-11/Risman%2C%20Handb…  [Plus graphic, Risman, Gender as a social structure, Fig 1 p. 32]

For university-level introductions to gender, see the works listed here, many free in PDF: https://xyonline.net/books/bibliography/4-introductory-and-general-writing-gender/introductions-and-overviews
This includes chapter-length introductions and entire books. Enjoy

Mansplaining: the act of a man’s unsolicited explaining, generally to a woman, something he thinks he knows more about than she does, whether he knows anything or not. Mansplaining is an expression of widespread patriarchal inequalities. https://www.nytimes.com/2020/09/09/us/why-are-men-still-explaining-things-to-women-mansplaining-authority-gender.html 1/5

Mansplaining “crushes young women into silence… It trains us in self-doubt and self-limitation just as it exercises men’s unsupported overconfidence.” As Kate Manne explores in her book “Entitled”. 2/5

Mansplaining is based on “the presumption that a woman will be less knowledgeable, less competent and somehow in need of a man to explain things to her”, and “the sense of entitlement of certain privileged men to be the expert, the knower in the exchange”. 3/5

Whereas women are socialized to be pleasing and polite, to not embarrass men, to provide a pleasant audience to men, one that does not interrupt them. https://www.nytimes.com/2020/09/09/us/why-are-men-still-explaining-things-to-women-mansplaining-authority-gender.html 4/5

Seven Studies That Prove Mansplaining Exists. Find that: Women get interrupted more than men. 2. Men interrupt women to assert power. 3. Men dominate conversations during work meetings. 4. Men and boys dominate conversation in classrooms. Etc. (2014) https://www.dropbox.com/s/cr3wooo7vsku02m/Bitchmedia.org%2C%20Seven%20S… 5/5

“What about men?”: Dr Jessica Eaton set up a charity for male mental health, and never got much “What about women’s mental health?!” abuse. But she *routinely* gets ‘whataboutery’-based abuse in response to her work on women and girls.
1/2

Any commentary, research, or attention on women and girls gets a “What about men?” response.
Why the contrast? It’s (patriarchal) sexism. It is resistance to any idea that women and women’s issues can be the focus in their own right.
Article: https://www.dropbox.com/s/3cr0hsk2z2xnl9t/Eaton%2C%20%27Stop%20asking%2… @DrJessTaylor

How Gaslighting Manipulates Reality
Gaslighting isn’t just between people in a relationship—it involves social power, too
By Dr Paige L. Sweet @paigelsweet
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-gaslighting-manipulates-reality/

Gaslighting: a type of psychological abuse aimed at making victims seem or feel “crazy”. It is rooted in social inequalities, including gender, and executed in power-laden intimate relationships. Useful sociological account by Dr Paige Sweet @paigelsweet
https://www.dropbox.com/s/u10ldd6fnzge5i3/Sweet%2C%20The%20Sociology%20of%20Gaslighting%202019.pdf?dl=0 [Plus abstract, Sweet, The Sociology of Gaslighting 2019 – Abstract]

Women’s levels of sexual desire in their relationships are shaped by how equal the relationship is. Greater equality in relationships (greater equity in power) leads to higher relationship satisfaction, which leads to higher sexual desire for partners.
https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/00224499.2022.2079111 [plus graphic, Johansen, Fairer Sex - The Role of Relationship Equity in Female Sexual Desire 2022 – Discussion]

What African feminist movements are up against in 2023
Emboldened by the overturning of Roe v Wade, Western conservative movements are dialling up their Africa campaigns
https://www.opendemocracy.net/en/5050/african-feminism-2023-threats/

Kids stay at home longer and parents live longer — 'sandwich generation' women care for them both
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2023-01-11/sandwich-generation-women-caring…

Gaslighting: Allegations of gaslighting are common these days. But concept creep has expanded the original idea of gaslighting, genuinely sinister behaviour, to include more mundane behaviour. It’s now applied too often simply to disagreeing with someone.
By Kathleen Stock
1/3

When you are arguing with someone, you are almost always trying to convince them they are wrong. (And often, they are not actually wrong.)
In turn, the accusation of gaslighting can itself be inaccurate, or motivated by bad intent.
2/3

Finally, some people are clinging to potentially mistaken beliefs or even outright delusions, and letting go of such apparent ‘realities’ would be a good thing.
https://unherd.com/2022/08/the-problem-with-gaslighting/ @Docstockk

How We Avoid the Rise of Another 'Andrew Tate'
By Jackson Katz
https://msmagazine.com/2023/01/09/andrew-tate-boys-gender-masculinity/ via @msmagazine #AndrewTate

If We’re Against Toxic Masculinity, Guys, What Are We For? Dan Miller writes, I am the father of boys. This moment is pushing me to try raise them into men who reject toxic masculinity. Not to mention overcome my own struggles with it. https://voicemalemagazine.org/toxic-masculinity-guys/ @voicemalemag

How streaming media services (‘OTT’) in India Shifted Popular Representations of Masculinity (OTT content has been instrumental in furthering the characterisation of its leading men beyond one-tone man-children or know-it-all macho men.)
https://www.filmcompanion.in/readers-articles/how-ott-in-india-shifted-popular-representations-of-masculinity-tvf-netflix/

MAGA men are weak. So desperate to prove their ‘strength’. Unable to withstand peer pressure. Risking their lives just to flex in the face of a deadly pandemic. But here is what strong men actually do… https://johnpavlovitz.com/2020/08/08/maga-men-are-weak/

New report and toolkit on masculine gender norms, the central role they play in issues such as violence against women & girls and men’s health & wellbeing, and how to engage men and boys in changing them. UK Government. See: https://xyonline.net/content/uk-report-published-engaging-men-and-boys-… @GEOgovuk @the_daily_panda

The ‘Man Box’ scale is designed to measure harmful masculinities among young men. It has construct validity. Study in the US, UK, and Mexico finds higher conformity to stereotypical masculinity is associated with violence perpetration & poor mental health. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0091743520302097 [Plus graphic, Hill, Harmful masculinities among younger men in three countries 2020 – Abstract]

Mapping norms of masculinity: Report on people’s attitudes in Australia, ‘Masculinities and Health’. Shows broad support for progressive understandings: Gender is socially constructed. Support for equality. But also support for regressive messages. See https://www.vichealth.vic.gov.au/-/media/ProgramsandProjects/HealthInequalities/Attachments/VicHealth-Attitudes-to-men-and-masculinity-report-July-2020.pdf 1/5 [Plus graphic, Flood, VicHealth Attitudes to men and masculinity report July 2020 – Cover]

Findings: Widespread agreement that traditional gender stereotypes are limiting and harmful for boys and men. They constrain men & prevent them from living full lives. Let's open up gender roles. Most people agree that progress towards gender equality will be good for men. 2/5

At the same time, when people are offered regressive, anti-feminist messages, substantial numbers agree. Eg., that “Criticising masculinity is unfair because most men are good and decent”. Other data also shows support for anti-feminist notions, pp. 26-30 of the report. 3/5

Young men (aged 16-17) show better attitudes than adult men, but typically more conservative than those of young and adult women. And have the *highest* levels of support for men’s use of violence, homophobia, breadwinner roles, and men’s power and control in relationships. 4/5

The full report is here: https://www.vichealth.vic.gov.au/-/media/ProgramsandProjects/HealthInequalities/Attachments/VicHealth-Attitudes-to-men-and-masculinity-report-July-2020.pdf . @VicHealth
For other materials on masculine norms in Australia and how to shift them, see the links at the bottom of https://xyonline.net/content/unpacking-and-reconstructing-masculine-nor…. 5/5

#MRAs / fathers’ rights groups privilege fathers’ contact with children over children’s safety. Try to discredit victims of violence, telling lies about false allegations. Try to protect perpetrators of domestic and family violence.
Journal article: https://xyonline.net/content/fathers-rights-and-defence-paternal-authority-australia [Plus graphic, Flood, ‘Fathers’ rights’ and the defence of paternal authority – Abstract]

MRAs and fathers’ rights groups try to wind back legal protections for domestic violence victims and sanctions against perpetrators. This is bad for female *and male* victims of domestic violence alike. See pp 339-40 of http://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/Flood%2C%20%27Fathers%27%20rights%27%20and%20defence%20of%20paternal%20authority.pdf [Plus graphic, Flood, ‘Fathers’ rights’ - Protecting perps]

The incel movement is deeply steeped in strong misogyny (women-hating) and traditional patriarchy. Incel-inspired violence is just one part of a larger culture that permits and celebrates sexual violence against women. (May 2021). https://www.healthing.ca/men/violent-incel-culture-is-not-mental-illnes…

The Dilemma of Babies on Airplanes
Hamstrung by the need to ensure that their kids don’t inconvenience anyone else, parents can’t do much parenting at all.
https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/12/parents-flying-with-…

We don’t need an “alternative Andrew Tate.” We need alternatives to Andrew Tate
https://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2023/01/04/we-dont-need-an-alternati…

13 Ways White Male Privilege Shows Up as Early as Elementary School. By Maisha Johnson, 2015. https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/12/early-white-male-privilege/ via @evrydayfeminism

What gay men’s attitudes to masculinity have taught me about womanhood | Matt Cain (2017). https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/nov/09/gay-men-attitude-masculinity-sexuality-women

Men in the military: It’s 2021. Why Are Only Men Required to Register for the Draft? Register women too! Or better yet, replace the military draft with national service open to all. By @RiaTabaccoMar, Director, @ACLU Women’s Rights Project. https://www.thenation.com/article/society/women-draft-registration-cong…

“Actually, Lou, I think it was more than just my being in the right place at the right time. I think it was my being the right race, the right religion, the right sex, the right socioeconomic group, having the right accent, the right clothes, going to the right schools...” [Plus graphic…]

Men on Screen: Over-Represented, Badly Portrayed
Although men are over-represented in media compared to women, they are often portrayed in narrow ways. Restrictive stereotypes of men encourage unhealthy relationships and police definitions of manhood.
https://context.newamerica.org/men-on-screen-over-represented-badly-por…

Violence prevention programs: Should address *both* domestic violence and sexual violence. Move beyond the silos. These forms of violence co-occur, have shared (and distinct) risk and protective factors, & prevention can impact both. See pp191-92 of book: https://xyonline.net/content/new-book-engaging-men-and-boys-violence-pr… [Plus graphic, Flood, Engaging Men and Boys in Violence Prevention 2018 p. 191]

Threatening, frightening, belittling or embarrassing a partner is serious and inexcusable.There’s #NoExcuseForAbusein any relationship.Find out more:www.noexcuseforabuse.org.au @OurWatchAus [Plus graphic, Technological-abuse-poster]

Transforming gender for violence prevention: Valuable 16-page guide to gender-transformative approaches in violence prevention, written for practitioners. By Claire Varley and Stephanie Rich for Women’s Health Victoria, 2019. See https://whv.org.au/resources/whv-publications/towards-gender-transforma… [Plus graphic, Varley, Towards gender transformative change 2019 – Cover]

Attitudes to violence against women: We blame the wrong causes. We excuse domestic violence. We blame the victim. We see women as liars. This has to stop.
Short speech on Australians' attitudes to domestic violence: http://www.xyonline.net/content/australians-attitudes-towards-violence-…

Men’s #violence against women #VAW and men’s violence against other men are closely related. See p. 2 of this journal article in the Lancet: http://www.xyonline.net/content/new-journal-article-work-men-and-boys-changes-social-norms-and-reduction-inequities-gender-r

Violence against women #VAW: Attitudes to violence against women are important as they shape 1) perpetration, 2) responses to victimisation, and 3) others’ responses
Free journal article on attitudes to violence against women, by Flood and Pease: http://www.xyonline.net/content/factors-influencing-influences-violence… [Plus graphic, Flood Pease, Factors influencing]

Inclusive conferences? We can and must do better – here’s how. Alice Chautard reflects on how conferences can be planned to promote diversity of attendance and inclusivity of participation. Presents 10 insights from the best practice guide she developed. https://blogs.lse.ac.uk/impactofsocialsciences/2019/06/06/inclusive-conferences-we-can-and-must-do-better-heres-how/

White people acting in allyship or solidarity with people of color: Basic tactics. Leveraging your resources. Educating and mobilising other white people. “I would be a perfect ally if…” – rejecting tempting excuses for inaction or withdrawal. See https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2020-06/Kivel%2C%20Uproot… [Plus graphics, Kivel, Uprooting Racism - How White People Can Work for Racial Justice (2017) – Cover; Kivel, Uprooting Racism - How White People Can Work for Racial Justice (2017) - Part III Allies TOC]

"All lives matter." "Of course all lives matter. The point of the phrase is that black lives are being treated as expendable by the police and the government that employs them. If someone says "Save the rainforest", you don’t respond, ‘Actually, save ALL forests’, do you?" [Plus graphic, Black lives matter - all lives matter Rainforest]

From porn to true crime stories, we must end the portrayal of violence against women. (Society is full of structures that dehumanise and trivialise women, but we have the power to disrupt them.) https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2021/mar/16/porn-true-crime-violence-against-women

10 Reasons Not To Start An Onlyfans. 1. Screenshots, piracy, leaked images. 2. You will always be asked to do more…& you probably will. 3. Money is hard. 4. There’s a cost to becoming a sexual object. 5. Sexual harassment is a job requirement. 6. Stalkers https://www.iamatreasure.com/blog/only-fans

Sexually violent pornography is being promoted to first-time users of top sites. A comprehensive study by Dr Fiona Vera-Gray and Professor Clare McGlynn of Durham University uncovered worrying levels of access to violent pornography. https://www.thejournal.ie/readme/porn-5431234-May2021/

Don’t be THAT GUY who stands by and says nothing
Have a word. Be a mate and help stop sexual offending before it starts.
Excellent resources from @PoliceScotland: https://that-guy.co.uk/ @ThatGuyScotland #DontBeThatGuy

My life got easier after top surgery. Is this what male privilege looks like?
Since I visibly transitioned, things are better at work, there’s less struggle, and I earn more. It’s clear that inequality is real
https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2020/mar/06/male-privilege-female-top-surgery-workplace

How to prove the gender pay gap to a non-believer
Jamila Rizvi provides an accessible account of some of the factors that shape the gender pay gap.
https://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life-and-relationships/how-to-prove-th…

A feminist and social justice approach to sexual violence prevention: 1) Addresses sexual violence as a social injustice; 2) Addresses the social inequalities at the root of this violence; and 3) Works for change through social action, including community empowerment & liberation

How much do efforts to engage men and boys in violence prevention meet these standards?
Free chapter in PDF here: https://xyonline.net/content/sexual-violence-prevention-men-and-boys-so…

My life got easier after top surgery. Is this what male privilege looks like?
Since I visibly transitioned, things are better at work, there’s less struggle, and I earn more. It’s clear that inequality is real
https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2020/mar/06/male-privilege-female-top-surgery-workplace

How to prove the gender pay gap to a non-believer
Jamila Rizvi provides an accessible account of some of the factors that shape the gender pay gap.
https://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life-and-relationships/how-to-prove-th…

US survey: About 1 in 5 men (22%) say they were criticized during their childhood for not acting like a man or not being masculine enough. Young men are especially likely to report this: 37% of young men say they were criticized for… and 6% of senior men
https://www.americansurveycenter.org/research/march-2022-aps/

Discrimination Against Men: 41% of Americans agree that discrimination against men has become as big a problem as discrimination against women, but most (57%) disagree. About half (48%) of men say discrimination against men is equally prevalent, and about one-third (36%) of women
Young men are more than twice as likely as young women to view discrimination against men and women as equally problematic (52 percent vs. 25 percent).
Survey findings: https://www.americansurveycenter.org/research/march-2022-aps/

“Masculinity” refers to the roles, behaviours and attributes seen as appropriate for boys and men in a given society.
The term “toxic masculinity” names a particular version that is harmful for the men and boys who conform to it and for those around them.
https://theconversation.com/toxic-masculinity-what-does-it-mean-where-d…

Pornography shapes users’ attitudes and behaviours. The longitudinal evidence consistently demonstrates this. Associations between #pornography and sexual attitudes and behaviours are *not* due to ‘selective exposure’. Wright (2021), in PDF here: https://www.dropbox.com/s/eqdyw32d1x3vtf4/Wright%2C%20Pornographic%20So…
[Plus graphic, Wright, Pornographic Socialization as “SelectiveExposure” - Let it Go, Let it Go II 2021 Table 2]

‘Walking into a headwind’ – what it feels like for women building science careers
By Robyn Moore and Meredith Nash
https://theconversation.com/walking-into-a-headwind-what-it-feels-like-for-women-building-science-careers-102259

More Guns Do Not Stop More Crimes, Evidence Shows
More firearms do not keep people safe, hard numbers show. Why do so many Americans believe the opposite?
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/more-guns-do-not-stop-more-crimes-evidence-shows/
(Also see the various studies on guns, violence, and crime summarised here: https://xyonline.net/content/guns-violence-and-masculinity-xy-collection.)

Why the sexual objectification of men isn’t just a bit of fun
By Peter Lucas
https://theconversation.com/why-the-sexual-objectification-of-men-isnt-just-a-bit-of-fun-103145

Sex robots epitomize patriarchy and offer men a solution to the threat of female independence
By Meghan Murphy, 2017
https://www.feministcurrent.com/2017/04/27/sex-robots-epitomize-patriarchy-offer-men-solution-threat-female-independence/ @MeghanEMurphy

All The Arguments You Need: To Convince Doubters of Feminism
By Pallavi Prasad, India, 2019
https://theswaddle.com/arguments-against-feminism-research-data/

Mobilizing misogyny: On the strong links between male supremacism (“men’s rights”), the alt right, and White supremacism.
By Alex Dibranco
Among the pieces collected here: https://xyonline.net/content/mens-rights-collection-accessible-critiques

Sexual Violence Prevention with Men and Boys as a Social Justice Issue
Initiatives engaging men and boys should tackle the social inequalities expressed and sustained by sexual violence, seeking to change patriarchal structures, norms, and practices.
Free: https://xyonline.net/content/sexual-violence-prevention-men-and-boys-social-justice-issue [Plus graphic, Flood, Sexual Violence Prevention with Men and Boys as a Social Justice Issue 2022 Table 1 recommendations]

Boundary setting: some useful sentences
[Plus graphic, Boundary setting]

Porn and violence against women: Viewing internet porn may contribute to real world violence against women through: a) its eroticisation of violent and degrading acts against women, and b) porn’s objectification and dehumanization of women and viewers’ use of moral disengagement. [Plus graphic, Bernstein, Beyond the screen 2021 – Abstract]

Making a Radical Misogynist: How online social engagement with the Manosphere influences traits of radicalization.
This paper explores how online users’ engagement with radical anti-feminist communities facilitates the adoption of extremist ideologies.
https://dl.acm.org/doi/abs/10.1145/3555551 [Plus graphic, Habib, Making a Radical Misogynist 2022 – Abstract]

When men ask more questions—a glimpse of ordinary sexism in the academic world
by Alecia Carter
https://theconversation.com/when-men-ask-more-questions-a-glimpse-of-or…

Gender inequality and violence in Jihadist, Far Right and Male Supremacist Ideologies
Recent cases of terrorist violence by jihadists, far right, & male supremacists share a common, yet underexplored feature – an anti-feminist and even misogynistic agenda
https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/1057610X.2022.2104681

Conservative Men Place More Importance on Being Seen as Masculine
Most Americans say being viewed as masculine or feminine is not an important priority for them. But most conservative men (55%) say it is at least somewhat important, vs 30% of liberal men.
https://www.americansurveycenter.org/research/march-2022-aps/

Engaging men in progress towards gender equality: Government ministries and policy on gender equality should work to increase male allyship for equality. Promote real change in social & gender norms through a gender-transformative approach
https://headlines.menandgendersurvey.org/ @equimundo_org

Who Cares About America’s Male Caregivers? Laying the Groundwork for a National Strategy to Support Fathers.
Proposes a national effort toward greater equality and social justice in the US by focusing on men’s capacity to give care
https://www.equimundo.org/resources/who-cares-about-americas-male-careg… @equimundo_org

Men and Friendship: We’ve Got a Problem
How to make friends as an adult man: six road-tested tactics.
By Max Dickins
@maxdickins
https://medium.com/@maxdickins/mens-friendships-5b9794d36a01

To the Andrew Tate disciples who feel downtrodden by society: straight white men are still winning
While it’s easy to mock these young men, we need everyone on board if we are to fix inequality, writes Zoya Patel
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/jan/02/to-the-andrew-tat…

More men want to be stay-at-home dads and better fathers. Why won’t politicians help them?
Data shows that many are ready to change their own lives and ultimately society. They just need policies to speed that process. By Jeremy Davies
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/jan/02/stay-at-home-dads…

Same-sex attraction: There has been a significant increase in the proportions of secondary school students in Australia who report same-sex attraction. The proportion reporting attraction to both sexes went from from 3.1% in 1997 to 34.8% in 2018. Report: https://opal.latrobe.edu.au/articles/book/National_Survey_of_Australian… [Plus graphic, Fisher, National Survey of Australian Secondary Students and Sexual Health 1992 – 2018 - Trends Over Time 2019 - Same-sex attraction trends]

Exculpatory Chauvinism: a phenomenon in which negative characteristics ascribed to men (e.g., insatiable sex drives, competitiveness, 'natural' aggression) are offered as acceptable justifications of men's dominance over women. [Plus graphic, Exculpatory chauvinism]

12 double standards that still exist for women in the US
https://www.insider.com/women-double-standards-sexism-2018-10 via @thisisinsider

Politics, Sex, and Sexuality: The Growing Gender Divide in American Life
Findings from the March 2022 American Perspectives Survey, including evidence of gender divides in sex and sexuality, porn, politics, friendship, etc.
https://www.americansurveycenter.org/research/march-2022-aps/

Men Who Watch Pornography More Often Feel Lonelier, More Insecure, and Dissatisfied with Their Personal Appearance (than men who watch pornography less often)
Including when controlling for age, ethnicity, gender, marital status, income, and education.
https://www.americansurveycenter.org/research/march-2022-aps/
[Plus graphic, Cox, Politics, Sex, and Sexuality - The Growing Gender Divide in American Life April 2022 – Porn]

Feminism has positive effects, including for women with feminist identities and attitudes. Studies find they have higher levels of psychological wellbeing than other women, including on measures of purpose in life, autonomy, personal growth. Summaries: https://xyonline.net/content/feminism-good-women-response-some-common-m…

Change male academics to create gender parity, universities told
Institutions have long framed gender inequality as a problem with women, and have been ‘strangely silent’ about masculinity in academia, professor argues
October 16, 2020
https://www.timeshighereducation.com/news/change-male-academics-create-gender-parity-universities-told

Men who buy sex and men who sexually assault women: There is an overlap between the two. This article synthesises the research on this, comparing the risk factors for both sex buying and sexual violence. Download at https://www.dropbox.com/s/zr4aqsbfm8ofhgs/Cole%2C%20Purchasers%20and%20Perpetrators%20-%20A%20Theoretical%20Synthesis%20of%20The%20Risk%20Factors%20and%20Implications%20of%20Buying%20Sex%20for%20Sexual%20Violence%202022.pdf?dl=0
[Plus graphic, Cole, Purchasers and Perpetrators - A Theoretical Synthesis of The Risk Factors and Implications of Buying Sex for Sexual Violence 2022 – Abstract]

Men and gender equality: Many children grow up seeing their fathers dominate household decision-making.
On the other hand, care leads to care: Men whose fathers were involved in caregiving are more involved themselves.
https://headlines.menandgendersurvey.org/ @equimundo_org

PARENT European Manual – Promotion, Awareness Raising and Engagement of men in Nurture Transformations
A valuable tool for policy-makers and others working to promote changes in social attitudes and behaviour concerning gender roles in caregiving.
https://parent.ces.uc.pt/resource/parent-european-manual/
[Plus two graphics, Ferreira, PARENT European Manual Promotion, Awareness Raising and Engagement of men in Nurture Transformations 2022 - Father and child]

Why do so many men get away with rape? Police officers, survivors, lawyers and prosecutors on the scandal that shames the justice system
https://theconversation.com/why-do-so-many-men-get-away-with-rape-polic… via @ConversationUK

Suicide prevention for boys and men
The Buoy Project is testing seven different suicide prevention programs that target boys and men. The aim is to find out which programs might be most effective in reducing male suicide.
https://www.health.gov.au/news/suicide-prevention-for-boys-and-men

White Ribbon Australia’s Digital Barber Shop: A resource hub for men and boys who want to prevent men’s violence against women.
Resources on calling men in, parenting, relationships, sex, violence, etc.
https://www.whiteribbon.org.au/Learn-more/Digital-Barber-Shop  @WhiteRibbonAust @WhiteRibbon_UK @WhiteRibbonIRL

Where are men around the world up to when it comes to their attitudes and practices related to gender roles and equality? Check out the 15 headlines from The International Men and Gender Equality Survey: https://headlines.menandgendersurvey.org/ (and download the full report there) @equimundo_org

Men and gender equality: 14 years of data from the International Men and Gender Equality Survey show that inequitable ideas about manhood and gender are alive and well.
Progress to equity is stalled: Younger men rarely have more gender-equitable attitudes than older men. 1/2

Many men support equality in the abstract but defend their privilege and the status quo in practice.
Women and men who grew up seeing gender equality in their households as children hold more equitable attitudes.
https://headlines.menandgendersurvey.org/ @equimundo_org

The year in patriarchy: a dancing PM, an ‘inclusive’ M&M, and lots of protests
By Arwa Mahdawi
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2022/dec/31/the-year-in-patri…

Incels are the new shock troops
Victoria Smith argues that the belief that men have the right to use female bodies in any way they see fit (that men are entitled to female bodies) is in fact a pervasive one, not a niche incel belief.
https://thecritic.co.uk/incels-are-the-new-shock-troops/ @glosswitch

Masculinities 101: Introductions to the research and theory behind the psychology of men and masculinities, from the Society For the Psychological Study of Men and masculinities, American Psychological Association
https://www.division51.net/masculinities101

Greta Thunberg ends year with one of the greatest tweets in history | Rebecca Solnit
Thunberg’s funny exchange is a reminder of the connection between machismo, misogyny and hostility to climate action
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2022/dec/31/greta-thunberg-an…

A more generous embrace: Why addressing the needs of adolescent boys and men is essential to an effective humanitarian response in Cameroon’s North West and South West. WILPF, GenCap and NorCap.
https://www.wilpf.org/mmffp_documents/a-more-generous-embrace/

The Future of Work: Will Remote Work Help or Hinder the Pursuit of Equality?
Report by the Institute for Gender and the Economy (GATE) at the Rotman School of Management, highlighting the doubled-edge sword of working from home. @GenderEconomy
https://www.gendereconomy.org/the-future-of-work/

The Role of Male Allyship in Conscious Leadership and Business
Without the avid support of men, significant progress toward ending gender disparities is unlikely. Here’s how to enroll — and be — male allies.
https://carleyhauck.com/conscious-leadership/the-role-of-male-allyship-…
See also https://xyonline.net/content/men-building-gender-equality-workplace

Increase Women's Economic Empowerment by Transforming the Care Economy
New report, part of the work of the Generation Equality Action Coalition on Economic Justice and Rights, intended to realise economic justice and rights for women and girls
https://forum.generationequality.org/news/increase-womens-economic-empo…

Resources and Support for Adults Who Experienced Sexual Abuse as Children: List from Stop It Now (USA)
https://www.stopitnow.org/ohc-content/resources-and-support-for-adults-…

Finally, women are calling out toxic online dates. Now to target the apps themselves
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2022/dec/28/women-toxic-online-dates-apps-facebook-groups-dating-platforms

‘Faking it for 20, 30 years’: The women trapped in ‘motherhood’ sex (On the common dynamic in heterosexual relationships where men put *their own* sexual needs first and women put *men's* needs first too.)
https://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life-and-relationships/faking-it-for-2…

Tweets in December 2022

Where Men Stand: Men’s roles in ending violence against women
This report explores 4 aspects of men’s relations to violence against women: men's 1) use of VAW, 2) attitudes towards VAW, 3) responses when VAW occurs, and 4) involvement in preventing VAW.
https://xyonline.net/content/where-men-stand-mens-roles-ending-violence… [Plus graphic, Flood, Where Men Stand - Men's roles in ending violence against women 2010 – TOC]

Guys: These girls and young women have 10 things they want you to understand. Most of them have suffered sexual harassment, been groped or assaulted. Don’t be the perp, or the egg-it-on, or the do-nothing. If you’re the do-nothing, speak up
https://mypockets.co.uk/be-that-mate @MyPocketsArts

“The do-nothing becomes the egg-it-on. The egg-it-on becomes the cat-caller. The cat-caller becomes the harasser. The harasser becomes the assaulter. The assaulter becomes the rapist. The rapist becomes the killer.”

Andrew Tate: how the 'manosphere' influencer is selling extreme masculinity to young men
By Associate Professor Robert Lawson
https://theconversation.com/andrew-tate-how-the-manosphere-influencer-i… via @ConversationUK

Why Is It So Hard for Men to Make Close Friends?
American men are stuck in a “friendship recession.” Here’s how to climb out.
https://www.nytimes.com/2022/11/28/well/family/male-friendship-loneline…

The Bias of ‘Professionalism’ Standards
Professionalism has become coded language for white favoritism in workplace practices that more often than not privilege the values of white and Western employees and leave behind people of color.
By Aysa Gray, 2019
https://ssir.org/articles/entry/the_bias_of_professionalism_standards#

Drag Story Hour and Cultural Appropriation
Professor Robert Jensen argues that, beyond a simplistic liberal embrace of diversity or a conservative articulation of traditional values, challenging drag is part of a radical feminist critique.
https://open.substack.com/pub/juliebindel/p/drag-story-hour-and-cultura… @bindelj

Male students walk out on exams to protest 'inhumane' ban on female education
Male students and professors in Afghanistan join calls to allow women to return to classrooms after the Taliban bans women from universities and from working for NGOs.
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2022-12-30/male-students-professors-walk-ou…

Men as allies for ethnic minority women in workplaces: This US report finds that 79% of men say that they are comfortable being an ally for multicultural women at work. But very few actually mentor or sponsor such individuals.
https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2022-12/Working%20Mother%20Research%20Institute%2C%20The%20Status%20of%20Men%20as%20Allies%20for%20Multicultural%20Women%202017.pdf
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54% of multicultural women (African-American, Asian-American, and Latina) agree that there are men in leadership positions at their company who care about their advancement. These women were more engaged, satisfied, more likely to stay, and to have tangible career progress.
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There was a gender gap in perceptions of workplace inequality. Men were more likely than women to see their workplace as inclusive. Many men do not realise the extent to which racial and gender bias hinders multicultural women at work.
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But as this report suggests, men’s allyship can make a tangible difference to ethnic minority women’s participation in and advancement at work. Here are some of the things such women want men to do.
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[Plus graphic, Working Mother Research Institute, The Status of Men as Allies for Multicultural Women 2017 - More effective male allies p.6]

For more on men's positive roles in building workplace gender equality, see the XY collection here: https://xyonline.net/content/men-building-gender-equality-workplace
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The Friendzone is a Sexist Myth. The idea that every “Nice Guy” is owed sex or a romantic relationship by his female friends is ridiculous.  Girls “are not machines that you put kindness coins into until sex falls out.” By Erin Riordan. https://feministsatlarge.wordpress.com/2013/01/30/the-friendzone-is-a-sexist-myth/ @ErinRiordan92

Men who embrace masculine norms of toughness are more likely to feel negative emotional reactions to mask-wearing. The influence of stereotypical masculinity was stronger than political partisanship & other variables. News https://www.susqu.edu/live/news/744-toxic-mask-ulinity-research-ties-ma…. Article https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/politics-and-gender/article/toxic-maskulinity-the-link-between-masculine-toughness-and-affective-reactions-to-mask-wearing-in-the-covid19-era/8753DA181D76C7D59D6712C8F0C666E7   

Andrew Tate: A-Grade Poison. What parents and teachers need to know about his indoctrination of boys
Andrew Tate is lowering girls’ self-esteem and teaching boys to be brutal towards women.
https://www.collectiveshout.org/andrew_tate_a_grade_poison_what_parents… @CollectiveShout

Among men, many simply do not recognise, or indeed defend, existing gender inequalities. Men have been shaped by lifetimes in a gender-unequal world, so that sexism becomes normal, taken-for-granted, and invisible. ‘Men Make a Difference’ report, p15, here: https://xyonline.net/content/men-make-difference-engaging-men-gender-equality-workplace. [Plus graphic, DCA, Men Make a Difference - Full report - Less aware p.15]

The Feminist on Cellblock Y: Documentary film. A convicted male felon builds a feminist movement from behind bars at a prison in Soledad, California. Streaming on CNNgo (CNN, 2018, 1 hour 15). https://edition.cnn.com/videos/us/2018/04/18/the-feminist-on-cellblock-y-doc-orig.cnn

Feminism, freedom of speech, sexual violence, and backlash: This special issue of the journal Atlantis: Critical Studies in Gender, Culture, and Social Justice explores speaking freely and freedom of speech. See https://journals.msvu.ca/index.php/atlantis/issue/view/362

Overall progress in gender inequality has been slowing in recent years. Last 2 decades show substantial progress in education and in health. But gains in other areas have not been as intense, and progress towards gender equality is slowing. @HDRUNDP http://hdr.undp.org/en/2019-report

Progress towards gender equality tends to be faster for basic capabilities and slower or harder for enhanced capabilities (UNDP Human Development Report 2019, p. 149). @HDRUNDP http://hdr.undp.org/en/2019-report

Gender gaps around the world are smallest for basic capabilities, and largest for enhanced capabilities. E.g., political participation: men and women have similar levels of voting. But the higher the power and responsibility, the wider the gender gap. @HDRUNDP

A feminist father’s "Rules for dating my daughter": 1. I don’t make the rules. 2. You don’t make the rules. 3. She makes the rules. 4. Her body, her rules. [Plus graphic, Feminist father - Rules for dating my daughter]

Workplace gender inequality: Cindy Gallop comments, “When I hear women say to me, ‘I don’t want to be hired just because I’m a woman,’ my response is, ‘Get over it. And look around you at all the incompetent men who got hired just because they are men.” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Db79v-SWGFo&feature=youtu.be&t=961

Our Watch’s Equality and Respect in Sport is an initiative that aims to assist national sporting organisations to build their capacity to promote gender equality. Check out its resources and guidelines here: https://sport.ourwatch.org.au/ @OurWatchAus

Workplace diversity: Use “diverse” to describe a group, not a person: “a group can be diverse, but an individual cannot be" - Lori Nishiura Mackenzie and Melissa V. Abad. For people, instead use e.g. “person from an underrepresented group”. https://hbr.org/2021/02/are-your-diversity-efforts-othering-underrepres… @betterallies

If you’re a woman, you can thank a feminist for the fact that you can: Own property. Vote. Have a job. Keep the money you earn. Get a bank loan. Go to university. Use birth control or contraception. Get an abortion. Marry who you want. https://www.schooloffeminism.org/thankafeminist-english @SchoolFeminism 1/2

If you’re a woman, you can thank a feminist for the fact that you can: Run for office. Keep your job if you become pregnant. Be legally protected from sexual harassment. Participate in a professional sport. And so on. . https://www.schooloffeminism.org/thankafeminist-english @SchoolFeminism 2/2

Truths about sexual harassment 1/2. 1) Most SH is comprised of gender harassment – acts that convey offensive, demeaning, or derisive attitudes based on gender or sex. 2) Gender harassment causes harm to work and wellbeing. https://pursuit.unimelb.edu.au/articles/busting-the-myths-about-sexual-harassment [Plus graphic, Cortina, Busting the myths about sexual harassment 2020 Summary]

3) Men are often the victims of SH, involving policing of & attacks on their masculinity. 4) Few victims of SH make formal reports or complaints. False allegations are very rare. 5) Solution to SH is to address the contexts that enable it. Build gender-egalitarian workplaces

12 facts about family violence in Australia. A handy, information-rich video by Domestic Violence Resource Centre Victoria, 2017 (1:54 min long). See https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J7T33JZSrSU&feature=youtu.be @dvrcv

Rough justice: How police are failing survivors of sexual assault. Detailed ABC News account of victims’ reports of sexual assault and what happens, or not, after. Jan/Feb. 2020. https://www.abc.net.au/news/2020-01-28/how-police-are-failing-survivors-of-sexual-assault/11871364?nw=0

Gender and domestic violence: Useful summary of the research on women’s and men’s experiences of domestic violence, showing gender contrasts and asymmetry, in this national report by @ANROWS and @VicHealth, p. 56: http://ncas.anrows.org.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/03/NCAS-report-2018.pdf [Plus graphic, ANROWS, Australians’ attitudes to violence against women and gender equality NCAS Findings 2018 p. 56]

Violence prevention: Must address the risk factors for violent behavior: violence-supportive and sexist norms, gender inequalities, and other social factors. Must address the cultural, collective and institutional underpinnings of violence. See pp192-93 of https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2019-05/Flood%2C%20Engagi… [Plus graphic, Flood, Engaging Men and Boys in Violence Prevention 2018 p. 192 Beyond attitudes]

Who Self-Cares Wins: This report from Global Action for Men’s Health (2019) shows that it’s false that men are self-destructive when it comes to their health. But men’s health is unnecessarily poor. Male gender norms are a key barrier to better self-care. https://gamh.org/who-self-cares-wins/ [Plus graphic, Global Action on Men’s Health, Who Self-Cares Wins 2019 – Cover]

Health, Illness, Men and Masculinities (HIMM): a framework for understanding men’s health. A valuable overview of how gender, the complex of social relations and practices attached to biological sex, influences men’s health and health-related behavior. https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/Evans%2C%20Health%2C%20Il… [Plus graphic, Evans, Health, Illness, Men and Masculinities (HIMM) 2011 – Abstract]

Performative masculinity is making American men sick. Why some American men won’t wear masks… By Alex Abad-Santos, August 10 2020. https://www.vox.com/the-goods/21356150/american-men-wont-wear-masks-cov… via @voxdotcom 1/2

Men are less likely to wear masks than women, and concerns about manliness seem influential. This behaviour reflects masculine norms of toughness and risk-taking, but not *other* masculine norms of self-sacrifice or protectiveness. 2/2

28 reasons it pays to have a #feminist #marriage. 17) You don’t look at each other as a project or someone to “fix.” 20) Phrases like ‘man up’ or ‘don’t be a pussy’ are off limits. 23) You both recognize that paid parental leave is good for everyone. https://www.huffpost.com/entry/feminist-marriage-hell-ya_n_588fa49be4b0522c7d3c43d1

You’re at work and someone makes a sexist joke or comment. What can you say? Here’s a page of practical responses. E.g.: Ask for explanation. State your disagreement. Question the logic. Personalise the issue. State principles and values. And so on. See https://xyonline.net/content/challenging-everyday-sexism

Traditional gendered scripts for sexuality (female passivity, male sexual entitlement etc.) give women a poor deal in sexual relationships with men. Fake orgasms, put up with sexual pain, prioritise their partner’s pleasure over their own, etc. Full paper: https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/Fahs%2C%20The%20Other%20T…

What is feminism? It’s defined by recognition of, and opposition to, patriarchy, a system in which men have power over women. Finlayson steers us away from misreadings of this. Men suffer too under patriarchy, *and* they’re not worse off than women. https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2019-08/Finlayson%2C%20An… [Plus graphic, Finlayson, An introduction to feminism (2016) p. 6]

Speaking publicly about preventing men’s violence against women: This is a useful tool for anyone looking to start conversations about violence or how to answer commonly asked questions. By Women’s Health West, Victoria. https://whwest.org.au/resource/speaking-publicly-about-preventing-mens-violence-against-women/  @whwest [Plus graphic, Women’s Health West, Speaking publicly about preventing men’s violence against women - Curly questions 2015 – Cover]

Working with organisations for violence prevention and gender equality: Effective elements include senior leadership, resources, education, communication for culture change, victim support, reporting processes, and assessment. See Chapter 8 of (free) book: https://xyonline.net/content/new-book-engaging-men-and-boys-violence-pr…

Consent: ‘Enthusiastic consent’ is about making sure that your partner is *genuinely* into having sex. Dr Nerdlove’s piece, among the items on consent here: http://www.xyonline.net/content/consent-xy-collection

Female-perpetrated intimate partner homicide: AIC report. Among incidents where the direction of the violence was stated, women were either the primary victims of male perpetrated abuse or the simultaneous perpetrators & victims of reciprocal violence. https://www.aic.gov.au/publications/sr/sr20 [Plus graphic, Voce, Female perpetrated intimate partner homicide 2020 p. ix]

Different types of gendered abuse: Perpetrators can use a range of other abusive behaviours to manipulate, coerce, control, threaten and harm victims. All forms of abuse can have significant health, social and economic impacts on victims. https://handbook.ourwatch.org.au/resource-topic/key-concepts-in-prevent… @OurWatchAus

Why do some men respond with anger and hostility to women’s sexual rejections? Patriarchal entitlement. Some men feel entitled to women’s attention and affection and respond with rage when this is not offered or withdrawn. https://xyonline.net/content/mens-responses-womens-rejections 1/3

There’s a widespread belief that women *owe men*. Many boys and men are taught that 1) their needs and views come before women’s; 2) Men should be in control, given power and respect, and any challenge to or questioning of this must be met with aggressive retribution. 2/3

Too many boys and men are taught that 3) Men deserve sexual gratification from women. They are entitled to sex, to sexual access to women. In sex and relationships, men often are socialised to disregard women’s boundaries or wear them down. https://xyonline.net/content/mens-responses-womens-rejections 3/3

Violence prevention: What does and doesn’t work? Michau et al.’s invaluable piece in The Lancet has this great table. The full text of the piece is here: https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/Michau%2C%20Prevention%20of%20violence%20against%20women%20and%20girls%20Lancet_0.pdf  #VAW #GBV #DV #IDEVAW #16DaysofActivism2022 [Plus graphic, Michau, Principles for effective programming, Lancet]

Violence prevention: There is an excellent international literature on how best to prevent and reduce men’s violence against women. This XY collection features key international reports & reviews, in full text here: http://www.xyonline.net/content/preventing-violence-against-women-xy-collection  #VAW #GBV #DV #IDEVAW #16DaysOfActivism

Violence against women in Australia: An excellent 22-page primer on violence against women, its causes and impact, and its prevention. https://www.vichealth.vic.gov.au/media-and-resources/publications/violence-against-women-in-australia-research-summary @VicHealth [Plus graphic, VicHealth, Violence Against Women Research Overview 2017 cover]

Family, domestic and sexual violence in Australia - continuing the national story. Useful 162-pp. report by the Australian Institute of Health and Welfare, on extent and nature of DV and SV, responses, impacts, attitudes, and vulnerable populations. https://apo.org.au/node/239821 [Plus graphic, AIHW, Family, domestic and sexual violence in Australia - continuing the national story 2019 – Cover]

7 Reasons So Many Guys Don’t Understand Sexual Consent
A great, accessible account of how our culture socialises sexual coercion: “Forcing Yourself On Women Makes Them Love You”. “Asking Permission Is A Sign Of Weakness”. Etc. By Jason Pargin, 2016. https://www.cracked.com/blog/how-men-are-trained-to-think-sexual-assaul…

Why Do So Many Men Die by Suicide? Gary Barker on the problem, and the gender-transformative solutions (2018). Suicide has multiple drivers or causes, and one set of these is our social ideals of manhood. https://slate.com/human-interest/2018/06/are-we-socializing-men-to-die-by-suicide.html via @slate

What We Know About Masculinity and Sexual and Reproductive Health and Rights (SRHR). Short, useful research brief on the links between masculine norms and practices and sexual and reproductive health. https://www.equimundo.org/what-we-know-about-masculinity-and-sexual-and… @equimundo

Gender inequality in workplaces: useful summary of the sexist and patriarchal processes that sustain gender inequalities in workplaces, p. 7 of “Collaborating with men: Changing workplace culture to be more inclusive for women”. Among the reports here: https://xyonline.net/content/men-building-gender-equality-workplace [Plus graphic, Murray Edwards College, Collaborating with Men - Changing workplace culture FINAL Report 2016 - Here's how it happens p.8]

Workplace gender inequalities: Men’s awareness of these tends to be poorer than women’s. E.g., US research finds that many men are surprised that many women, including those in senior positions, are often interrupted and not heard. Tended to place responsibility with women. 1/2

The Murray Edwards College report “Collaborating with men: Changing workplace culture to be more inclusive for women” explores what men can do to address workplace inequalities, e.g. reverse mentoring, action by leaders, etc. Among the reports here: https://xyonline.net/content/men-building-gender-equality-workplace 2/2 [Plus graphic, Murray Edwards College, Collaborating with Men - Changing workplace culture FINAL Report 2016 - 5 key ways]

Engaging Men and Boys in the Primary Prevention of Sexual Violence: This new book chapter explores sexual violence prevention work with men and boys. It identifies key principles and explores key debates and tensions. Free in PDF at https://xyonline.net/content/engaging-men-and-boys-primary-prevention-sexual-violence-book-chapter @the_daily_panda

Everyone has a role to play in preventing men’s violence against women, including men and boys. @OurWatchAu have released a new guide with practical strategies on engaging men and boys to help stop violence before it starts #MenInFocus https://www.ourwatch.org.au/resource/men-in-focus-practice-guide-addressing-masculinities-and-working-with-men-in-the-prevention-of-mens-violence-against-women/

The real reason why there are so few tradeswomen
The construction, building and maintenance sectors remain resolutely male dominated, which is unsurprising, given sexism is rife in vocational education and training classrooms.
https://www.afr.com/work-and-careers/education/the-real-reason-why-ther…

Take Action For Gender Equality and Respect
A guide to support secondary school aged students to reflect on what gender equality and respect means to them, engage with their peers on gender issues, and take action to create change in their community https://www.inspiro.org.au/blog/take-action-for-gender-equality-respect…

Respectful Relationships Education - A suite of resources for a whole school community approach produced by @OurWatchAus, supporting organisations in the prevention of violence against women.
https://www.ourwatch.org.au/What-We-Do/Respectful-relationships-educati…

High proportions of Australian woman have experienced sexual violence, including 51% of women aged 24-30, as new data from the Australian Longitudinal Study on Women’s Health (ALSWH) documents. See the full report and infographics here: https://www.anrows.org.au/publication/a-life-course-approach-to-determining-the-prevalence-and-impact-of-sexual-violence-in-australia-findings-from-the-australian-longitudinal-study-on-womens-health/ @ANROWS

Voice Male magazine: Check out the new issue of this excellent profeminist magazine, free at https://voicemalemagazine.org/winter-2023-edition/. Articles on the "boy crisis", abortion restrictions, violence against women, myths that 'men are from Mars', and more. @voicemalemag

‘Horrific’: decade-high number of women killed in December demands ‘serious investment’ in prevention
Experts say ‘year after year we see abuse ramp up in December’ and it’s up to men to stop men's violence against women.
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2022/dec/24/horrific-decade-high-nu…

The 16 Days of Activism against Gender-Based Violence: Read about the activities of MenEngage Alliance members and partners this year, focused on transforming patriarchal masculinities and working with men and boys for gender justice. https://menengage.org/fr/stories/engaging-men-and-boys-through-16-days-of-activism-2022/ @MenEngage

Gender inequalities: Men are part of the problem and part of the solution
Gender inequalities are sustained in part by men – by how many men think, by how many men behave, by how men relate to women and how they relate to other men.
https://xyonline.net/content/gender-inequality-men-are-part-problem-and… (Speech)
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Male privilege is personal: most men have acted in sexist ways
I’m a nice guy, right? But in countless ways, like most men, I’ve perpetuated sexism and maintained gender inequalities. Looking back over my life, I can see times when…
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Men benefit from male privilege, whether we want to or not. When I send in my CV with a male name. When I open my mouth in a meeting. When I read the news. Etc. But, this privilege is naturalised and normalised. It’s invisible.
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Men are part of the *solution*. Men have a vital role in building gender equality.
Many men already live in gender-just ways: they respect and care for the women and girls in their lives, and they reject sexist norms of manhood.
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Some men already play a role in fostering gender equality, as public advocates.
Men will benefit from progress towards gender equality. In our health, our relationships and friendships, our workplaces, and our communities.
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There is plenty of work to do to build a more gender-equal culture. And men – men who care for women, men who care for justice and equality, and men who care for the wellbeing of our communities and society – have a vital role to play.
https://xyonline.net/content/gender-inequality-men-are-part-problem-and…
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Men taking action to end sexual harassment: there are at least six barriers to men’s action.
Men: 1) Typically have lower levels of understanding and recognition of sexual harassment than women.
2) May feel that sexual harassment is a “women’s issue”.
https://xyonline.net/content/mens-positive-roles-ending-sexual-harassment-overcoming-barriers-and-taking-action 1/4

Men: 3) May respond with defensiveness and hostility to efforts addressing violence and sexual harassment.
4) Often overestimate other men’s comfort with harassment.
5) Fear others’ reactions to intervention.
6) May lack knowledge of or skills in intervention. 2/4

Each of these barriers to action can be overcome. Increase men’s knowledge of sexual harassment and empathy for victims. Show how harassment and violence are a ‘men’s issue’. Use positive, strengths-based messaging. Show that many other men also oppose sexual harassment. 3/4

Men have vital roles to play in preventing and reducing sexual harassment. First, start with ourselves and our own behaviour. Second, speak up and take action. Third, alongside women, help build safe and respectful workplaces and communities.
https://xyonline.net/content/mens-positive-roles-ending-sexual-harassme… 4/4

Men with more gender-equitable attitudes are less likely to perpetrate violence against women and more likely to support violence prevention efforts. But what shapes such attitudes?
New journal article on influences on men’s gender-equitable attitudes: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/1524838020977140
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This review finds that key facilitators of equitable attitudes included higher levels of education, exposure to gender transformative (feminist) prevention programming, and having parents who held, modeled, and communicated gender-equitable beliefs.
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Key hindrances to gender-equitable attitudes included religiosity, the transition to fatherhood, and having mostly male peer groups.
Implications include the need to engage families both inside and outside of prevention interventions in fostering gender-equitable attitudes. 3/3 [Plus graphic, Casey, Life Course and Socioecological Influences on Gender-Equitable Attitudes Among Men 2020 - Table 2.png]

12 tips for media reporting on sexual harassment
Evidence-based media reporting on sexual harassment can change the attitudes and behaviours that drive violence against women. Handy guide by Our Watch.
https://media.ourwatch.org.au/reporting-violence-against-women/12-tips-… @OurWatchAus #SexualHarassment

There is no ‘war on men’ – we now know feminism is good for boys
A report shows that boys benefit from learning about gender stereotypes and different types of masculinity.
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2022/nov/08/feminists-war-on-… @EverydaySexism
@equimundo_org

South Korea’s misogyny problem | Katharine H.S. Moon
A troubling overview of the misogynistic threats to women and the inadequate legal protections of their bodies and rights in South Korea
https://www.aspistrategist.org.au/south-koreas-misogyny-problem/ via @aspi_org

Inside Ilbe: How South Korea’s angry young men formed a powerful new alt-right movement
https://www.mic.com/articles/184477/inside-ilbe-how-south-koreas-angry-…

It’s time we aligned sexual consent laws across Australia – but this faces formidable challenges
By Professor Jonathan Crowe and Dr Guzyal Hill
https://theconversation.com/its-time-we-aligned-sexual-consent-laws-across-australia-but-this-faces-formidable-challenges-196115
@drjoncrowe @RapeReform

Liver King and the problematic rise of primal manhood
The organ-eating, masculinity influencer has built a powerful brand championing the ancestral lifestyle, but his beliefs promote pseudoscience and harmful gender stereotypes.
https://www.huckmag.com/perspectives/liver-king-and-the-problematic-ris… #LiverKing

Online Anti-Rape Activism: This book, free in PDF, examines the nature, use and scope of online spaces for anti-rape activism. Includes chapters on the history of anti-rape activism, speaking out online, etc.
https://library.oapen.org/handle/20.500.12657/43818 [Plus graphic, Loney-Howes, Online anti-rape activism – Cover]

Male sexual assault of women in prison: A bipartisan Senate investigation has found widespread sexual abuse of women in US prisons by the male wardens, officers and volunteers tasked to protect them
https://www.npr.org/2022/12/14/1142520821/senate-probe-found-some-feder…

Luca's Humanizing Vision of Masculinity
The movie Luca honours the parts of boys' humanity they're often expected to kill off. It is a repudiation of restrictive male socialization, and a celebration of healthy male emotional connection.
https://voicemalemagazine.org/lucas-humanizing-vision-of-masculinity/ @voicemalemag

The Masculinity Paradox: Society has strict rules for men. But society also lets men — especially those with disproportionate power and privileges — get away with pretty much anything. So how can we build healthy masculinities and a more just world? https://medium.com/@promundo/the-masculinity-paradox-a2650a69ff8e

Are we failing the next generation of men?
As a new report finds that more than 1 in 4 boys look for more info about sex through porn, David Challen investigates why relationships and sex education classes are not working.
@David_Challen
https://open.substack.com/pub/davidchallen/p/are-we-failing-the-next-generation

101 Everyday Ways for Men to be Allies to Women. Great list and discussion by Michael Urbina, first published in 2013. Available in Word or PDF among the pieces on what men can do to stop sexism or violence, here: https://xyonline.net/content/what-men-can-do-stop-sexism-and-male-violence

Can early intervention help raise better boys? Inside the effort to curb patriarchal masculinity before it takes root. By Sarah Treleaven. https://broadview.org/toxic-masculinity-boys-programs/

Getting involved in diversity and inclusion is optional. That’s a problem. Corporate America needs to engage white men in powerful positions in diversity and inclusion programs and training, write Julia Taylor Kennedy and Pooja Jain-Link. https://fortune.com/2020/10/05/corporate-diversity-inclusion-programs-training/

Be a Better Ally. How to fight injustice and promote equity in the workplace. By Tsedale M. Melaku, Angie Beeman, David G. Smith and W. Brad Johnson. Educate yourself. Own your privilege. Accept feedback. Become a confidant. https://hbr.org/2020/11/be-a-better-ally 1/2

Be a Better Ally cont’d. Bring diversity to the table. See something, say something. Sponsor marginalised coworkers. Insist on diverse candidates. Build a community of allies. https://hbr.org/2020/11/be-a-better-ally 2/2

What to Do When She Says #MeToo - 6 do’s and dont’s if your daughter confides in you about past sexual abuse. 1) Don’t freak out. 2) Don’t press for details. 3) Don’t blame her. 4) Do thank her for sharing. 5) Do keep the conversation going. 6) Get help. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-new-teen-age/201812/what-do-wh…

Engaging bystanders in sexual violence prevention: Tabachnik’s guide (2009). “Bystanders represent a web of people surrounding a progression of inappropriate behaviors, harassment or violence, including those who make a choice to speak up or intervene...” https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2018-11/Tabachnick%2C%20Engaging%20Bystanders%20in%20Sexual%20Violence%20Prevention%202008.pdf [Plus graphic, Tabachnick, Engaging Bystanders in Sexual Violence Prevention 2008 – Cover]

Respectful relationships education in schools: What does good practice look like? This 40-pp. evidence paper from @OurWatchAus identifies 7 core elements. 1) Address drivers of gender-based violence. 2) Have a long term vision, approach and funding. Etc. https://www.ourwatch.org.au/resource/evidence-paper-respectful-relationships-education-in-schools/ [Plus graphic, Our Watch, Respectful relationships education in schools - Evidence paper 2021 TOC standards]

What Works to Prevent Violence Against Women and Girls Global Programme. World-leading program of review and impact evaluation. Now an extraordinary collection of evidence reviews, reports, toolkits, videos, and curricula, here: https://www.whatworks.co.za/. My fave: the Evidence Hub [Plus graphic, What works to prevent violence – Logo]

Addressing resistance to domestic and family violence responses in CALD communities: New publication from the @ANROWS Culturally and Linguistically Diverse Projects initiative. E.g., on resistance from communities, and service providers, and what to do. https://d2rn9gno7zhxqg.cloudfront.net/wp-content/uploads/2020/04/210934…

No-one should live in fear of abuse.
Let’s all be part of the change. Everyone can do something to challenge the abuse of women and girls.
Excellent UK campaign, with lots of downloadable social media assets, videos, etc.
https://enough.campaign.gov.uk/

The Man Card: White Male Identity Politics from Nixon to Trump
Excellent document on politics, gender, and masculinities, by Jackson Katz. You can watch this documentary free until December 31. Click here: https://offers.mediaed.org/the-man-card @jacksontkatz

Andy Signore was fired after allegations of sexual misconduct. Now, he is using YouTube to attack celebrities who allege that they have been assaulted. https://www.nbcnews.com/tech/internet/andy-signore-popcorned-planet-you… via @nbcnews @andysignore

The Place of Men in Women’s Rights? Accountability Must Be on the Table
https://africanfeminism.com/the-place-of-men-in-womens-rights-accountab…
@AfriFeminists

Ending violence against LGBTQI+ people: global evidence and emerging insights into what works
https://ww2preventvawg.org/evidence-hub/lgbtqi-report-summary-briefing-…

Is no space safe? Working to end gender-based violence in the public sphere
From our homes to the streets, from school to university, and from workplaces to social media, women and LGBTQI+ people are at risk of daily violence.
https://www.alignplatform.org/resource/briefing-is-no-space-safe @ALIGN_Gender

Feminist activism to end gender-based violence in the public sphere
ALIGN’s working paper examines literature from around the world on women’s mobilisation and feminist movements.
https://www.alignplatform.org/resource/report-feminist-activism-end-gbv… @ALIGN_Gender

From allyship to action: how men can step up to end violence against women
Watch or listen to this dialogue with four men who already lead, speak out and design policy against male violence.
https://odi.org/en/events/from-allyship-to-action-how-men-can-step-up-t…

We moved the conversation along from men expressing public outrage to men taking action with suggested steps to foster male solidarity and deeper structural change. With Dr. Jackson Katz, Eusebius McKaiser, Ben Hurst and Steve Reed MP.

5 reasons men should hate the patriarchy too
https://www.ywca.org.au/news/5-reasons-men-should-hate-the-patriarchy-t… @ymca
It shortens men’s lives
It stops men seeking help for health issues
It invalidates their role as parents
It’s detrimental to men who don’t fit “masculine” ideals
It invalidates their experiences of assault

UN to investigate use of ‘parental alienation’ tactic in custody cases
Fears an increase in allegations, particularly against mothers, of deliberately alienating a child against the other parent in domestic abuse cases may put victims at further risk
https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2022/dec/14/un-to-invest…

3 Ways to Advance Gender Equity as We Return to the Office
By David G. Smith & W. Brad Johnson
The return to the workplace offers a unique opportunity for men and male leaders to prioritise gender equity, especially when it comes to work-life commitments
https://hbr.org/2020/06/3-ways-to-advance-gender-equity-as-we-return-to…

Empowering survivors of sexual assault
One of the founders of With You We Can, Sarah Rosenberg, describes the trauma of reporting sexual assault and how her own experience led her to set up the new organisation. 
https://probonoaustralia.com.au/news/2022/12/empowering-survivors-of-se… via @probononews

How can men be good allies for women in the workplace? Excellent tips and discussion by Professor Douglas Wood, focused on medicine but relevant for men in a wide variety of workplaces. Wood’s article is free among the pieces here: https://xyonline.net/content/men-building-gender-equality-workplace #HeForShe #MaleAllies  [Plus graphic, Wood, How can men be good allies for women in surgery 2021 Dos and Don'ts Table 1]

This PSA Switches Its Point of View to Send a Startling Message About Gender-Based Violence
White Ribbon emphasizes the importance of recognition and accountability in its new Public Service Announcement, “I Knew All Along”.
https://www.adweek.com/creativity/this-psa-switches-its-pov-to-send-a-startling-message-about-gender-based-violence/

Male Advocates and Allies: Promoting gender diversity in technology workplaces
An excellent guide by the National Center for Women & Information Technology, for anyone interested in men’s roles in building workplace gender equality.
Ashcraft et al: https://xyonline.net/content/men-building-gender-equality-workplace
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The report identifies the professional and personal experiences that brought men to advocacy for gender equality. And the obstacles that discouraged their participation. It is full of practical examples and real stories of men making change.
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The report explores male advocates’ strategies for change. Listening to women’s stories. Talking to other men. Seeking out ways to recruit women. Increasing the visibility and number of female leaders. Mentoring and sponsoring women.
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Noticing and correcting microinequities and instances of unconscious bias. Establishing accountability metrics for diversity. Etc.
NCWIT's report is a key one for male advocates and allies in workplaces. See Ashcraft et al., here: https://xyonline.net/content/men-building-gender-equality-workplace
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Male allies are helping end gender-based violence in Uganda. These allies were equipped with the skills to act as role models and change agents for other men in their communities. Read More: http://unwo.men/GaAk50LQqCM
@GlobalSpotlight @unwomenuganda

Caregiving dads, breadwinning mums - Transforming gender in work and childcare
This UK report focuses on heterosexual couples with children in which childcare responsibilities are shared equally or assumed primarily by the father.
https://www.nuffieldfoundation.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/Caregivin… @NuffieldFound

'They allow us to name something we know is wrong': The new words defining sexual abuse
From stealthing to downblousing, the coining of specific terms is allowing women around the world to share and critique experiences of abuse
https://www.bbc.com/news/world-latin-america-63811380

Sex and housework: In heterosexual couples with children, when women do more of the household labour than men, they have lower sexual desire, for two reasons: 1) they are more likely to see their partners as dependent on them, and 2) they see the division of labour as unfair
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Implications: Women's sexual desire is constrained by gender inequities. Low desire in women is not located in women, their bodies or minds. Instead, it is a symptom of a broader problem, of inequalities between men and women, including in the division of household labour.
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So if you are a man with a female partner, alongside fairness, decency and respect, here is another reason to share fairly the domestic work and care.
See a journalistic summary of the new study here: https://www.psypost.org/2022/12/when-women-do-more-household-labor-they-see-their-partner-as-a-dependent-and-sexual-desire-dwindles-64497?amp=1
See the academic paper here: https://link.springer.com/content/pdf/10.1007/s10508-022-02397-2.pdf?pdf=button%20sticky

4 Things We Need to Stop Teaching Boys to Avoid Nurturing Their Sexual Entitlement
Boys internalise messages about male sexuality from a very young age. Including the ideas that 1) “real men” have lots of sex and 2) that women exist primarily for sexual purposes. 1/3

4 ways that the patriarchy teaches boys to feel sexually entitled to women and girls:
1. Boys Learn That Male Virginity Is a Burden
Boys are pressured to lose their virginity as fast as possible, and girls are just a means to that end. And to have as much sex as possible.
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2. Boys Learn That Sexually Active Women Don’t Deserve Their Respect
3. Boys Learn That Women Owe Them Sex and That Relationships with Women Are Only Used to Find Sexual Opportunities
4. Boys Learn to View Women as Objects Rather Than People
https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/05/boys-sexual-entitlement/ 3/3

5 ways sexual assault is really about entitlement
Rape isn't caused by drinking. It's fostered by a culture that tells some men they can act with impunity

By Soraya Chemaly, 2013
https://www.salon.com/2013/10/24/5_ways_sexual_assault_is_really_about_entitlement/ @schemaly

New tool for assessing community programs for men and boys
The Working with Men and Boys for Social Justice Assessment Tool aims to provide leaders, designers and facilitators of programs or initiatives for men and boys the opportunity to review and strengthen their work. 1/3

The Tool comprises key aspects that support positive social change in programs designed for men and boys.
The Tool comprises a 56-item checklist on key elements of practice, and produces an assessment of the program’s strengths and weaknesses.
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The Tool is accompanied by a wealth of resources on improving particular aspects of programs.
Access the resource bank here: https://www.crisconsortium.org/masculinities-resource-bank
@amandaMkeddie
Access the Tool at https://www.crisconsortium.org/masculinities-assessment
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I Knew All Along
The White Ribbon’s newest short film follows a dad's anxieties around raising a daughter told through a reflection of his past – that reveals his own problematic behaviour towards women.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s7P6PeL--OQ @whiteribbon

Protection from Sex-based Harassment in Public: A new UK bill proposes to address this harmful behaviour. Read the 24-pp research briefing here: https://researchbriefings.files.parliament.uk/documents/CBP-9691/CBP-9691.pdf. See a summary of the proposed legal changes here: https://commonslibrary.parliament.uk/research-briefings/cbp-9691/

The sex trade is inherently unsafe
Commodifying women’s bodies perpetuates violence
By Karen Ingala Smith
https://thecritic.co.uk/the-sex-trade-is-inherently-unsafe/ @K_IngalaSmith

American boys and men are suffering — and our culture doesn't know how to talk about it
Author Richard Reeves explains why he thinks terms like "toxic masculinity" are "profoundly unhelpful"
https://www.salon.com/2022/09/16/american-boys-and-men-are-suffering-and-our-culture-doesnt-know-how-to-talk-about-it/

Also see my explainer piece on the term ‘toxic masculinity’ and its positives and negatives, here: https://theconversation.com/toxic-masculinity-what-does-it-mean-where-d…

How to be a supportive ally when your child has experienced sexual assault
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2022-11-04/how-to-be-a-supportive-ally-when-your-child-has-experienced-sexu/101603766

In defence of non-conforming kids
Victoria Smith criticises the increasingly common assumption that children who identify with or like things stereotypically associated with the other sex must therefore *be* that sex.
https://thecritic.co.uk/in-defence-of-non-conforming-kids/ @glosswitch

Men: Ask yourself if you really want to be part of the solution to the violence some men perpetrate against women.
https://womensagenda.com.au/latest/ten-years-since-jill-meaghers-sensel… 1/2

"If over half the women you know have suffered harassment, chances are you know a harasser, so call out the sexist guy in your Whatsapp group or stand up for the woman on the train being leered at."
See pages 13-19 of this guide to action for men: http://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/Flood%2C%20Men%20Speak%20U… 2/2

Street harassment to be banned in crackdown, UK government says
https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-politics-63916328            

When it comes to dating advice, why is it always women who must change themselves?
Instead of upskilling women to cope with the harm they risk in dating men, the self-help industry should focus on male behaviour.
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2022-04-30/why-does-dating-advice-asks-wome…

Men overestimate our peers’ sexism. So men who oppose sexism go along with sexist behaviours because they think they’re in the minority. And men who show sexism continue to do so because they believe falsely that they are in the majority. Fabiano, here: https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/Fabiano%2C%20Engaging%20m… [Plus Fabiano graphic]

Sexism: Useful account of different forms of sexism (18pp chapter). Benevolent sexism, e.g., women should be protected and provided for by men, women as “the better sex”. Appears positive, but implies and involve women’s inferiority. Becker, in full here: http://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2018-04/Becker%2C%20Sexism…

Male allies: For men to confront #sexism, they must first recognise it. But men have greater trouble identifying sexism than women. Drury, in full text here: http://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/Drury%2C%20Allies%20against%20sexism%202014.pdf

Five ways to combat sexual harassment, groping and assault at gigs: Here’s an accessible guide to what venue managers, promoters, and music lovers themselves can do. Short article and a 20-page downloadable guide, here: https://www.whiteribbon.org.uk/news/2019/7/5/five-ways-to-combat-sexual-harassment-groping-and-assault-at-gigs

Use proper names for body parts, don’t force hugs: how to protect your kids from in-person sexual abuse. By Divna Haslam, Ben Mathews, and Kerryann Walsh. https://theconversation.com/use-proper-names-for-body-parts-dont-force-… via @ConversationEDU

Work to address violence against women fits into 3 broad approaches that exist along a continuum: primary prevention, secondary prevention (early intervention) and tertiary prevention (response). Here is a handy 1-page explanation: https://safeandequal.org.au/resources/primary-prevention-early-interven… @safe_and_equal

Violence prevention: Community-level strategies are vital. They work at a greater scale than individual- and relationship-level strategies. They shift norms, relations, and inequalities. They bring efforts closer to the ideal that initiatives be comprehensive and engaging. [Plus graphic, Flood, Community-level violence prevention 2 slides]

Pride in Prevention: A guide to primary prevention of family violence in LGBTIQ communities. Launched by Rainbow Victoria, 2020. Seeks to address evidence gaps, strengthen understanding of the drivers of violence, and build expertise. See https://rainbowhealthvic.org.au/news/launch-pride-in-prevention-evidenc… @RainbowHVic

Trauma-Informed Services for Women Subjected to Men’s Violence Must be Single-Sex. “women-only space for women who have been subjected to men’s violence and abuse is something that must be protected by those of us who don’t need it, for those of us who do” https://kareningalasmith.com/2020/07/08/trauma-informed-services-for-wo…

Community activism approaches to shift harmful gender attitudes, roles and social norms: What the elements of effective approaches? This useful review, examining 5 interventions in the Global South, identifies key elements. See https://www.whatworks.co.za/resources/item/693-a-rigorous-global-evidence-review-of-interventions-to-prevent-violence-against-women-and-girls [Plus graphic, Kerr-Wilson, A rigorous global evidence review of interventions to prevent 2020 - Box 8 p30]

Preventing sexual violence through education: What does effective practice in consent education in schools look like? What is the evidence of effectiveness? And, can comprehensive sexuality education contribute to preventing sexual violence? (Yes). See https://xyonline.net/content/best-practice-consent-education

Top Tips for Conducting Gender-Based Violence Awareness Raising Campaigns
On the different types of GBV awareness campaigns, and what to consider when planning, implementing and monitoring them
https://www.sddirect.org.uk/resource/tip-sheet-top-tips-conducting-gbv-…

Family violence can include fire threats and burning. We can do more to protect women
By Heather Douglas and Yvonne Singer
https://theconversation.com/family-violence-can-include-fire-threats-an… @HDouglasLaw

I Knew All Along
Two-thirds of Canadian men say that having a daughter has changed how they feel about the issues women face. In many cases, this is because they know first-hand the way they, or other men, have behaved towards women.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s7P6PeL--OQ @whiteribbon

Male Allyship: How Good Are You (Really)?
On men’s roles as allies building gender equality in workplaces
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/male-allyship-how-good-you-really-halter…

New report: Workplace sexual harassment remains high in Australia. In the last 5 years, 1 in 3 people experienced harassment. Yet reporting rates remain low, with just 18% of people making a complaint.
Learn more in #TimeForRespect report: https://humanrights.gov.au/time-for-respect-2022

Love, Sex and Intimacy: Respect and Safety in Relationships: A booklet for young people, by Engender Equality (Tasmania, 2019). 24 pages, here: https://engenderequality.org.au/uploads/general/Love-Sex-and-Intimacy_Engender-Equality.pdf  [Plus graphic, Engender Equality, Love, Sex and Intimacy - Respect and Safety in Relationships, 2019 – Cover]

Violence prevention: Here is a collection of short, accessible introductions to the field, in full text here: http://www.xyonline.net/content/preventing-violence-against-women-xy-co… #VAW #GBV #DV #IDEVAW #16DaysofActivism2022

Consent: Fantastic series of comics by Alli Kirkham illustrate sexual consent issues with everyday situations. http://www.boredpanda.com/consent-rape-comics-alli-kerkham/

Preventing violence against women: What policies, processes, and structures *should* state and national governments have in place to prevent and reduce domestic and sexual violence? Brilliant “Counting on Change” framework identifies what’s needed https://www.ourwatch.org.au/What-We-Do/Counting-on-change-A-guide-to-prevention-monitorin [Plus graphic, Our Watch, Counting on Change - A guide to prevention monitoring 2017 – Cover]

This Is What A Feminist Dad Looks Like (I’ve had to recognize that Asian men have privileges Asian women just don’t.) By Eugene Hung, June 6 2017. https://www.huffpost.com/entry/this-is-what-a-feminist-dad-looks-like_b… @eughung

Men who want to lead the fight for women’s rights: Yes, it’s important to have male allies. Yes, they can call themselves feminists. No, they should not be in leadership positions. 2pp piece by Ruby Hamad, 2015. https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2020-05/Hamad%2C%20Men%20who%20want%20to%20lead%20the%20fight%20for%20women%27s%20rights%20April%2014%202015.pdf

Young Indian Men Waking Up to Gender Justice: A short profile of the work of The Equal Community Foundation (ECF) with adolescent boys in India. Working on gender equality issues is both exciting and challenging. 2017. https://voicemalemagazine.org/young-indian-men-waking-up-to-gender-just…

Working for gender equality in workplaces: backlash and buy-in. Useful 22-pp report by Male Champions of Change (2018) on responding to challenges. What can drive resistance. How to engage with typical responses. https://malechampionsofchange.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/MCC-CEW-Backlash-and-Buy-in.pdf 1/2

Responses to frequently asked questions, pp13-16. (Will men lose out? Is this the end of meritocracy? Etc.) And examples of organisations building gender equality, dealing with resistance, pp. 17-21. See https://malechampionsofchange.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/MCC-CEW-Backlash-and-Buy-in.pdf 2/2

Violence and sexual assault are fundamentally a ‘men’s issue’, writes Darren Chester, the Federal Member for Gippsland. https://www.theage.com.au/national/victoria/violence-and-sexual-assault… @DarrenChesterMP 1/3

 “we all need to have difficult conversations with other men and boys about what’s acceptable behaviour, understanding the meaning of consent and pushing back on the violent porn industry which gives young men a warped and contaminated perspective of respectful relationships.” 2/3

Violence against women is a men’s issue: I make a similar argument in this piece: http://xyonline.net/content/violence-against-women-mens-issue. 3/3 [Plus graphic, Flood, Violence against women is a men’s issue 2009 - quote.png]

Conformity to aspects of traditional masculinity predicts men’s and boys’ later involvement in various unhealthy behaviours. Such as school misconduct: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11199-020-01147-9; suicidal thoughts: https://bmcpsychiatry.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12888-020-2475-y; and actual suicide deaths: https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapsychiatry/article-abstract/2760513.

Further studies suggest that particular masculine norms are related to *both positive and negative* health. Including for depression (https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1557988318785549) and for wellbeing (https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fmen0000155).

Understanding the Motivations that Drive Men’s and Boys’ Participation in Violent Extremist Groups Requires a Focus on Masculinities (Report, June 2020) https://promundoglobal.org/understanding-the-motivations-that-drive-men… @equimundo_org

How to insult a man. What’s with insults directed at men calling them female, feminine, or gay? By J.J. Vincent, 2019. @GoodMenProject https://link.medium.com/8mfj1GB22db

Politics is in many ways about masculinity. Men, and particularly privileged men, monopolise political leadership. Politics is shaped by masculine norms. Elections involve gendered attacks on and policing of female political leaders and gendered slurs. https://xyonline.net/content/mens-experiences-agents-feminist-change 1/2

Elections often are contests over the performance of particular forms of masculinity. Sexist hostilities and perceived threats to masculinity inform voting. Right-wing political parties and movements draw support from appeals to masculine values. https://xyonline.net/content/mens-experiences-agents-feminist-change 2/2 [Plus graphic, Flood and Ertel, Men’s Experiences as Agents of Feminist Change 2020 – Politics]

BDSM and fetish communities, and their sexualisation and fetishisation of torture and abuse, are implicated in men’s violence against women, says Meghan Murphy http://www.feministcurrent.com/2017/10/10/point-kink-community-take-res… via @FeministCurrent

Men and violence: It seems difficult for some people to hold two ideas simultaneously: most males are not violent, and most violent people are males. Kilmartin on the violence against women that some men perpetrate and what sustains this, 2015 chapter: https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2021-01/Kilmartin%2C%20Me…

How do young Australians see violence against women? (Research shines a light on young Australians’ understanding of sexism, violence and abuse – and highlights that there’s more work to be done.) By Dr Kristin Diemer and Dr Anastasia Powell, May 2019. https://pursuit.unimelb.edu.au/articles/how-do-young-australians-see-vi…

Can men be nice to some women and rape others? Of course. “Just because someone has never sexually assaulted you, it doesn’t mean they’ve never sexually assaulted someone else.” https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/sep/18/brett-kavanaugh-u… 1/3

It’s hard to accept that someone close to you is capable of sexual assault. Because we live in a world in which (1) we are constantly told that women are hysterical and men are rational. Patriarchy pits women against women. 2/3

And it’s a world in which (2) many forms of male predatory behavior are normalized, and rapists are assumed to be monsters who jump out of the shadows, not the ‘good guys’ we know. https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/sep/18/brett-kavanaugh-u… 3/3

‘Man-hating’ comes out of gender inequality. Cross-national research finds that hostility towards men among women is higher in more gender-unequal societies, with greater gender gap in resources, and with higher levels of male hostility towards women. https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/Anderson%2C%20Are%20feminists%20man%20haters%2009.pdf [Plus graphic, Anderson, Are feminists man haters 2009 - p. 218; Anderson, Are feminists man haters 2009 - p. 222 Trad women]

MRA logic: MRAs “completely misattribute the cause of the problem to women’s supposedly nefarious influence in society. No amount of factual information is sufficient to cause an MRA to re-evaluate the belief that women are the root of all suffering” (129) https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2019-09/Poland%2C%20Hater… [Plus graphic, Poland, Haters - Misogynist movements p. 129 Logic]

Keep it real online: New NZ campaign on pornography for parents and caregivers, providing tools and advice to help you ‘keep it real online’ with your children and young people. Addresses online bullying, pornography, grooming, etc. https://www.keepitrealonline.govt.nz/

Why “consent” doesn’t stand a chance against porn culture. By Melinda Tankard Reist. https://www.abc.net.au/religion/consent-education-does-not-stand-a-chan… @MelTankardReist @ABCReligion #Pornography @CollectiveShout

A man asked if he could ‘slap’ and ‘spit on me’ – we need to stop normalising sexual violence against women. (Any argument that this kind of behaviour is ‘uncommon’ appears achingly naive. By Victoria Richards @nakedvix) https://www.independent.co.uk/voices/sexual-violence-choking-dating-app… #Pornography

Male supremacy: Male supremacy is a hateful ideology advocating for the subjugation of women and rigid gender roles.
Southern Poverty Law Center
https://www.splcenter.org/fighting-hate/extremist-files/ideology/male-supremacy

66% of Canadian men say that having a daughter has changed how they feel about the issues women face in society. In many cases, this is because they know first-hand the way they, or other men, have behaved towards women.
https://www.whiteribbon.ca/iknewallalong
@whiteribbon

Patriarchal Violence: Misogyny from the Far Right to the Mainstream
By Lidia Bates, Southern Poverty Law Center
https://www.splcenter.org/news/2021/02/01/patriarchal-violence-misogyny-far-right-mainstream

Raising boys who will respect girls’ and women’s bodily autonomy and rights and never pressure or coerce a girl or women into sex: How do we prevent our sons from becoming rapists?
Short article by Professor Michael Flood, here: https://xyonline.net/content/raising-boys-non-violent-men

How to engage more men in the campaign to end violence against women. Instagram Live chat among Tarang Chawla, Matt Defina (The Man Cave), and Professor Michael Flood, with UN Women Australia CEO, Simone Clarke. 48 minutes.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cmko_eCB92M @UNWomenAust @tarang_chawla

White Men Are the Last Best Hope for Herschel Walker in Georgia Senate Runoff
Jackson Katz on the politics of gender, masculinity, and race at the heart of US political contests
https://msmagazine.com/2022/12/02/white-men-herschel-walker-raphael-warnock-georgia-senate-runoff/ via @msmagazine

From Andrew Tate to Jordan Peterson, a phoney zero-sum-game argument sits at the heart of anti-feminist backlash
By Bethan Iley
https://theconversation.com/from-andrew-tate-to-jordan-peterson-a-phone… via @ConversationUK

How Dobbs Triggered a ‘Vasectomy Revolution’
The US Supreme Court ruling made men more interested in how they can prevent unwanted pregnancies. That’s where ‘the Nutcracker’ comes in.
https://www.politico.com/news/magazine/2022/12/02/how-dobbs-triggered-a-vasectomy-revolution-00070461

Strangulation during sex has been ‘mainstreamed’ but risks brain damage, experts warn https://www.smh.com.au/national/strangulation-during-sex-has-been-mains…
@wtuohy @MareeCrabbe

Gender Recognition Reform Bill (Scotland): The UN Rapporteur on Violence Against Women raises concerns about violent males abusing the process of acquiring a gender certificate and its rights; access to single-sex spaces for female survivors; etc. https://bit.ly/3tUpKCd @UNSRVAW

The Stories the Anti-Abortion Movement Doesn't Want You to Know
The "pro-life" movement is trying to silence doctors, because they know the truth is damning.
By Jill Filipovic
https://jill.substack.com/p/the-stories-the-anti-abortion-movement

Workplace sexual harassment rates aren't getting better. How do we make it stop?
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2022-11-30/workplace-harassment-jenkins-rep… @AusHumanRights

Reclaiming Sinéad O' Connor
Suzanne Moore on her music and her activism and their impact. @suzanne_moore
https://suzannemoore.substack.com/p/reclaiming-sinead-o-connor

World Cup 2022: Men’s soccer must stop silencing activism and allyship
There is a tension around social activism and allyship in men’s soccer — particularly in matters of sex, gender and sexuality.
https://theconversation.com/world-cup-2022-mens-soccer-must-stop-silenc…

The Working with Men and Boys for Social Justice Assessment Tool: Join us on 6 Dec to hear about a new tool supporting programs for boys and men, which evaluates their social and gender justice capacities http://bit.ly/3AheyTP
@CRISconsortium

There is a growing emphasis in the violence prevention field on working with victim-survivors and amplifying their voices and expertise. That’s a good thing. But some initiatives risk increasing victim-survivors’ vulnerability or even exploiting them. 1/7
https://womensagenda.com.au/latest/flood-society-with-help-fullstop-aus…

The Experts by Experience Framework provides principles for domestic and sexual violence services’ collaboration with victim-survivors, such as safety, support, and sustainability: https://safeandequal.org.au/working-in-family-violence/service-responses/experts-by-experience-framework/ @safe_and_equal

Full Stop Australia’s National Survivor Advocate Program involves over 250 people. But the program has a budget of only $50k and one part-time worker. How will it live it up to the Experts by Experience best practice principle of *compensating* victim-survivors for their time?

Will Full Stop Australia’s program be able to meet another principle of best practice in work with victim-survivors, providing adequate support and genuine professional development for the victim-survivors’ involvements in media and advocacy? @FullStopAus

Is Full Stop Australia supportive of existing networks of victim-survivors, notably the Independent Collective of Survivors? @icos_aus

Full Stop Australia was described at the launch as “one of the few organisations” that recognises lived experience, but there are other good initiatives that precede it. E.g., Voices for Change, Our Watch’s program training survivors in media advocacy. Safe and Equal's work. Etc.

Also see Safe and Equal’s excellent resources for working with victim-survivors, and resources for victim-survivor advocates themselves, at https://safeandequal.org.au/resource-library/?_sft_resource_topic=lived-experience @safe_and_equal @hegarty_kelsey

Tweets in November

Masculinity and Violent Extremism: This new book, free in PDF, explores the links between masculinity and violent extremism, including men's attraction to violent extremist movements and terrorism. See https://xyonline.net/content/masculinity-and-violent-extremism @DrJoshuaRoose @moral_psych @SimonCopland

Programmes for boys and men: possibilities for gender transformation
A critical analysis of different programmes for boys and men in relation to their capacity for gender transformation.
https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/09540253.2022.2147670

Fathers’ roles in preventing domestic and sexual violence: New podcast interview with Professor Michael Flood, for the Fathering Project
Web: https://thefatheringproject.org/fathering-channel/podcast-fathers-positive-masculinity-dr-michael-flood/
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/fathering-first-podcast-by-the-fathering-project/id1476486881#episodeGuid=Buzzsprout-11756389
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1KItEyNDUSeOHqc6t6EEgi?si=cfe36958b1ed441c

Beer, sport, men: Inside the ‘Holy Trinity’ of alcohol marketing
Men have traditionally been the common link between sport and booze, but times are changing.
https://www.aljazeera.com/sports/2022/11/19/beer-sport-men-inside-the-holy-trinity-of-marketing

Why Tucker Carlson's 'The End of Men' Is So Disturbing
The "documentary" exposes some uneasy truths. But not the ones he meant to put out there.
https://www.menshealth.com/health/a42026957/tucker-carlson-end-of-men-review/

The concept of class is often avoided in public debate, but it's essential for understanding inequality.
https://theconversation.com/the-concept-of-class-is-often-avoided-in-pu… via @ConversationEDU

Men are in denial about the male fertility crisis – and it’s bad for everyone
Sperm counts have plummeted by 62 per cent since 1973, yet the myth that men can easily have a baby at any age, with any lifestyle, persists
https://inews.co.uk/inews-lifestyle/fertility-crisis-men-problems-denial-1978250

Fetterman, Trump, and a New Model of Blue-Collar Masculinity
Democrats don’t have to cede the politics of masculinity to the GOP.
https://www.politico.com/news/magazine/2022/11/15/john-fetterman-blue-collar-masculinity-00066239

Media Coverage Misses the Gender Issues at the Heart of School Shootings
Guns are woven deeply into cultural narratives about American masculinity. By Jackson Katz @msmagazine
https://msmagazine.com/2022/11/21/media-coverage-of-uvalde-misses-the-g… #GunControlNow #guncontrol

Also see this XY collection on guns, violence, and masculinity: https://xyonline.net/content/guns-violence-and-masculinity-xy-collection.
It explores the links between rates of gun ownership and rates of gun violence, and between guns, violence, and masculinity.

Adopting the Gender Transformative Approach in sexual and reproductive health and rights, and gender-based violence programmes: Toolkit by Rutgers, 2018. A 26-pp resource and guide to support the integration of a gender transformative approach, here: https://rutgers.international/resources/adopting-the-gender-transformative-approach-guide-to-the-theoretical-background/

Anti-sexist jokes can motivate collective action for gender equality. An experimental study finds that exposure to subversive humour against sexism increases men’s and women’s inclination to participate in action to challenge gender inequalities. https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11199-020-01154-w [Plus graphic, Riquelme, Joking for Gender Equality 2020 – Abstract]

Sexist slurs online: Study of 2.9 million tweets in 1 week containing gendered insults (eg bitch, cunt, slut, whore) finds that hostile sexist tweets are strategic: aim to promote traditional beliefs about femininity, eg beauty ideals, and shame victims. https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007%2Fs11199-019-01095-z [Plus graphic, Felmee, Sexist Slurs - Reinforcing Feminine Stereotypes Online 2020 – Abstract]

A Socialist, Feminist, and Transgender Analysis of “Sex Work”. By Esperanza Fonseca. https://medium.com/@bfonseca.e/a-socialist-feminist-and-transgender-ana… “To defend the right of [clients] to buy women to get off... is to argue it is... necessary for a reserve army of proletarian women to exist to serve the desires of men"

Sex and the census - why surveys should not conflate sex and gender identity. Alice Sullivan, Professor of Sociology, on debates over sex and gender. She criticises some ‘postmodern fallacies’ about sex, and notes policy capture and silencing. In full: https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2020-08/Sullivan%2C%20Sex%20and%20the%20census%20-%20why%20surveys%20should%20not%20conflate%20sex%20and%20gender%20identity%202020.pdf [Plus graphic, Sullivan, Sex and the census - why surveys should not conflate sex and gender identity 2020 Abstract]

Sexist social norms: Globally, over 2005 to 2014 there has been progress and backlash in gender attitudes. Some countries show overall progress, while others show regress. UNDP Human Development Report 2019, p. 157. http://hdr.undp.org/en/2019-report @HDRUNDP [Plus graphic, UNDP, Human Development Report 2019 - Figure 4.9]

Sexist biases in attitudes show a gradient: there is less disagreement with basic aspects of gender equality than higher-level dimensions. E.g., on politics, more agreement that women and men can both vote, than that women can make as good political leaders as men. @HDRUNDP [Plus graphic, UNDP, Human Development Report 2019 - Figure 4.11]

‘You have no authority here’: Feminist linguist Deborah Cameron on the Divine Right of men to talk at, about and over women. And the evidence in fact that talk and conversation are dominated by men. https://debuk.wordpress.com/2021/02/06/you-have-no-authority-here/ @wordspinster

Civilian Men Are Trapped in Ukraine
Human rights and humanitarian NGOs should pay attention to Kyiv’s sex-selective martial law. (July 2022)
By Professor Charli Carpenter
https://foreignpolicy.com/2022/07/15/ukraine-war-conscription-martial-l…

How is economic security linked to violence against women and children? Excellent summary of key insights from the Sexual Violence Research Initiative Forum 2022
https://www.ifpri.org/blog/how-economic-security-linked-violence-agains… @svri

The Securitization of Gender: A Primer
A critique of how the Women, Peace and Security (WPS) agenda has moved away from its feminist demilitarization and anti-war roots.
https://theglobalobservatory.org/2022/10/the-securitization-of-gender-a… @WILPF @Peace_Women

Nurturing Care and Men’s Engagement: This new Brief summarizes the benefits of men's engagement in providing nurturing care on outcomes for women, children, and men themselves.
https://nurturing-care.org/engaging-men-in-nurturing-care/ @NurturingCare @equimundo_org

Here’s the tragedy of ‘mateship’ – many men just don’t talk about stuff that really matters. (On men, friendship, and ageing)
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2022/nov/22/heres-the-tragedy…

The masculinity crisis: Three books examine the challenges — from schoolyard to workplace — faced by boys and men as they adapt to their changing status in the modern world.
Review, The Financial Times @FinancialTimes @FT
https://www.ft.com/content/2122af5e-f094-48e8-a9bc-67ca221fbdf1

#MRAs #Mensrights: Represents a pro-sexist, patriarchal backlash. Profoundly wrong about gender, dangerous for women, & limiting for men. Based on a systematic denial of men’s power & privilege & a misdiagnosis of men’s pain. pp. 271- of chapter (2004): http://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/Flood%2C%20Backlash%20-%20…

The health and well-being of men in European countries: Valuable report from the WHO (2018). Traces patterns of health; notes the links between sex, gender, masculinities, and socioeconomic determinants of health; and describes a people-centered response. https://www.euro.who.int/en/publications/abstracts/the-health-and-well-… [Plus graphics, WHO, The health and well-being of men in the WHO European Region 2018 Cover; WHO, The health and well-being of men in the WHO European Region 2018 TOC]

Action on men’s health: Invaluable account of men’s health policy and programming, in this new report by Global Action on Men’s Health. Identifies the limits of existing efforts, wider context, and opportunities for policy. http://gamh.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/From-the-Margins-to-The-Main… @Globalmenhealth

Men’s attitudes towards gender equality show four patterns. 1) Most men are supportive of gender equality. 2) Men’s support is lower than women’s. 3) Young men have better attitudes, generally. 4) Attitudes vary by other factors. Pp. 13-17 of 2015 Chapter: http://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/Engaging%20Men%20in%20Buil… [Plus graphic, Flood, Men and gender equality - Book intro - 4 patterns]

Men’s attitudes towards gender are only one dimension of men’s involvements in gender. Men may respect the women in their lives, but not challenge the broader power structures in society which favour men (Flood book chapter, p. 17 of http://xyonline.net/content/men-and-gender-equality-book-chapter)

Men’s attitudes towards gender equality show 4 patterns. Most men are supportive of equality. Men’s attitudes are worse than women’s. Younger men’s attitudes tend to be better than older. Attitudes vary by ethnicity, education, and region. See pp. 13-17 of http://xyonline.net/content/men-and-gender-equality-book-chapter

Men’s attitudes towards manhood and gender equality vary radically by country. E.g., only 8% of men in Mexico agreed that “To be a man, you need to be tough,” but close to half of men in Brazil and Chile and 86% of men in India. See pp. 14 of book chapter: http://xyonline.net/content/men-and-gender-equality-book-chapter

Men’s support for gender equality can be tokenistic, superficial, or dependent on the domain. See pp 13-17 of chapter at http://xyonline.net/content/men-and-gender-equality-book-chapter. Men’s attitudes towards gender also are shaped by education, marriage, and other factors. See pp. 16-17

Feminist Parenting: Miss Captain America And Employable Barbie. (Raise your kids or smash gender roles? Challenges notwithstanding, there’s no reason you can’t do both, writes Nelly Thomas) Includes good summary of the problems of gender roles. 2017. https://newmatilda.com/2017/06/12/feminist-parenting/

How can women, and men, raise gender-equitable sons? How, for example, can mothers and fathers encourage their sons to grow up to respect girls and women? Here are some some recent and accessible discussions of raising boys: https://xyonline.net/content/raising-feminist-sons-xy-collection

Violence prevention: There is an excellent international literature on how best to prevent and reduce men’s violence against women. This XY collection features key international reports & reviews, in full text here: http://www.xyonline.net/content/preventing-violence-against-women-xy-collection  #VAW #GBV #DV #IDEVAW #16DaysOfActivism

Victims never cause rape. Rapists do. Short skirts never cause rape. Rapists do. Drinking never causes rape. Rapists do. Flirting never causes rape. Rapists do. #Rape #VAW [plus “Victims never cause rape” graphic]

Rape culture: “a complex of beliefs that encourage male sexual aggression and supports violence against women [and girls], a society where violence is seen as sexy and sexuality as violent, and a continuum of threatened violence that ranges from ...” https://www.libertarianism.org/columns/rape-culture-yea-or-nay

Few men will say that they would “rape a woman”. But significant proportions, e.g. 1 in 3, say they would “force a woman to sexual intercourse” if they knew they could get away with it. http://www.newsweek.com/campus-rapists-and-semantics-297463

Men’s sexual harassment of other men and boys: often involves the same motivations as those for SH of women and girls: prove the perpetrators’ and their group’s masculinity, punish those who do not adhere to gender expectations, and uphold gender norms. https://www.stanfordlawreview.org/online/the-masculinity-motivation/ [Plus graphic, McGinley, The Masculinity Motivation 2018 – Title]

Men’s and boys’ harassment of other men and boy is often sexualised, and motivated by “a desire to police the masculinity of the group to assure that its members prove and maintain their own masculinity and that of their affiliates” (106). https://www.stanfordlawreview.org/online/the-masculinity-motivation/ [Plus graphic, McGinley, The Masculinity Motivation 2018 – Title]

Violence against women: Ethnicity and class intersect in shaping men’s perpetration & how this is treated & perceived. White men less likely to be arrested & charged, & their violence less likely to be seen as linked to their ethnicity. Ch 11 in FREE book: https://xyonline.net/content/new-book-engaging-men-and-boys-violence-pr… [Plus graphic, Flood, Engaging Men and Boys in Violence Prevention 2018 p. 353]

Eliminating everyday sexism at work: Useful report from Male Champions of Change (2018) on what everyday sexism looks like, its impact, and what leaders and organisations can do. https://championsofchangecoalition.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/04/We-Se… @champs_change

MRA websites involve hateful & violence-supportive rhetoric. MRAs engage in targetted campaigns of harassment & silencing of women in online spaces. MRAs’ goal: “to harass women into silence [...] and to reinforce [traditional] gender roles” (137). https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2019-09/Poland%2C%20Haters%20-%20Misogynist%20movements.pdf

Most adults are open to the idea of exposing young girls and boys to toys and activities that are typically associated with the other sex (Pew survey, USA 2017). But less support for doing this for boys than for girls. Women more supportive than men. https://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2017/12/05/on-gender-differences-no-consensus-on-nature-vs-nurture/  [Plus graphic, Pew, On Gender Differences No Consensus on Nature vs Nurture 2017 Parenting]

Masculinity: The performance and enactment of masculinity is in front of *other men* in particular. Our manhood is granted by other men. Women may be used as currency in improving our ranking on the masculine social scale. Kimmel’s classic essay (1994). https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2020-05/Kimmel%2C%20Mascu… [Plus graphic, Kimmel, Masculinity as homophobia - Masculinity as homosocial enactment]

Sexual violence prevention: “Prevention programs must therefore address the fundamental role that gender inequity plays in sexual violence, with the goal of shifting social norms surrounding noticing and respecting signs of sexual refusal” (Righi et al., 2021: NP8308) [Plus graphic, Righi, A qualitative analysis of beliefs about sexual consent among high school students 2021 – Title]

Sexual consent and the prevention of sexual aggression: This chapter (in PDF) in the excellent collection “Engaging Boys and Men in Sexual Assault Prevention” provides a valuable overview of the area.
https://www.dropbox.com/s/vtmfymrwobpscyt/Jozkowski%2C%20Sexual%20consent%20and%20the%20prevention%20of%20sexual%20aggression%2C%20in%20Orchowski.pdf?dl=0
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“Initiatives should emphasize deconstructing norms about gender and sexuality that contribute to sexual violence. Specifically, efforts should dispel rape myths, decrease hostile forms of masculinity, and challenge traditional sexually scripted gender roles” (Jozkowski 2022: 227)

Respect at work program in mine training
New Australian-first respect at work program aimed at eliminating disrespectful behaviour in the resources industry developed by Australian Minerals and Energy Skills Alliance (AUSMESA). I was pleased to contribute
https://www.australianmining.com.au/news/respect-at-work-program-cemented-in-mine-training/

Fathers and daughters: what’s the truth behind this unexplored family bond?
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2022/nov/19/fathers-daughter-men-sexist-empathy-women

What does #masculinities have to do with the war in #Ukraine? What does this mean for #gender equality, #Peace and #Security? New article on Masculinities and #Putin’s war in the International Journal of Mens Social & Community Health, by Tim Shand:
http://www.ijmsch.com/index.php/IJMSCH/article/view/84

Women Are Finding Themselves Being Strangled During Sex — The Consequences Can Be Deadly
Your life is in someone else's hands.
https://www.elle.com.au/culture/sexual-choking-strangulation-dangers-26…

Sexual assault and harassment in Australian politics: 18 months ago, after male Liberal Party staffers allegedly perpetrated sexual harassment and assault against young women, there was talk of reforming a boys’ club culture. Has nothing changed? https://theconversation.com/why-a-code-of-conduct-may-not-be-enough-to-…

Domestic violence – “What about the men?” Book chapter, Understanding Men’s Experiences of Domestic Abuse Within a Gender-based Model of Violence. By Nancy Lombard (2013), in full here: https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2020-11/Lombard%2C%20%27What%20about%20the%20men%27%202013.pdf

Masculinity + Sexual Violence: What does research say about the links between masculine norms and sexual violence? Useful outline by @equimundo_org, May 2019. https://medium.com/masc-conversations-on-modern-masculinity/what-we-kno…

“As a woman, I just want the same rights as a rattlesnake.”
Image credit:
@jackiecarbajal
[Plus graphic, As a woman, I want the same rights as a rattlesnake]

You’re at work and someone makes a sexist joke or comment. What can you say? Here’s a page of practical responses. E.g.: Ask for explanation. State your disagreement. Question the logic. Personalise the issue. State principles and values. And so on. See https://xyonline.net/content/challenging-everyday-sexism

Traditional gendered scripts for sexuality (female passivity, male sexual entitlement etc.) give women a poor deal in sexual relationships with men. Fake orgasms, put up with sexual pain, prioritise their partner’s pleasure over their own, etc. Full paper: https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/Fahs%2C%20The%20Other%20T…

Coercive control: A term for when one person in an intimate relationship establishes a pattern of control and domination over their partner
See this discussion, pp. 3-7 of this paper by Shift: The Project to End Domestic Violence, U of Calgary: https://prism.ucalgary.ca/handle/1880/112525 1/5

Coercive control is typically by men against female partners. Individual men exploit wider gender inequalities to establish domination and protect and extend their privileged access to money, sex, leisure time, domestic service, and other benefits. 2/5

Coercive control is a common dynamic of domestic violence, in which: 1. Abuse is ongoing rather than incident-specific. 2. Abuse involves frequent, even routine, but generally low-level assault. 3. Abuse includes a range of tactics in addition to physical force. 3/5

4. Abuse is often subtle and difficult to see. 5. Resulting harms are cumulative.
Perpetrators of coercive control use coercion tactics - using force or threats to compel or discourage particular responses – and control tactics intended to isolate and regulate victims. 4/5

Coercive tactics include violence, and intimidation: including threats, surveillance, and degradation.
Control tactics include deprivation, exploitation, micro-managing a victim’s everyday behaviour, and isolation. 5/5
Paper: https://prism.ucalgary.ca/handle/1880/112525 [Plus graphic, Lee, Building a case for using "Coercive Control" in Alberta Discussion Paper 2020 Tactics]

Handbook: addressing violence and harassment against women in the world of work. UN Women, 2019: This 124pp handbook provides practical guidance and examples of how to prevent and respond to violence and harassment against women in various work settings. http://endvawnow.org/uploads/browser/files/work-handbook-interior-web-r… [Plus graphic, UN Women, Handbook - Addressing violence and harassment against women in the world of work 2019 – Cover]

#MeToo: Lower support for #MeToo among men than women is explained by men’s higher levels of hostile sexism, higher endorsement of rape myths, and lower levels of feminist identification. Study in the USA and Norway, by Kunst et al. (2018). [Plus graphic, Kunst, Sexism, rape myths and feminist identification MeToo 2018 – Abstract]

Strangulation isn’t a fetish. By Anna Fearon. ‘Breath play’ is a polite term used to disguise strangulation, choking and suffocation. The practice is fundamentally unsafe, part of partner violence, and consented to by women for problematic reasons. https://filia.org.uk/news/2020/7/30/strangulation-isnt-a-fetish-1

Rape-supportive attitudes are common in Australia. Far too many Australians doubt victims, believe false accusations of rape are common (they’re RARE, the research shows) and see women as liars and malicious. @ANROWS NCAS survey, p.87 of full report: https://www.anrows.org.au/NCAS/2017/findings/ [Plus graphic, ANROWS, Australians’ attitudes to violence against women and gender equality NCAS Findings 2018 p87 Attitudes distrust]

'Before they hit you, they hit near you'
More than half of Australian small business owners suspect one of their staff members is experiencing domestic violence, but many feel ill-equipped to fix it.
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2022-11-18/small-business-workers-domestic-… @WhiteRibbonAust

Sexual harassment: Excellent, lengthy review of what we know from research about sexual harassment, from the National Academies of Sciences, Engineering, and Medicine, 2018. On prevalence, risk factors, impacts, etc. Free here: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK519455/

Responding to male victims of domestic violence: What are effective and appropriate ways to respond to male victims? This XY collection features resources and guides on this area: https://xyonline.net/content/responding-male-victims-domestic-violence-xy-collection

The Working with Men and Boys for Social Justice Assessment Tool: Join us on 6 Dec to hear about a new tool supporting programs for boys and men, which evaluates their social and gender justice capacities http://bit.ly/3AheyTP @CRISconsortium

As an expert on domestic and sexual violence and its prevention, I have signed on to an open letter in support of Amber Heard. Over 100 of my colleagues have joined me. Please read it here: https://amberopenletter.com
#ExpertsForAmber #IStandwithAmberHeard

Pornography viewing predicts later sexual assault perpetration. In a longitudinal study of US middle and high school students over 3 years, young people who had viewed porn were between 4.2 and 14.4 times more likely to go on to perpetrate sexual assault than other young people. [Plus graphic, Waterman, Prospective Associations Between Pornography Viewing and Sexual Aggression Among Adolescents 2022 – Abstract]

Rebel Wilson and the problem with surrogacy
Julie Bindel argues that surrogacy is inconsistent with feminist and human rights principles.
https://www.spectator.co.uk/article/surrogacy-is-just-another-way-to-turn-womens-bodies-into-profit/

MoveMen: A partnership approach to gender justice work in Belgium
Profile of a project for working with men and boys for gender justice and violence prevention in Belgium
https://menengage.org/stories/movemen-a-partnership-approach-to-gender-justice-work-in-belgium/

Parents underestimate how much their children are exposed to pornography and how much children learn from it.
Parents underestimate both sons’ and daughters’ exposure to and socialisation from pornography, finds US research. Especially their sons'.
https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10508-022-02449-7

Four-fifths of people in Australia agree that “There are things that all men can do to help prevent violence against women.” And very few disagree. (About 80% agree, 16% are unsure, & only 4% disagree.) @VicHealth report on attitudes to masculinity, p.26: https://www.vichealth.vic.gov.au/-/media/ProgramsandProjects/HealthIneq…

All the single ladies
Apparently, the solution to the Liberal Party’s “women problem” is to educate fewer of them.
By Rachel Withers
https://www.themonthly.com.au/the-politics/rachel-withers/2022/11/14/al… @rachelrwithers

Gender and domestic violence: One reason why many studies seemingly show that similar numbers of men and women have suffered DV is because these studies use the Conflict Tactics Scale (CTS), only counting violent acts rather than asking about their impact, meaning, or context 1/3

An Australian study found that CTS-style studies often mistakenly counted as domestic violence behaviours that were undertaken in a light-hearted or non-abusive context. That is, they mistakenly counted behaviours that were playful, unintentional, and so on. 2/3

This ‘over-reporting’ was twice as common among men as women. In fact, one quarter of men’s experiences were overreports (Ackerman, 2016). This may shape the apparent findings of gender symmetry in domestic violence victimisation. Paper here: https://academic.oup.com/bjc/article-abstract/56/4/646/2747208 3/3

‘His intention was to kill my mother, then come for us’
A daughter recalls growing up in the grip of what we now call coercive control, but what she then thought were just her father’s ‘unique’ ways.
https://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life-and-relationships/his-intention-w…

If Your Version of Masculinity Is Incompatible with Humanity… You Might Be Doing It Wrong. Empathy isn’t feminine. It’s human. Connection isn’t sissy. It’s human. Being kind and loving isn’t gay. It’s human. By Michael Kasdan. https://medium.com/equality-includes-you/if-your-version-of-masculinity…

Share the Load: Indian campaign on men sharing the load of domestic and caring work (2016). A father reflects on his daughter’s life and his own. With English sub-titles (2:00 min): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwW0X9f0mME

Promoting healthier masculinities: Here is a wonderful collection of key resources: a framework, a scoping review, a report on attitudes to men and masculinities in Australia, and a messaging guide. @VicHealth Healthier Masculinities project. https://www.vichealth.vic.gov.au/media-and-resources/publications/healthiermasculinities#

Promoting healthier masculinities: Use a message structure of Vision, Barrier, Action. Values-based vision. What stands between us & the vision. (Frame barriers as external to men, to lessen blame & defensiveness.) What must be done, + benefits. @VicHealth https://www.vichealth.vic.gov.au/-/media/ProgramsandProjects/HealthIneq…

Support for Fathers: Good website for fathers, and those who work with fathers, by Relationships Australia, here: https://supportforfathers.com.au/. Includes tools for fathers, list of groups around Australia, and frameworks and guidelines. @relaustvic

Pornography contributes to the attitudes identified as drivers of men’s violence against women: rigid and sexist gender roles, male control of relationships, condoning of violence against women, aggression & disrespect towards women. @OurWatchAus paper: https://www.ourwatch.org.au/resource/pornography-young-people-and-preventing-violence-against-women-background-paper-2020/

Conformity to traditional masculinity is a well-documented risk factor for men’s perpetration of violence against women. The men who perpetrate sexual violence show higher support for patriarchal and gender-inequitable attitudes than other men (#NotAllMen) https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2019-06/Flood%2C%20Men%20and%20the%20Man%20Box%20-%20report%20excerpt.pdf [Plus graphic, Flood, Men and the Man Box - report excerpt p. 50]

Sexual assault prevention tips: Sensible strategies for minimising the risk of rape. E.g.: If you’re in a lift and someone gets in... Carry a whistle if you are worried that… Use the buddy system… [Plus graphic, 10 Top Tips to End Rape]

Non-physical abuse: Many people find it difficult to recognise non-physical forms of partner abuse. Yet this abuse is serious and harmful. New animated videos from @OurWatchAus complement its resource ‘Unpacking Violence’. Valuable for practitioners, here: https://www.ourwatch.org.au/What-We-Do/Unpacking-Violence-A-storytellin… [Plus graphic, Our Watch, Unpacking violence - Videos Aug 2019]

Rape culture & sexual entitlement: “one of the fundamental operating principles of rape culture, rarely articulated but routinely defended, is this: men’s right to sexual intercourse is as important or more important than women’s basic bodily autonomy”. https://longreads.com/2017/10/10/the-horizon-of-desire/

Rape culture: “the social, cultural and structural discourses and practices in which sexual violence is tolerated, accepted, eroticised, minimised and trivialised”. Powell and Henry’s chapter, p. 2, in “Preventing Sexual Violence” (2014), in FULL here: https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2019-11/Henry%2C%20Preventing%20Sexual%20Violence%20%282014%29%20-%20Chap%201.pdf [Plus graphic, Powell and Henry, Preventing sexual violence 2014 p. 2 Rape culture.jpeg]

Pornography: Excellent overview on pornography’s role in shaping sexual attitudes and behaviours, by Hald et al., 35pp., in the APA Handbook of Sexuality and Psychology (2014). Explores models of porn’s influence and the evidence on effects. Download here: https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2020-07/Hald%2C%20Sexuali…

Pornography is one important influence on the sexual socialisation of children and young people. Wright’s review of the research (2014), including a model of media socialisation. In full here: https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2020-07/Wright%2C%20Pornography%20and%20the%20sexual%20socialization%20of%20children%202014.pdf

Pornography, young people and preventing violence against women. Valuable paper by @OurWatchAus on developing an effective response to pornography’s influence on young people’s ideas and attitudes about gender roles and identities, sex and relationships. https://www.ourwatch.org.au/resource/pornography-young-people-and-preve…

Boys, pornography, and sexual violence: A multi-country European study finds that young men who use porn regularly are more likely than other young men to perpetrate sexual violence (Stanley et al. 2018). Survey of 4,564 young people aged 14 to 17 in five European countries. 1/4

Boys were far more likely than girls to regularly watch pornography. Among boys, regularly watching pornography was associated with increased probability of being a perpetrator of sexual coercion. 2/4

Asked if they regularly watched online porn, the following proportions agreed: 44% of boys & 8% of girls in Bulgaria, 59% of boys & 3% of girls in Cyprus, 39% of boys & 3% of girls in England, 44% of boys & 5% of girls in Italy, and 48% of boys & 6% of girls in Norway. 3/4

Boys’ perpetration of sexual coercion was associated with regular viewing of online porn. Boys who regularly watched porn were significantly more likely to hold negative gender attitudes, and these too were associated with sexual coercion. Study: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0886260516633204 4/4

Addressing Masculine Norms to Improve Life Outcomes for Young Black Men: Why We Still Can’t Wait. By Riki Wilchins of TrueChild and Micah Gilmer of Frontline Solutions, for the United Philanthropy Forum, 2016. https://www.unitedphilforum.org/sites/default/files/Young%20Black%20Men%20%26%20Masculinity%20%5BABFE%5D.pdf

Do you work with men or boys in your role as an educator, social worker, community worker, or advocate? I have just updated my online bibliographies on work with men and boys. New sections e.g. on work with fathers, GBT men, men in prison, etc. https://xyonline.net/books/bibliography/14-working-men

“Male Ally Manifesto” – a guideline for men to be better allies and support systems to women. An excerpt from Amber Tamblyn’s book, Era of Ignition: Coming of Age in a Time of Rage and Revolution (2019). https://nowthisnews.com/her/read-part-of-amber-tamblyns-male-ally-manifesto

Men who act in support of feminism may experience a ‘pedestal effect’: disproportionate praise and status and rapid leadership. But they also may encounter understandable distrust and cynicism from feminists and women’s organisations. Chapter, pp. 193-94: https://xyonline.net/content/mens-experiences-agents-feminist-change

Boys’ television: This report finds that male characters on the most popular TV shows for boys are portrayed as aggressive, uncaring, and as hands-off parents; it concludes by providing recommendations for action. https://www.equimundo.org/resources/if-he-can-see-it-will-he-be-it-repr… @equimundo_org @GDIGM [Plus graphic, GDIGM and Promundo, If He Can See It, Will He Be It 2020 - Cover]

Men participating in feminism: Sarah Ditum (2015) argues that if men’s ‘support’ for feminism involves giving up nothing, challenging nothing in themselves or other men, then it’s just patriarchy all over again. https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2020-05/Ditum%2C%20The%20problem%20with%20men%20participating%20in%20feminism%20Oct%2026%202015.pdf

How can women, and men, raise feminist sons? How, for example, can mothers and fathers encourage their sons to grow up to respect girls and women? See here for a range of accessible, free discussions: https://xyonline.net/content/raising-feminist-sons-xy-collection

Violence against women: #Feminist beliefs protect women who’ve experienced abuse. Their feminist beliefs help them to feel less self-blame, greater connections to other women, etc. (Versus the MRA claim that feminism ‘makes women into victims’.) Full text: https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/Gefter%2C%20Feminist%20Be… [Plus graphic, Gefter, Feminist beliefs]

Defining the f word: Murphy’s powerful argument for a meaningful, politicised feminism. Beyond naïve notions of choice and empowerment, and back to feminism as a collective struggle or movement to end patriarchy. https://i-d.vice.com/enuk/article/wj5aww/defining-the-f-word-why-we-need-to-be-radical-with-feminism #feminism #patriarchy

Housework: Women have less satisfaction in relationships, and are more likely to consider divorcing or separating, if they do more housework, or their housework contributions are discredited or under-reported. Ruppaner et al., in full text here: https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2018-03/Ruppanner%2C%20Do… [Plus graphic, Ruppanner, Does Unequal Housework Lead to Divorce 2018 – Abstract]

Men, heed the cost of not hearing women’s voices
By Greg Loughlin and David Adams
https://www.ajc.com/opinion/opinion-men-heed-the-cost-of-not-hearing-wo…

Boys need to talk more about feelings and fight inequality, report says The Global Boyhood Initiative aims to enable adults to raise boys to become men who embrace healthy masculinity
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2022/nov/08/boys-need-to-talk-more-about-feelings-and-fight-inequality-report-says @equimundo_org

Feminism is good for boys: A report shows that boys benefit from learning about gender stereotypes and different types of masculinity
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2022/nov/08/feminists-war-on-… @equimundo_org

Sexual harassment: The vast majority of harassers of women, and most harassers of men, are men. And much harassment is by peers, not superordinates. See this review by the National Academies of Sciences, Engineering, and Medicine, 2018, free here: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK519455/ [Plus graphic, National Academies, Sexual Harassment of Patterns of harassment]

#Violence against women / #VAW: Here is an accessible, well-informed introduction by Redfern and Aune, a chapter in their book “Reclaiming the F Word: The New Feminist Movement” (2010), free among the introductions here: http://www.xyonline.net/content/mens-violence-against-women-some-key-re… #DV #GBV #Rape

“When you approach me in public, you are Schrödinger’s Rapist. You may or may not be a man who would commit rape.” (A guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced) https://renegadeexpressions.com/2013/10/03/schrodingers-rapist-or-a-guy…

#MeToo: The myth of false allegations is widespread. Survey among US adults finds that more than half are *equally* concerned for victimised women and falsely accused men, while one in six are more concerned about falsely accused men. https://morningconsult.com/2018/10/11/a-year-into-metoo-public-worried-about-false-allegations/ [Plus graphic, Morningconsult, A Year Into MeToo Public Worried About False Allegations – Graphic]

Male violence or patriarchal violence? Gary Barker argues, instead of talking about “male violence” or “gender-based violence”, a more useful analytical framework is “patriarchal violence”. Including for men’s violence against men. Free in full text here: https://www.scielo.br/j/sess/a/mrcnkWPr5zPdbQxyKPDFYkm/?format=pdf&lang=en  [Plus graphic, Barker, Male violence or patriarchal violence 2016 - How to de-naturalize ]

Sexual harassment in academia : Has devastating professional and personal effects for the targeted person. *And*, men’s SH can benefit the sexual harassers’ careers and professional success, and that of other men, by systematically undermining women. https://www.dropbox.com/s/19pbqdymv6s5hl5/Mansfield%2C%20It%E2%80%99s%20time%20to%20recognize%20how%20men%E2%80%99s%20careers%20benefit%20from%20sexually%20harassing%20women%202019.pdf?dl=0 [Plus graphic, Mansfield, It’s time to recognize how men’s careers benefit from sexually harassing women 2019 - For one]

The lifetimes of violence women suffer at the hands of (some) men
“A woman abused when she was a little girl, cat-called when she’s walking home from school, groped as a young woman, raped on a first date.. tormented by her husband... assaulted when she moves to aged care.” 1/3

How many men are perpetrating this violence? Clearly, when the prevalence is so high, it can’t just be a few bad men raping, beating, intimidating and demeaning millions of women. 2/3

And before the NotAllMen howling starts up, *no one* is saying all men are violent. What we are saying is too many men are violent.
By Jane Gilmore @JaneTribune 3/3
https://thenewdaily.com.au/news/national/2021/03/31/jane-gilmore-sexual…

Rape: We need to talk about the word ‘rape’: how it’s used, when it’s avoided, and how that both reflects and contributes to a culture of impunity and injustice.
By Deborah Cameron
https://debuk.wordpress.com/2019/10/25/we-need-to-talk-about-rape/ 1/5

Cameron notes “a reluctance to use words which imply violence in cases where the perpetrator used emotional and psychological manipulation rather than force or threats”. But this just repeats the gaslighting which enables this form of abuse to flourish. 2/5

And when adult men sexually abuse adolescent girls, Cameron notes the “portrayal of adult men as the real victims, ensnared and manipulated by predatory teenage girls”. This “is a good example of what the philosopher Kate Manne calls ‘himpathy’..." 3/5

"a good example of what the philosopher Kate Manne calls ‘himpathy’, our socialised tendency to feel a man’s pain more easily and keenly than we would feel a woman’s, and to give him, wherever possible, the benefit of the doubt.” 4/5

We need to stop using, or tolerating, language that makes the reality of rape disappear.
By Deborah Cameron
https://debuk.wordpress.com/2019/10/25/we-need-to-talk-about-rape/ 5/5

Gender lens on the first budget of the Albanese Government: The National Foundation for Australia Women has now released the Gender Lens on the October 2022-23 Budget. You can access the analysis at: https://nfaw.org/uncategorized/gender-lens-on-the-october-2022-23-budget/

Men as allies and activists in building gender equality and ending violence against women: Male allies and programs for men must be accountable to women’s rights activists and women-centered programs. See https://cofemsocialchange.org/feminist-pocketbook/ @TheSVRI @COFEMEVAW @MenEngage [Plus graphic, COFEM, Men as allies – Key points]

Men’s profeminist work: should involve accountability, i.e. working in gender-equitable ways. At three levels: 1) personal: men addressing their own practice; 2) interpersonal; 3) institutional: consultation & collaboration. See pp 92-96 of my FREE book https://xyonline.net/content/new-book-engaging-men-and-boys-violence-prevention

Abortion and reproductive rights in Australia
Access to abortion remains difficult in Australia, and the persistent stigma around this and other crucial reproductive health services puts patients at risk. By Jane Caro. @JaneCaro
https://www.thesaturdaypaper.com.au/life/health/2022/11/05/abortion-and…

My assault shows that toxic masculinity hurts men, too. How can universities shift the culture?
Men also survive campus sexual violence. I struggled. Here are 4 lessons that could inform the effort to illuminate and address The Red Zone.
https://www.publicsource.org/men-masculinity-sexual-violence-rape-assau…

Bad Reputation
Moira Donegan created the “Shitty Media Men” list to address a moral injustice. Stephen Elliott says he’s suing her for the same reason.
By Lila Shapiro @lilapearl
https://nymag.com/intelligencer/article/shitty-media-men-lawsuit-moira-…

Do Violent Homes Make Violent Extremists?
How childhood experiences around domestic violence may be driving terrorism worldwide
https://wwb.org/activity/violent-homes-make-violent-extremists/

Russians are using rape as a weapon of war. What is the world doing for Ukrainian women?
Ukrainian women are being raped, then escaping to countries where abortion is outlawed or curtailed.
By Jill Filipovic
https://jill.substack.com/p/russians-are-using-rape-as-a-weapon

Perpetrator accountability: This was one of the emphases in the speech by Amanda Rishworth, Minister for Social Services, November 3, launching Labor's plan to end violence against women. “making sure that those who choose to use gender-based violence are held accountable for their actions.”

“Accountability, in part, is ensuring victim-survivors are never being held responsible for calling out the violence they face. It’s ending the rhetoric of ‘why didn’t she just leave’ and shifting it to ‘why is he choosing to act in this way?’”

https://ministers.dss.gov.au/speeches/9626

Breaking the [gender] norm: Unleashing Australia’s Economic Potential
New report by Deloitte Access Economics, in partnership with Australians Investing in Women, highlights the role that gender norms play in driving gender gaps in paid and care work.
https://www2.deloitte.com/au/en/pages/economics/articles/breaking-norm-…

Masculinity: podcast interview with Professor Michael Flood, by Emily Wolter, here: https://www.bswithem.com/the-experts/michaelfloodsociologist. Covers the "man box", how to be a good man, whether the conversation around masculinity and femininity is outdated, etc.

Do we need the word ‘woman’ in healthcare?
Should clinicians be using the word ‘woman’ in medical language? Should we omit words such as ‘woman’ or ‘mother’ in favour of ‘gender inclusive’ or ‘gender neutral’ terms?
Sara Dahlen explores the issues: https://pmj.bmj.com/content/97/1150/483
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Dahlen contrasts additive language (where terms inclusive of trans people are added) with gender-neutral language (where terms like “women” are routinely omitted). It seems difficult to justify routine omission of the word woman if some women feel erased or dehumanised by this.

Also, the use of some ‘gender inclusive’ formulations may go against principles of jargon-free communication. Especially because of “widespread lack of knowledge regarding the female reproductive system” 3/10

Dahlen asks “whether gender inclusive linguistic changes could have the unintended consequence of making biological sex conceptually less visible and much more difficult to clearly explain in healthcare and medical education”. 4/10

“Do we need an unambiguous medical word to indicate that uterus-havers, individuals with a cervix and pregnant persons have in common a specific type of reproductive system? In plain language, how should we indicate such persons as biologically distinct from the ..." 5/10

"In plain language, how should we indicate such persons as biologically distinct from the epididymis-owners, prostate-possessors and seminal fluid producers?” 6/10

Dahlen notes the gender asymmetry in attention to language: “Arguably, discussions around gender neutral terminology appear to focus mainly on alteration of female-specific language, rather than amending male-associated words” 7/10

“Retaining scientific terminology specific to biological sex and human reproduction is vital: how else are we to speak of differences between females and males? Respecting and centring individual needs is important: how else are patients going to feel welcome to attend a clinic?"

"Clinical terminology needs to be cognisant of diverse audiences, flexible to different purposes and allow dialogue on local and global levels. Language in healthcare should aim for clear and respectful communication." 9/10

Dahlen concludes, "When it comes to choosing the right words for communication on biology and identity, clinicians need more discussion.” 10/10
https://pmj.bmj.com/content/97/1150/483

Working with men and boys? The MenEngage Alliance, an international network of 900+ organisations engaging men and boys in positive change, offers some excellent guiding principles for this work. See https://menengage.org/about/core-principles/ @MenEngage

Young men’s views of societal expectations of manhood: They say they’re expected as men to be tough, be the primary income earner, & never say no to sex. But most reject the ideas that they should shun care & domestic work, or use violence to get respect. https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2019-06/Flood%2C%20Men%20… [Plus graphic, Flood, Men and the Man Box - report excerpt p. 47 Ideals]

Key insights from masculinities scholarship 1/2, in chapter by Nancy Dowd: 1. Men are not universal or undifferentiated. 2. Men pay a price for privilege. 3. Intersections of manhood particularly with […] may entirely trump male gender privilege. Chapter: https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2019-11/Dowd%2C%20The%20M… [Plus graphic, Dowd, The Man Question (2010), pp. 57-65]

Key insights on masculinities scholarship 2/2: 4. Masculinity is a social construction. 5. One masculinity norm dominates multiple masculinities. 7. The two most common pieces defining masculinity are not to be like a woman and not to be gay. Etc. Chapter: https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2019-11/Dowd%2C%20The%20M… [Plus graphic, Dowd, The Man Question (2010), pp. 57-65]

Men’s health at work: Masculine norms e.g. about being a ‘tough’ worker mean some men return to work too early, don’t report safety issues, don’t disclose injury, and don’t ask for support. Stergiou-Kita et al. 2016, here: http://xyonline.net/content/male-injuries-and-deaths-work-xy-collection [Plus graphic, Stergiou-Kita, What’s gender got to do with it 2016 – Abstract]

Young Men Who Support Reproductive Justice Need to Get Out and Vote [in the US midterm elections]
Will men defy the polls and pundits, and vote as an act of solidarity with the women they love, respect and support?
By Jackson Katz.
https://msmagazine.com/2022/11/01/men-abortion-economy-voters-midterms @msmagazine

Also see this XY collection on the role that men can play in supporting women's reproductive health rights: https://xyonline.net/content/men-abortion-and-sexual-and-reproductive-rights-xy-collection

Not all men harass. But most women are preyed upon
By S. Elizabeth Randsell
October 26, 2022
https://www.alternet.org/2022/10/nearly-all-women-preyed-upon/
(Also see this XY collection of critiques of "Not all men": https://xyonline.net/content/engaging-men-violence-prevention-key-resou….)

The attack on Paul Pelosi should be a moment of national reckoning
Rightwing extremism is a much more significant problem than leftwing radicalism. By Jill Filipovic
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2022/nov/01/paul-pelosi-attack-rightwing-violence-national-reckoning?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other

"the fetishization of deadly weapons; violence against women that goes unpunished by the party and its supporters; the kind of troubling conspiracy theories that are catnip for crazies and that demand extreme action in response; and the fantasizing about murdering one’s..."

Hockey Canada scandal about sexual assault allegations highlights toxic masculinity in sports
https://theconversation.com/hockey-canada-scandal-highlights-toxic-masculinity-in-sports-192712
@DrMichaelKehler @DrKnottFayle @ConversationCA

Why staying safe while running isn’t just a woman’s problem. https://www.abc.net.au/news/2020-12-13/safe-running-not-just-womans-problem-health-fitness-harassment/12920250 1/2

Men who want to increase women runners’ safety: Don’t assault or harass women. Give women space on the paths. Avoid derogatory or sexual comments. Intervene in other men’s sexist and sleazy comments and behaviour. Support women’s rights to take up public space safely & freely 2/2

Much of the work engaging men in ending violence against women is profeminist – informed by feminism and done by or in collaboration with women and women’s organisations. But *which* feminism should profeminist men support? Journal article full text here: https://rdcu.be/bgbsZ [Plus graphic, Burrell Flood, Which Feminism - Dilemmas in Profeminist Men’s Praxis 2019 – Abstract]

Re-shaping attitudes toolkit: Excellent resource for violence prevention advocates and educators on using data on community attitudes for prevention, evaluation, media work, responding to backlash, etc. See https://www.respectvictoria.vic.gov.au/national-community-attitudes-vio…. Developed by @Respect__Vic @ANROWS @VicHealth

Ill-informed consent: How piecemeal relationship and sexuality education is failing our school children. By Bri Lee, May 2021. https://www.themonthly.com.au/issue/2021/may/1619791200/bri-lee/ill-inf… @bri_lee_writer

The sexual harassment inquiry report is revolutionary. Kristine Ziwica on the Australian Human Rights Commission’s Sexual Harassment Inquiry, Respect@Work, March 2020. https://womensagenda.com.au/latest/the-sexual-harassment-inquiry-report… @KZiwica

Pornography: one in eight titles shown to first-time users on the first page of mainstream porn sites describe sexual activity that constitutes sexual violence. New study of the 3 most popular UK porn websites, in the British Journal of Criminology. https://academic.oup.com/bjc/advance-article/doi/10.1093/bjc/azab035/6208896 [Plus graphic, Vera-Gray, Sexual violence as a sexual script in mainstream online pornography 2021]

Why doesn’t porn ever get cancelled? The industry has been remarkably adept at positioning itself as beyond questions of morality. By Sarah Ditum, 2020. https://unherd.com/2020/06/why-doesnt-porn-ever-get-cancelled/ 1/3

Things that "would be instant cancellation offences in any other medium are granted licence in porn because someone, somewhere got an erection from them.” If someone somewhere finds it sexually arousing, then it gets a free pass from ethical or political scrutiny / assessment 2/3

So-called ethical porn “doesn’t matter. It makes up such a tiny proportion of the industry, it’s like putting a chicken in your back garden and claiming you’ve fixed factory farming.” https://unherd.com/2020/06/why-doesnt-porn-ever-get-cancelled/ 3/3

Should we reconsider how we counsel young men about vasectomy
Healthy Male, October 2022
https://www.healthymale.org.au/news/should-we-reconsider-how-we-counsel-young-men-about-vasectomy

To all the young men rejecting the new ‘king of toxic masculinity’, thank you
By Wendy Tuohy
https://www.smh.com.au/national/to-all-the-young-men-rejecting-the-new-king-of-toxic-masculinity-thank-you-20220818-p5baw6.html

Men are embracing ‘positive masculinity’ and say it’s working – despite the backlash
By Wendy Tuohy
https://www.theage.com.au/national/men-are-embracing-positive-masculinity-and-say-its-working-despite-the-backlash-20221026-p5bt1k.html
@MichaelGLFlood @zacseidler @ColeenMacK_AUS @DavidLeser @rob_sturrock @Matt_B_Tyler

Andrew Tate: how the 'manosphere' influencer is selling extreme masculinity to young men, and what can be done about it
By Associate Professor Robert Lawson

https://theconversation.com/andrew-tate-how-the-manosphere-influencer-is-selling-extreme-masculinity-to-young-men-192564

Sexual assaults going unreported as victims fear they will be blamed
Otago Daily Times, New Zealand
https://www.odt.co.nz/news/national/sexual-assaults-going-unreported-vi…

Experts fear rising global ‘incel’ culture could provoke terrorism
Almost 1,000 references to misogyny and violent action are recorded each day on dedicated incel forums
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2022/oct/30/global-incel-culture-te…

Myth-busting male contraceptives for health professionals
Healthy Male, October 2022
https://www.healthymale.org.au/news/myth-busting-male-contraceptives-health-professionals

Engaging men in violence prevention: I rarely say this, but here is a genuinely innovative set of materials. 7 evidence reviews, on: calling men in, community justice, data science, virtual reality, bystanders, nudges, fatherhood, social norms. All at: https://preventdomesticviolence.ca/category/men-and-boys/

Tweets in September - October 2022

Busting the myth of victimisation
There’s a harmful stigma attached to ‘being a victim’ that even today, shadows survivors of domestic, family, and sexual violence. Interview with Lula Dembele
https://wesnet.org.au/busting-the-myth-of-victimisation-with-lula-dembe… @DLulabele

Calling all men: this is what we can do to help women feel safe exercising in the dark
We have to break the cycle of misogyny that makes women feel at risk: This Girl Can’s guide sets out steps you can take
By Chris Boardman
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2022/oct/30/women-safe-exercise-in-the-dark

For plenty more on what men can do to minimise the threat we pose to women and girls and the harms we may cause or condone, see http://xyonline.net/content/what-men-can-do-stop-sexism-and-male-violence

It is time to bring the lived expertise of victim-survivors to the centre of work to end domestic and sexual violence. A powerful speech by Lula Dembele at the launch of the National Plan to End Violence Against Women and Children 2022-32
https://www.illawarramercury.com.au/story/7960431/focus-on-perpetrators…
(Text below)
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There must be a clear focus on reducing the perpetration of gendered violence. Until we understand that perpetration of domestic, family and sexual violence is the problem we are trying to solve, we will continue to burden victims as responsible. @DLulabele
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Men have a 'powerful role' in stopping violence against women and it starts with 'calling out their mates'
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2022-10-29/stopping-violence-against-women-how-men-can-make-a-difference/101551370

The latest research, programming, and policy on sexual violence, domestic violence, and child abuse: All the presentations from the SVRI Forum 2022, a world-leading conference held recently in Mexico, now are up online: https://www.svriforum2022.org/conference-programme/ @TheSVRI

What the UK ratifying the Istanbul convention on gendered violence means for women and girls
https://theconversation.com/what-the-uk-ratifying-the-istanbul-conventi… via @ConversationUK

What happened at the 2022 Men Challenging Sexism (UK) conference:
Here’s a report on the #MenChallengingSexism conference. Discussions of housework, porn, male violence against women, support for feminist activism, and more.
https://xyonline.net/content/what-happened-men-challenging-sexism-confe… @MenVSexism
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I’m delighted to see this grassroots, pro-feminist men’s activism. It reminds me of Men Against Sexual Assault, the network of grassroots men’s anti-violence groups active in Australia over 1989-1993. MASA begun in Melbourne, and in 1990 400 men marched in the streets there.
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We organised rallies, ran workshops in schools, supported feminist events, had 3 or so national gatherings, and more. (Here’s a speech I gave in 1993: https://xyonline.net/content/men-masculinity-and-violence-speech-1993)
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I continue firmly to believe that mobilising men is a key violence prevention strategy. A key means of both personal and collective change.
As I said at a DV Conference, “We have to get men into grassroots men’s groups, on the streets, and in coalitions and networks."
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"We need men doing the work – not just up the front here, holding the microphone, but making the lamingtons and typing the minutes. And yes, we need stroppy activist movements, making noise and trouble and change.”
https://xyonline.net/content/mobilising-men-build-gender-justice-strategies-effective-movement-building
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Engaging men and boys in preventing violence against women: The latest ten-year National Plan from the Australian Government shows an increased emphasis on engaging men and boys in prevention. Under prevention, this is one of the 8 focus areas for action.
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The National Plan states, “Support men and boys in developing healthy masculinities and positive, supportive relationships with their male peers.” (107)
See the full plan at https://www.dss.gov.au/women-programs-services-reducing-violence/the-national-plan-to-end-violence-against-women-and-children-2022-2032
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The national violence prevention framework “Change the Story” (2021) makes the case for shifting patriarchal masculinities as part of prevention. See e.g. pp. 31-33 on the relationship between masculinity and violence against women. Framework here: https://media-cdn.ourwatch.org.au/wp-content/uploads/sites/2/2021/11/18101814/Change-the-story-Our-Watch-AA.pdf
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See pp.34- on the gendered drivers of violence against women, including e.g. driver 3, “Rigid gender stereotyping and dominant forms of masculinity”, and driver 4, “Male peer relations and cultures of masculinity that emphasise aggression, dominance and control”, and pp.41-45
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In turn, supporting men and boys to develop healthy masculinities is a key prevention action. See p. 60 and 63 of Change the Story on 8 essential actions, including action 4.
https://media-cdn.ourwatch.org.au/wp-content/uploads/sites/2/2021/11/18… @OurWatchAus
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And for a wealth of free resources on engaging men and boys in violence prevention (guides, readings, speeches, manuals, discussions of key debates, bibliographies, my (free) book, etc.), see here: http://www.xyonline.net/content/violence-walking-tour-some-xy%E2%80%99s…
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How We Raise Our Boys Is Key To A Gender Equal Future: Three Leading Advocates Weigh In
https://www.forbes.com/sites/marianneschnall/2022/10/14/how-we-raise-our-boys-is-key-to-a-gender-equal-future-three-leading-advocates-weigh-in/?sh=59e82e3648f6

Get all the latest news & information on Domestic Violence-Informed training delivered by DART Group Australia, a leading specialist team of FDV, sexual violence & practice experts. Go to: https://www.dartgroupaustralia.com.au/training for further details on dates & how to book.

The Republican Party (USA) celebrates conservative male impunity. It will happily endorse men who are profoundly immoral, violent and abusive towards women, serial liars, and strikingly stupid. While attacking and criminalising women.
@JillFilipovic https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2022/oct/27/herschel-walker-worst-candidate-republicans
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Republican men "can be proudly incompetent, self-defined imbeciles, moral degenerates and violent misogynists, and they don’t risk their party’s support or conservatives’ ballots". They can force women into abortions while claiming to be anti-abortion. Lie. Cheat. Steal. Etc.
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The "conservative ethos isn’t about any real attachment to family values, moral uprightness, or fetal life, but rather a return to a traditional gender order where men dominate political, social and economic life, and women are financially and socially dependent on them".
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Gender: The basics – A handy book-length introduction to gender, from Professor Hilary Lips (2013), free at: https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2019-08/Lips%2C%20Gender%20-%20The%20Basics%20%282013%29.pdf [Plus graphic, Lips, Gender - The Basics (2013) TOC; Lips, Gender - The Basics (2013) Cover]

Handbook on Resistance to Gender Equality in Academia: This 56-pp handbook focuses on the causes, forms and symptoms of resistance to gender-sensitive implementations. Offers recommendations on different ways of dealing with resistance. See https://www.festa-europa.eu/public/handbook-resistance-gender-equality-academia

Challenging patriarchy: gender equality and humanitarian principles. By Ricardo Fal-Dutra Santos, July 2019. Argues that challenging patriarchy is not only in line with, but also an essential component of, principled humanitarian action. https://blogs.icrc.org/law-and-policy/2019/07/18/gender-equality-humanitarian-principles/

Gender and modesty: Insightful commentary by Deborah Cameron. The gender respect gap, includes the withholding of professional and respect titles from women. The long tradition that a ‘good’ woman should be modest. https://debuk.wordpress.com/2018/06/20/immodesty-becomes-her/ #immodestwomen

Housework: Who Did, Does or Will Do It, and How Much Does It Matter? Fascinating, detailed account of shifts and stabilities in men’s and women’s shares of household labour in the US and elsewhere: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4242525/

In dealing with abuse, family courts are biased towards fathers and against mothers. Study of US cases finds that mothers who alleged fathers’ abuse of children often lost custody to fathers, and far more often than when they alleged partner violence. https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2020-05/Meier%2C%20Mappin… 1/2 [Plus graphic, Meier, Mapping Gender - Shedding Empirical Light on Family Courts’ Treatment 2017 p. 331]

Family courts are biased against mothers and towards fathers. Study of US cases finds that fathers who alleged alienation were more than twice as likely as mothers to get custody. Even mothers proving fathers’ child abuse didn’t change court outcomes. https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2020-05/Meier%2C%20Mappin… 2/2 [Plus graphic, Meier, Mapping Gender - Shedding Empirical Light on Family Courts’ Treatment 2017 p. 331]

A statement from victim-survivors
“It is time to transform our pain into action. There can be no more excuses – that it is too hard, we don’t know what to do, it’s too complex."
The powerful opening statement to The National Plan to End Violence against Women and Children. 1/3

"It is everyone’s responsibility to end the perpetration of violence against women and children, and all victims of gendered violence.” 2/3
@icos_aus

"Abuse and violence is a problem for victims, but it is not the victims’ problem. .. We must stop protecting perpetrators with our silence, and through inaction. We must be willing to sit in discomfort. It is time to be brave.” 3/3
https://www.dss.gov.au/women-programs-services-reducing-violence/the-na…

Who is responsible for unwanted pregnancies? Men, a new book argues.
Gabrielle Stanley Blair’s book boldly reframes the abortion debate. The title says it all: ‘Ejaculate Responsibly.’
https://www.washingtonpost.com/books/2022/10/19/ejaculate-responsibly-b…

Virtue school for men: big city push to make Chinese men better fathers and partners after backlash against courses teaching women to be obedient
https://www.scmp.com/news/people-culture/gender-diversity/article/31966…

The old budget paradigm has been bulldozed — women's policies are now in the main game
By Patricia Karvelas.
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2022-10-26/womens-federal-budget-statement-…

Men must prioritise flexibility as highly as women if we’re to achieve true workplace equality
Tarla Lambert, October 17, 2022
https://womensagenda.com.au/partner-content/men-must-prioritise-flexibi…

The Australian Government's new plan to end violence against women is ambitious and intersectional but lacks detail.
https://www.themandarin.com.au/202781-plan-to-end-violence-against-wome… via @TheMandarinAU

How should feminism be defined? I learned of a new feminist group this year, in which feminism was defined as the belief that people of all genders should have equal rights and opportunities. As aimed at equal rights for all genders. I'm troubled by these. 1/7

This definition removes from feminism any specific attention to *women’s oppression or subordination*. It would be like saying about anti-racism that it is 'the belief that people of all ethnicities/races deserve to have equal rights and opportunities'. 2/7

It would be like saying that anti-racism is about 'seeking equal rights for people of all ethnicities'. Can you see the problem here? There are much more feminist definitions of feminism out there, that do not omit or put aside questions of inequalities between women and men. 3/7

For example, in Hannam’s book Feminism (2006), feminism is defined by: 1) a recognition of an imbalance of power, with women subordinate to men; 2) a belief that gender inequalities are social in origin, & can be changed; & 3) an emphasis on women’s autonomy and empowerment. 4/7

Putting this more simply, feminism is defined by the key ideas that women’s social conditions are unfair, socially constructed, and thus open to change. (Hannam's book is here: https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2021-03/Hannam%2C%20Femin….) 5/7

Similarly, in her book An introduction to feminism (2016, p. 6), Finlayson emphasises that feminism is defined by recognition of, and opposition to, patriarchy, a system in which men have power over women. (See https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2019-08/Finlayson%2C%20An….) 6/7

And then there is famous black American feminism bell hooks. She writes that “Feminism is a struggle to end sexist oppression”. See her book Feminist Theory: From margin to centre (1984): https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2021-12/hooks%2C%20Femini… 7/7

Men who identify as feminists are having more — and more varied — sex. New Canadian research. https://www.insider.com/men-who-identify-as-feminists-are-having-more-v… via @thisisinsider

How to become a Feminist dad. Most parenting and pregnancy guidance is targeted at women. Gender specialist Sebastian Molano tells us the lessons he has learned as a new father. By Sebastian Molano, 2018. https://medium.com/words-in-the-bucket/how-to-become-a-feminist-dad-25688740c9f5  

Why Gender Equality Is Good for Men's Health and Why This Matters Now
A nice three-page account, with citations, of how gender equality is good for men and men’s health. By Tania King and Karla Elliott.
https://www.ajpmonline.org/article/S0749-3797(21)00086-6/fulltext @Karla_Elliott

The killings and disappearances of Indigenous women across Australia is a crisis hidden in plain sight - ABC News
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2022-10-24/murdered-and-missing-indigenous-women-four-corners/101546186

Let’s mobilise men to end violence against women. Because: 1) Most of the work is done by women, and that’s not fair. 2) More men means more energy, resources, and wider networks. 3) Mobilisation is one way to change men themselves - men often change through advocacy. 1/2

4) Mobilising men will build help to build the movements and networks which can advocate for social change and hold governments and other institutions to account. See this FREE book, p.388: https://xyonline.net/content/new-book-engaging-men-and-boys-violence-pr… 2/2 [Plus graphic, Flood, Engaging Men and Boys in Violence Prevention 2018 p. 388 Mobilising]

Domestic Violence Prevention and Intervention in Fatherhood Programs: A useful 15-pp brief for practitioners on how fatherhood programs can help prevent and address domestic violence (2020). Recommendations, promising practices, and further resources. https://www.futureswithoutviolence.org/wp-content/uploads/domestic_violence_prevention_intervention_529.pdf

How to respond when you have been accused of perpetrating abuse or violence. Listen. Take seriously the felt experience of those alleging that you have harassed or abused them. Resist the tendency to deny, minimise, or blame. https://xyonline.net/content/when-profeminist-men-are-alleged-have-perp… 1/3

Take part in any formal complaints process, honestly and supportively. Look closely, carefully, and critically at your own behaviour. Be as open as you possibly can to the possibility that you have behaved in ways which were harassing or inappropriate or abusive to others. 2/3

Take responsibility for your actions. Acknowledge any violent or coercive behaviour you have perpetrated and the harm it has caused. Make and enact a commitment to change. https://xyonline.net/content/when-profeminist-men-are-alleged-have-perpetrated-abuse-or-harassment 3/3

Preventing violence against women: a primer for African women’s organizations. This 2019 primer explores a feminist approach to preventing violence against women, outlines current evidence and unpacks key controversies in VAW prevention programming. https://raisingvoices.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/Raising_Voices_Pri…

Domestic violence: definition, prevalence and nature of presentation in clinical practice. DV "can be better understood as a chronic syndrome characterised [...] by the emotional and psychological abuse that perpetrators use to maintain control” https://www.mja.com.au/journal/2000/173/7/domestic-violence-australia-d…

Masculinity + Sexual Violence: What does research say about the links between masculine norms and sexual violence? Useful outline by @equimundo_org, May 2019. https://medium.com/masc-conversations-on-modern-masculinity/what-we-kno…

Preventing sexual violence: Excellent scholarly account of what’s needed: “the development and rigorous evaluation of effective, comprehensive, theory-based primary prevention strategies ... that address risk and protective factors at multiple levels: http://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/DeGue%2C%20A%20systematic%20review%20of%20primary%20prevention%20strategies%202014.pdf [Plus graphic, DeGue, A systematic review of primary prevention strategies 2014 - Final para]

Evidence for what works in preventing violence against women and girls: Outstanding collection of reviews and reports, here: https://www.whatworks.co.za/resources/evidence-reviews. See especially the report, “A rigorous global evidence review of interventions to prevent violence against women and girls”. [Plus graphic, Kerr-Wilson, A rigorous global evidence review of interventions to prevent violence against women and girls 2020 – Cover]

Violence prevention programming and policy: Four key challenges: 1) Implementing comprehensive approaches. 2) Transferring initiatives and strategies across contexts and cultures. 3) Implement effective forms of programming. 4) Evaluation. Free chapter: https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2020-06/Flood%2C%20Curren… [Plus graphic, Flood, Current practices to preventing SIPV 2015 – Intro]

Evidence for what works in preventing violence against women and girls: Outstanding collection of reviews and reports, here: https://www.whatworks.co.za/resources/evidence-reviews. See especially the report, “A rigorous global evidence review of interventions to prevent violence against women and girls”. [Plus graphic, Kerr-Wilson, A rigorous global evidence review of interventions to prevent violence against women and girls 2020 – Cover]

Rape: International studies find that significant proportions of men, from 2%, to 10%, to 51%, have ever used sexual violence against a woman. This survey (2011) finds that men’s lifetime reported use of SV was around 9% in most countries. https://www.icrw.org/publications/evolving-men/ 1/3 [Plus graphic, Barker, Evolving Men - Initial Results from the IMAGES survey Jan 2011 Fig 30]

So why do some men perpetrate sexual violence against women? Because of gender socialisation and gender inequalities, in particular. Because of sexual entitlement and gender-inequitable social norms. Authoritative review of scholarship on perpetration: http://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/Jewkes%2C%20Rape%20perpetration%20-%20%20A%20review%20SVRI%202012_0.pdf 2/3 [Plus graphic, Jewkes, Rape perpetration p. 31]

Men’s rape of women: A study among over 10,000 men across 6 countries in Asia and the Pacific finds that the most common motivation for rape was sexual entitlement - men’s belief that they have the right to sex. Full report: http://www.svri.org/what-we-do/research-support/un-multi-country-study-men-and-violence 3/3

Working with men and boys for violence prevention: Social ideals of manhood in many contexts include emphases on power and control. Violent masculinities also reflect social marginalisation and disadvantage. Lancet article, 2014. https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2019-09/Jewkes%20Flood%20Lang%2C%20From%20work%20with%20men%20and%20boys%202014.pdf [Plus graphic, Jewkes Flood Lang, From work with men and boys 2014 – Abstract]

How men’s engagement advances gender equality
Could involving men in women’s empowerment programmes increase their impact? Promising stories from Tanzania and Rwanda
www.cartierphilanthropy.org/news/how-men-s-engagement-advances-gender-e…
@ICRW @handinhandint @womenforwomenUK

Examining How Masculinity Can Damage Relationships & How Men Can Change That
Experts on gender-based violence share how men can redefine societal gender norms and hold themselves accountable.
https://ilymag.com/2022/09/15/examining-how-masculinity-can-damage-rela…

I Promise, It’s Not Lame to Ask a Woman for Permission
Six years ago, Dave Booda was accused of rape. He didn’t defend himself — instead, here’s what happened.
https://medium.com/equality-includes-you/i-promise-its-not-lame-to-ask-…

#MeToo: Must sexual assault be denounced in public every time? No. (“there is power in someone choosing to whom, and how they disclose such an intimate traumatic experience in order to maintain control over their sexual assault story.”) https://theconversation.com/metoo-must-sexual-assault-be-denounced-in-p… via @LaConvC

Why, when and how men rape: A study in South Africa among men aged 18-49 finds 27.6% have raped a woman. Most were motivated by sexual entitlement, also boredom & ‘entertainment’, & as punishment against girlfriends and other women. Most had first raped girls/women as teenagers. [Plus graphic, Jewkes, Why, when and how men rape 2010 – Abstract]

Guns: Review of the data on firearm possession and violent death finds consistent evidence that gun ownership is associated with higher levels of gun-related suicide and homicide. Guns don’t substitute for other means of killing, but increase overall rates. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.avb.2013.07.025. [Plus graphic, Stroebe, Firearm possession and violent death - A critical review 2013 Abstract]

News reporting on men’s killing of women: Often draws on victim-blaming notions, e.g that that men will ‘naturally’ feel aggrieved when women don’t reciprocate their sexual interest. Puts the onus on women to prevent or contain male violence. Rape culture. https://debuk.wordpress.com/2020/07/11/isolated-incidents/

Domestic violence and gender: Some studies find apparent gender symmetry in partner violence, but this may reflect: 1) sampling; 2) narrow focus on physical aggression; 3) snapshots that underestimate men’s perpetration and overestimate women’s. Paper: https://xyonline.net/sites/xyonline.net/files/2020-05/Hamberger%2C%20Me… [Plus graphic, Hamberger, Methodological Contributions to the Gender Symmetry Debate 2016 – Abstract]

What are the drivers of men’s violence against women? What do these causes of VAW look like day-to-day, and what can we do about them? An accessible series of tip sheets from Partners in Prevention (Safe and Equal Victoria): https://safeandequal.org.au/resources/resources-unpacking-the-gendered-… @safe_and_equal [Plus graphic, DVRCV, Gendered drivers of VAW Tip Sheets 2020 - Male peer relations]

Engaging Men and Boys in the Primary Prevention of Sexual Violence: Check out this new book chapter, outlining and assessing this work. Explores the scope and effectiveness of sexual violence prevention efforts among men and boys.
Free in PDF at https://xyonline.net/content/engaging-men-and-boys-primary-prevention-s… 1/3

Violence prevention work with men and boys must be: 1) feminist: intended to transform gender inequalities; 2) committed to enhancing boys’ and men’s lives; and 3) intersectional.
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Key debates in the work: What are men’s roles in prevention? What forms of violence do we address? How do we shift common norms of masculine sexuality that feed into sexual violence? And so on.
The chapter is free in PDF at https://xyonline.net/content/engaging-men-and-boys-primary-prevention-s… @the_daily_panda 3/3

Not ‘revenge porn’, but abuse: let’s call it image-based sexual abuse
By Clare McGlynn and Erika Rackley (2016)
https://inherentlyhuman.wordpress.com/2016/02/15/not-revenge-porn-but-a… 1/4

The term ‘revenge pornography’ addresses only one type of image-based sexual abuse, and only one of the many motivations for it.
The term “image-based sexual abuse” is preferable. 2/4

The term “image-based sexual abuse” is preferable to the term "revenge porn". It:
1) Includes many more non-consensual and harmful uses of sexual images (and includes many not motivated by ‘revenge’);
2) Emphasises that these practices are abusive
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The term “image-based sexual abuse” is preferable to the term "revenge porn". It:
3) Emphasises the links between IBSA and other forms of sexual violence;
4) Avoids the misleading and unhelpful term ‘porn’
https://inherentlyhuman.wordpress.com/2016/02/15/not-revenge-porn-but-a… 4/4

Mind the gap: gender differences in time use are narrowing, but slowly
https://theconversation.com/mind-the-gap-gender-differences-in-time-use… via @ConversationEDU

How abusive partners target women in their workplace
By Jenna Price
https://www.canberratimes.com.au/story/7943016/how-abusive-partners-tar…

‘They said: aren’t you that porn star?’ The woman hunting down image-based abuse
https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2022/oct/19/they-said-ar…

Promoting Positive Masculinities for the Prevention of Violence Against Women (Educational Intervention Guide). A 98-page guide to tools and activities. Produced as part of the PositivMasc project
https://positivmasc.ki.se/wp-content/uploads/sites/113/2022/07/EDUCATIONAL-INTERVENTION-GUIDE-PositivMasc-2022.pdf

Also see the profeminist men’s website XY’s collection of curricula (in full text) for engaging men in preventing men’s violence against women and/or building gender equality, here: http://xyonline.net/content/engaging-men-preventing-mens-violence-again…

Study Links Female Sex Doll Ownership With Hostility Toward Women
https://theswaddle.com/study-links-female-sex-doll-ownership-with-hosti…
Men who treated their sex dolls as their partners and reported greater anthropomorphisation in their dolls were more likely to objectify and behave with hostility women in real life.

The new state of healthcare in America: one for men and a worse one for women
After the shutting down of women’s reproductive rights, women in anti-abortion states can’t access life-saving medication for everything from chronic pain to lupus to ulcers.
https://www.theguardian.com/world/2022/oct/12/abortion-new-state-health…

How to ensure gender equality
Investing in caring manhood will always pay forward
by Gary Barker and Brian Heilman from Equimundo.
https://apolitical.co/solution-articles/en/how-to-ensure-gender-equality @equimundo_org

Boyhood and Child, Early, and Forced Marriages and Unions: An Evidence Review
This piece lays out the case for including boys in efforts to promote gender equality and prevent child marriage.
https://www.equimundo.org/resources/boyhood-and-child-early-and-forced-… @equimundo_org

Journeys of Transformation: A program to engage men as allies in women’s economic empowerment in Guatemala
Includes “Lessons on Recruiting and Retaining Men in Gender Transformative Programs”, outcome evaluation, and full training manual.
https://www.equimundo.org/resources/journeys-of-transformation-briefing… @equimundo_org

Rape is rape
Jane Gilmore's excellent, wide-ranging essay on reforms to laws on rape, persistent victim-blaming, consent education in schools, and community support for myths e.g. of false accusations.
https://meanjin.com.au/essays/rape-is-rape/ @JaneTribune

Be a Better Ally
By Tsedale M. Melaku, Angie Beeman, David G. Smith, and W. Brad Johnson
Harvard Business Review, 2020
https://hbr.org/2020/11/be-a-better-ally

On Mirror Mirror, Todd Sampson went on Omegle. It left viewers - and parents - terrified.
(Omegle markets itself as a place where you can "meet great new friends", but it's also where men direct sexualised & coercive commentary to girls and young women.)
https://www.mamamia.com.au/what-is-omegle/

State of Allyship-In-Action Benchmark Study: National study on male allies for gender equality in corporate workplaces. Finds e.g. a gap between men’s and women’s perceptions of how active men are in practising various ally behaviours.
https://www.iwlfoundation.org/allyship-in-action-research-study @IWLinc

The problem with calling it the 'Brittany Higgins trial.'
Bruce Lehrmann is the one on trial, *not* his alleged victim.
https://www.mamamia.com.au/brittany-higgins-bruce-lehrmann/ 1/2

This expresses a wider problem, that domestic and sexual violence often is framed in media, community understanding, and even policy in ways that remove the perpetrator from view. It’s time to reframe the problem as the *perpetrator’s* problem. https://research.qut.edu.au/centre-for-justice/wp-content/uploads/sites… @DLulabele

How media frames stories on gender-based violence matters
https://www.wellandtribune.ca/opinion/contributors/2022/10/05/how-media-frames-stories-on-gender-based-violence-matters.html

Respectful relationships education: The Queensland Government has delivered an updated and upgraded suite of resources for the delivery of respectful relationships education in Queensland schools, including a public online hub for families and students.
https://statements.qld.gov.au/statements/96269

What Men Say In Tinder Bios And What They Really Mean
One woman’s public-service mission to translate the seemingly innocuous phrases used on dating apps
https://primer.com.au/aileen-barratt-tinder-translator-what-men-say/ [Plus graphic, Barratt, What Men Say In Tinder Bios And What They Really Mean 2022 Examples]

Are Men Frozen in Time? We Need to Transform Rigid Masculinities. (Ravi Verma writes, let’s encourage fluid and respectful masculinities where life is not a zero-sum game but a win-win for all.) March 2020. https://oecd-development-matters.org/2020/03/16/are-men-frozen-in-time-we-need-to-transform-rigid-masculinities/ via @wordpressdotcom

Writer Liz Plank Has ‘A New Vision For Mindful Masculinity’ In ‘For The Love Of Men’. 40-minute interview, NPR, December 2019. https://www.npr.org/2019/11/13/778846598/writer-liz-plank-has-a-new-vision-for-mindful-masculinity-in-for-the-love-of-men?utm_campaign=storyshare&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_medium=social

The influence of masculine norms and mental health on health literacy: Study among 16,000 men aged 18-55 in Australia finds that lower levels of health literacy among men are predicted by both conformity to masculine norms and by depression. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1557988319873532[Plus graphic, Milner, The Influence of Masculine Norms and Mental Health on Health Literacy 2019 – Abstract] 

What’s A Man? Masculinity in India. A 10-episode podcast series which aims to engage “public and compassionate conversations about what it means to be a man in India today. LINK: https://www.whatsaman.com/

The Mainstream Misogyny of the Nice Jewish Boy. By Joshua Wolfsun, 2017. (On ‘softboys’, nice Jewish men, and the sexism that’s visible in both.) In Lilith (“Independent, Jewish, & Frankly Feminist”). https://www.lilith.org/blog/2017/01/the-mainstream-misogyny-of-the-nice-jewish-boy/

More Than ⅔ of Parents in the United States say Boys Don’t Feel Comfortable Sharing When They Feel Scared or Lonely, Reveals New Research. National survey of parents of boys ages 4-14 in the US. https://www.equimundo.org/resources/fosteringhealthymasculinity/  @equimundo_org

Messaging on masculinity: Message guide for communications and messaging to men, ‘Framing masculinity’. 4 key tips: 1) Don’t pander to the vocal minority. 2) Don’t box men in. 3) Be solutions focused. 4) Use the power of social norming. @VicHealth See www.vichealth.vic.gov.au/breakingstereotypes [Plus graphic, VicHealth, Framing Masculinity Message Guide 2020 – Cover]

For men, 5 key points on gender: 1) Gender shapes everyone’s lives. 2) Australia is gender-unequal. 3) Feminism has made things better. 4) Traditional masculinity feeds into gender inequalities, and limits men’s own lives. 5) Men are part of the solution. https://xyonline.net/content/gender-inequality-men-are-part-problem-and-part-solution

Intimate partner sexual violence: Useful synthesis by ANROWS. IPVS is a high risk indicator of domestic violence. Has serious, lasting effects. Often co-occurs along other tactics of DV. Is poorly understood in communities. Many barriers to reporting. https://d2rn9gno7zhxqg.cloudfront.net/wp-content/uploads/2019/04/30071713/ANROWS-IPSV-Synthesis-Insights-05.2019.pdf [Plus graphic, ANROWS, Intimate Partner Sexual Violence Research Synthesis May 2019 – Cover]

Ten harmful beliefs that perpetuate violence against women and girls. (This violence is rooted in the widely accepted social norms that contribute to gender inequality, including male entitlement, domination, and control over the bodies of women.) https://www.oxfam.org/en/ten-harmful-beliefs-perpetuate-violence-against-women-and-girls @Oxfam

Guns & gun violence: There is a wealth of evidence that more guns means more gun deaths. In areas with higher gun ownership, there are higher levels of gun-related homicide and suicide. This XY collection summarises the evidence, with links to full reports https://xyonline.net/content/guns-violence-and-masculinity-xy-collection

Young Australians’ understandings of violence against women, attitudes towards VAW, and attitudes towards gender have *improved* over 2009-2017. But also troubling levels of ignorance about or tolerance for violence. Excellent @ANROWS report. See here: https://ncas.anrows.org.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/2017NCAS-Youth-SubReport.pdf [Plus graphic, ANROWS, Young Australians’ attitudes to violence against women and gender equality 2019 p. 18]

MRAs (men’s rights activists) be like…
(Image: A man is sitting on a park bench. A woman comes along and says, “I think I deserve to sit on this bench too.” The man throws himself to the ground, crying, “Oh my God I’ve been pushed off! There’s no room for me on *my* bench anymore!”) [Plus graphic, MRAs be like - Park bench]

For accessible critiques of MRAs, see http://xyonline.net/content/mens-rights-collection-accessible-critiques
For academic critiques (in full text), see https://xyonline.net/content/mens-rights-and-mras-mens-rights-activists-academic-critiques
For various other critiques and discussions of MRAs, see https://xyonline.net/category/article-content/mens-fathers-rights

How to make women an economic priority
The Saturday Paper, October 8 2022
https://www.thesaturdaypaper.com.au/opinion/topic/2022/10/08/how-make-w…

The lasting impact of Julia Gillard’s misogyny speech
A new wave of women in parliament is taking up the unfinished fight for equality, channelling the outrage unleashed 10 years ago by Julia Gillard’s famous speech against misogyny.
By Zoe Daniel.
https://www.thesaturdaypaper.com.au/life/2022/10/08/the-lasting-impact-…

Women do an hour more a day of chores and childcare than men, and men on average do an hour more paid work than women.
https://www.smh.com.au/politics/federal/women-do-extra-hour-a-day-of-ch…

Legitimate Sexpectations, by Katrina Marson
A timely start to a fresh debate on sex education (Review)
https://www.canberratimes.com.au/story/7931410/katrina-marson-will-star… @Marson_Katrina

The First 100 Days
It's been roughly 100 days since Roe fell. Here's the devastating tally.
By Jill Filipovic @JillFilipovic
https://jill.substack.com/p/the-first-100-days

The sexual exploitation of Australian children on dating apps and websites: 12.4% of users reported receiving requests to facilitate the sexual exploitation of their own children or children they had access to. Requests for sexual information, videos, etc
https://www.aic.gov.au/publications/tandi/tandi658

Justin Baldoni Releases a Book To Teach Boys About Masculinity, Self-Esteem, and Consent
Baldoni talks about his new kids' book, Boys Will Be Human, therapy, and how playing with his kids has reinvigorated his work life.
https://www.parents.com/parenting/celebrity-parents/justin-baldoni-boys… @parentsmagazine @justinbaldoni

Digital misogyny on the rise
Research shows that misogynist online communities have increased in numbers intensity and become more extreme in the past decade.
https://kjonnsforskning.no/en/2022/09/digital-misogyny-rise

“Men's rights activists don't organize marches; they don’t build shelters or raise funds for abused men; they don't organize prostate cancer awareness events... What they actually do, when they’re not simply carping in comments online, is target and harass women” [Plus graphic, Men's rights activists don't organize marches]

Men taking action to end sexual harassment: there are at least six barriers to men’s action.
Men: 1) Typically have lower levels of understanding and recognition of sexual harassment than women.
2) May feel that sexual harassment is a “women’s issue”.
https://xyonline.net/content/mens-positive-roles-ending-sexual-harassment-overcoming-barriers-and-taking-action 1/4

Men: 3) May respond with defensiveness and hostility to efforts addressing violence and sexual harassment.
4) Often overestimate other men’s comfort with harassment.
5) Fear others’ reactions to intervention.
6) May lack knowledge of or skills in intervention. 2/4

Each of these barriers to action can be overcome. Increase men’s knowledge of sexual harassment and empathy for victims. Show how harassment and violence are a ‘men’s issue’. Use positive, strengths-based messaging. Show that many other men also oppose sexual harassment. 3/4

Men have vital roles to play in preventing and reducing sexual harassment. First, start with ourselves and our own behaviour. Second, speak up and take action. Third, alongside women, help build safe and respectful workplaces and communities.
https://xyonline.net/content/mens-positive-roles-ending-sexual-harassme… 4/4

The world is done with Wife Guys. Thank goodness for that
The story of a philandering star drew attention to an archetype based on our very low standards for straight men
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2022/oct/01/ned-fulmer-try-gu…

I’m a psychologist – and I believe we’ve been told devastating lies about mental health
Sanah Ahsan
Society’s understanding of mental health issues locates the problem inside the person – and ignores the politics of their distress
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2022/sep/06/psychologist-deva…

Film classifications should include information about whether sex scenes in films are consensual or coerced.
By Daisy Turnbull. Including on the new initiative by Consent Labs to classify content in film and TV
https://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life-and-relationships/if-movies-carry…

University colleges have a vital role to play in building cultures of respect and safety on campus.
Talk by Professor Michael Flood
What are the risk factors for sexual violence and harassment in colleges – the factors that make perpetration and victimisation more likely? 1/2

Why are some colleges safer than others? What strategies are effective in preventing and reducing violence and abuse among students? How can we foster positive cultures in colleges, and how do these fit within a whole-of-institution approach to prevention?
https://xyonline.net/content/building-cultures-respect-and-safety-unive…

Blonde review: Dull trauma porn with no idea what it’s trying to say
Andrew Dominik’s biopic is degrading, exploitative and misogynist, yet mercilessly boring
https://www.independent.co.uk/arts-entertainment/films/news/blonde-revi…

Don’t mess with mums
Family abolition is luxury backlash politics. Victoria Smith criticises Lewis’s book Abolish the Family: A Manifesto for Care and Liberation. @glosswitch
https://thecritic.co.uk/Dont-mess-with-mums/

‘Endangered species’: Do all-boys private schools have a use-by date?
By Wendy Tuohy and Adam Carey
https://www.smh.com.au/national/endangered-species-do-all-boys-private-schools-have-a-use-by-date-20220928-p5blox.html

No men allowed: Women-only spaces increasing in Korea More women are opting for single-sex facilities in Korea, in the context of surging rates of men's voyeurism, stalking, and rape
https://www.koreatimes.co.kr/www/nation/2022/09/281_336332.html?utm_source=tw

The #MeToo backlash: how the world went back to tearing women down
By Genevieve Novak, September 29 2022
https://www.theage.com.au/culture/celebrity/the-metoo-backlash-how-the-…

The Incelosphere: Exposing pathways into incel communities and the harms they pose to women and children
The four leading incel forums show extreme hatred of women, racism, glorification of violence, and discussion of pedophilia.
https://counterhate.com/research/incelosphere/

#Aftermetoo – reflective groups for men
This 41-page guide on men’s groups is published by MÄN, a Swedish organisation working to advance gender equality, combat men's violence and redefine masculinity. Among the resources here: https://xyonline.net/content/anti-sexist-mens-groups-xy-collection [Plus graphic, MAN, Aftermetoo – reflective groups for men 2018 – Cover]

Employers will have positive duty to prevent sexual harassment in workplaces, under new legislation.
By Michelle Grattan
https://theconversation.com/employers-will-have-positive-duty-to-preven… via @ConversationEDU

Why some straight men have sex with other men
Sexual encounters with men do not affect how these straight men perceive their identity.
By Tony Silva
https://theconversation.com/why-some-straight-men-have-sex-with-other-men-160140

Why are men having more orgasms than women in heterosexual relationships?
By Nicole Andrejek
https://theconversation.com/why-are-men-having-more-orgasms-than-women-…

Claims and fears that 'men are too feminine and women too masculine' have a long history, dating back at least to the 1800s
https://www.upworthy.com/researcher-shares-men-are-too-feminine-and-wom…

1 in 3 Gay Porn Videos Shows Sexual Aggression or Violence
Some argue that depictions of sexual violence are only an issue in heterosexual porn, but research shows otherwise.
https://fightthenewdrug.org/gay-porn-videos-shows-sexual-aggression-or-… @FightTheNewDrug

Towards a Feminist Agenda on Men and Masculinities.
An inspiring declaration by MenEngage Iberia, Spain, October 2021
https://fundacioniniciativasocial.es/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/AFSHM_D… @MenEngage

More than 1,000 men demonstrate against men's violence in Seville, Spain
(I would love to see far more collective mobilisations by men, in alliance with women, against men's violence against women.)
https://mfj.se/en/articles/2021/11/oever-1-000-maen-i-demonstration-mot-maens-vald-i-sevilla @MenEngage

How does MÄN view the thriving misogyny on certain incel communities?
MÄN, a Swedish organisation working to advance gender equality, combat men's violence and redefine masculinity.
https://mfj.se/en/articles/2021/12/how-does-maen-view-the-thriving-miso…

How Religious Militias and Warrior Mentalities Mix in Rio de Janeiro
Interview with Professor Kristina Hinz @KristinaHinz_
https://insightcrime.org/news/religious-militias-warrior-masculinities-…

Brazil’s policing is a war of men. Civilians are caught in the crossfire
Rio de Janeiro’s security policy, led by a masculine logic of war, subjects people to authoritarian actions with no regard for human rights
By Professor Kristina Hinz @KristinaHinz_
https://www.opendemocracy.net/en/democraciaabierta/brazil-police-a-war-…

How did the patriarchy start – and will social change get rid of it?
Not all human societies have been patriarchal / male-dominated, and patriarchy is not inevitable. Thank goodness.
By Professor Ruth Mace
https://theconversation.com/how-did-the-patriarchy-start-and-will-evolu… via @ConversationUK

Critical race theory and feminism are not taking over our universities
Analysis of 50 introductory syllabi for international relations courses in North America and Europe finds that race and gender studies are silenced or marginalized
https://theconversation.com/critical-race-theory-and-feminism-are-not-t…

‘Toxic masculinity’: what does it mean, where did it come from – and is the term useful or harmful?
New explainer piece by Professor Michael Flood @CrimeJusticeQUT @QUT
https://theconversation.com/toxic-masculinity-what-does-it-mean-where-d…

Spoiler: I avoid the term, as it's so often misheard by men as saying 'men are toxic'. But whatever terms we use, we need ways to name the social norms associated with manhood, critique the harmful attitudes & behaviours some men adopt, and foster healthier lives for men and boys

Worldwide Optimism About Future of Gender Equality, Even as Many See Advantages for Men
https://www.pewresearch.org/global/2020/04/30/worldwide-optimism-about-…

Childcare educators are critical to a child's development, including their longer-term life outcomes. So why do we pay them so little?
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2022-09-22/childcare-educator-crisis-analys…

What to Teach Young Kids About Gender
Schools should tell children to be themselves. But some districts say too much—and mistake progressive dogma for established fact.
By Conor Friedersdorf
https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2022/09/how-to-teach-gender-i…

Negative feedback is part of academia (and life) – these 6 strategies can help you cope
https://theconversation.com/negative-feedback-is-part-of-academia-and-l… via @ConversationEDU

Watch What Happens When a Woman Tries "Manspreading" on the Subway
By Elizabeth Plank
https://www.mic.com/articles/107614/i-spread-my-legs-on-the-subway-to-prove-an-important-point
1/2

When women take up too much space on the subway, they're often treated with derision — yet when men do it, it's perceived as normal. That's because women are "subconsciously taught that they are meant to take up less space at an early age." 2/2

Protect your daughters? Why not educate your sons?
Dr Jane Meyrick summarises part of her new sexual violence ‘explainer’ book #MeToo for Women and Men
https://xyonline.net/content/protect-your-daughters-why-not-educate-you…

These dads took extended parental leave – and their careers are fine
https://www.afr.com/work-and-careers/workplace/these-dads-took-extended-parental-leave-and-their-careers-are-fine-20220906-p5bfu6
(The piece is behind a paywall, but try pasting the URL into "12-foot ladder", https://12ft.io/)

There are at least two distinct types of violence in intimate relationships: 1) intimate terrrorism (what many would call domestic violence ‘proper’), and situational couple violence (mutually escalating conflicts between partners that lead to violence).

Intimate terrorism (IT) involves a partner seeking to control their partner, often through dominance and possibly violence, while situational couple violence (SCV) does not. In IT, a violent perpetrator uses violence in combination with a variety of other coercive control tactics

A systematic review of 44 studies supports this distinction. And helps us understand differing findings regarding men's and women's use of DV, where some studies find gender symmetry while other studies find that DV is more often by men against women. 3/5

Situational couple violence is perpetrated at comparable rates by men and women. In contrast, IT is most often perpetrated by men against women, is more likely to be frequent and severe, and results in more negative outcomes than SCV. 4/5

Intimate terrorism is rooted in patriarchal norms and control motives. Situational couple violence, instead, is situated in particular conflicts.
See the systematic review here:
https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10896-022-00416-3 5/5

'It's a slippery slope': How young men fall into online radicalization | CBC News https://www.cbc.ca/news/young-men-online-radicalization-1.6585999

How young people understand sexual consent: Research among young people in the UK finds that they were far more focused on the giving of consent than the getting. The getting is barely acknowledged.
Notes from a book chapter by @ProfLizKelly, @VeraGrayF, @AvaKanyeredzi et al
1/8

Their views show “how normative discourses around consent do not connect rape with a failure to *seek* consent.”
Young people saw behaviour through a highly gendered lens: “even where men’s actions were considered rape, young people blamed young women with extraordinary ease."

"The inevitability of ‘boys behaving badly’ meant that young women were held responsible for protecting themselves, and their ‘refusal skills’ become the focus of determining whether or not they consented”. 3/8

Young people also had clear sexual double standards. E.g., about ‘man points’ or male peer status. “the most effective way to accumulate man points was through demonstrating (hetero) sexual prowess: boasting of sexual conquest, collecting ‘sexts’ from young women..." (92). 4/8

Sexual and relationship education “needs to be rooted in discussions of wider social inequalities between women and men, how these play out in expectations of sexual behaviour and how they connect to victim-blaming with respect to sexual violence.” (93) 5/8

Young people reported that in sexuality education there were discussions about coercion, but “the focus here was on young women being able to *resist* pressure, entirely based on the notion that consent is *given* rather than *got*.” (95) 6/8

“SRE that truly aims to prevent sexual violence needs to enable young people to seek and understand consent as an enthusiastic and embodied ‘yes’.” (96) 7/8

Coy, M., Kelly, L., Vera-Gray, F., Garner, M., & Kanyeredzi, A. (2016). From ‘no means no’to ‘an enthusiastic yes’: Changing the discourse on sexual consent through sex and relationships education. In Global perspectives and key debates in sex and relationships education. 8/8

Mobilising men as violence prevention advocates is a key prevention strategy: recruiting, training, and supporting men to make change in their communities. ‘Working Together With Men’ was an innovative Australian project that did this. And now with manual.
https://xyonline.net/content/working-together-men-mobilising-men-violen…

You cannot call for a female rape survivor to be "spat on at every opportunity" and to "fall into a well" *and* make any claim to feminism or social justice. I just stumbled across this deeply disturbing story: https://9breakingnews.com/victorian-womens-trust-board-member-calls-on-… @VicWomensTrust 1/3

*Whatever* your position on whether female rape survivors should be able to access single-sex support spaces, calling for violence against women victims of men's violence is fundamentally at odds with any kind of feminist ethic or principles. I'm deeply troubled to see it. 2/3

The rape survivor explains her position here: https://unherd.com/2022/07/why-im-suing-survivors-network. Note that she supports women’s spaces for both trans women and other women, while calling also for single-sex spaces. Whether you agree or not, to wish violence against survivors is to abandon feminism. 3/3

Do young men in Australia agree with stereotypical constructions of masculinity, and what implications does this have for their lives? What do we know about community attitudes towards men, masculinities, & gender? This seminar reports on two key studies: https://xyonline.net/content/unpacking-and-reconstructing-masculine-nor…

Men: speak up and show your support for safe and legal abortion. Including in the lead-up to International Safe Abortion Day (September 28). Check out the MenEngage campaign, at https://menengage.org/stories/calling-on-men-as-allies-this-internation…. 1/2

Check out resources from @ippf on how to talk about #Abortion as essential healthcare & #HumanRights: https://bit.ly/3DvbllV http://september28.org
#InternationalSafeAbortionDay, #Sept28, #SafeAbortionRegardless #Sept28 2/2

Women who suffer domestic violence fare much worse financially after separating from their partner: new data.
https://theconversation.com/women-who-suffer-domestic-violence-fare-muc… via @ConversationEDU

Evidence review: Mapping the nexus between media reporting of violence against girls
A 68-page review on the media’s normalization of violence and perpetuation of harmful gender norms and stereotypes, by UNICEF and UNWomen.
https://www.unwomen.org/en/digital-library/publications/2022/08/mapping-the-nexus-between-media-reporting-of-violence-against-girls @UNICEF @UN_Women

‘Lack of consent’: push for Australian film classifications to note ‘concerning’ scenes
Campaign for new movie rating launched after affirmative consent laws passed in NSW and Victoria
https://www.theguardian.com/australia-news/2022/sep/07/lack-of-consent-…

‘Most reprehensible behaviour’ in rugby league? There’s a woman to blame for that. 1/2
https://womensagenda.com.au/latest/most-reprehensible-behaviour-in-rugb… @WomensAgenda @NRL

On the NRL's sexist double standards: Gave a female player (indigenous) very heavy penalties for commenting on the monarchy, and male players relatively light penalties for alleged sexual assault, recreational drug abuse, drug trafficking, violence against women, and manslaughter

Do violence prevention initiatives work? The evidence base is growing, but weak. Few studies measure actual violent behaviour as an outcome, use control or comparison groups, or collect longer-term data. See pp. 50-55 of my book, FREE at https://xyonline.net/content/new-book-engaging-men-and-boys-violence-pr… 1/4

In Australia, very very few programs have had any kind of robust evaluation of impact. Including prominent programs such as MATE Bystander – this has only post-workshop data from participants, and this can’t be used to make robust claims about impact. (Sorry.) @MateBystander 2/4

Minimum standards for evaluation of impact include pre- and post-intervention assessment, measures of impact on violence-related variables, and longer-term follow-up. (For more on 'economy' and 'deluxe' evaluation, see p. 8 and 85-86 of this: https://ro.uow.edu.au/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=2969&context=artspape…). 3/4 [Plus graphic, Flood, LOVEBiTES - An evaluation of the LOVEBiTES and Respectful Relationships programs 2012 - Pre and post

So, are your violence prevention efforts actually making positive change? See here for key manuals on evaluation, including e.g. the excellent “Putting the prevention of violence against women into practice: How to Change The Story” (@OurWatchAus): https://xyonline.net/books/bibliography/27-violence-and-responses-violence/u-violence-prevention/evaluation 4/4 [Plus graphic, Our Watch, Putting the prevention of violence against women into practice 2017 Section 9 Hdg]

White Ribbon Australia’s Digital Barber Shop: A resource hub for men and boys who want to prevent men’s violence against women.

Resources on calling men in, parenting, relationships, sex, violence, etc.
https://www.whiteribbon.org.au/Learn-more/Digital-Barber-Shop @WhiteRibbonAust @WhiteRibbon_UK @WhiteRibbonIRL

Pleasure and intimacy
Katrina Marson brings a dual perspective to her argument in favour of comprehensive sex education.
Review by Alicia Simmonds of Marson’s book, Legitimate Sexpectations
https://insidestory.org.au/pleasure-and-intimacy/

Militarised masculinities: The Women’s International League for Peace and Freedom has released a rich body of research, imagery and film exploring militarised masculinities around the world.
See https://www.wilpf.org/womens-international-league-for-peace-and-freedom-unveils-rich-body-of-research-imagery-and-film-exploring-militarised-masculinities-around-the-world/  @WILPF

Recruiting male allies boosts women at work
When women and men raise their voices together in the workplace, managers are more likely to support gender equity issues, such as equal pay for equal work.
https://phys.org/news/2022-09-male-allies-boosts-women.html via @physorg_com

Silence over football’s links with sexual and domestic violence is deafening | Max Rushden
Sometimes we have to confront things we would rather ignore – only then will football and sport really be for everyone.
https://www.theguardian.com/football/blog/2022/sep/15/silence-football-…

Susan is a professional massage therapist but regularly gets asked for a 'happy ending'
Migrant women in Australia are having to negotiate racialised sexual harassment in their workplaces.
https://www.sbs.com.au/news/article/susan-is-a-professional-massage-the… @CharisChang2 @ANROWS @MSegrave

Why We Should Abolish the Family
The family is a conservative project that limits human flourishing. The family must be abolished.
Lily Sánchez, Current Affairs
https://www.currentaffairs.org/2022/09/why-we-should-abolish-the-family

"I'm so sick of wokeness."
Okay, try it without the wokeness then.
"I'm so sick of not being able to belittle women and minorities."
Feel better now?
[Plus graphic, I'm so sick of wokeness]

Abusers be like: How dare you ruin my reputation by telling people the things I did and said [Plus graphic, Abusers be like]

How to become a feminist dad: four years later
By Sebasto Molano, Defying Gender Roles blog
https://www.defyingenderoles.org/master-in-love/2022/8/5/how-to-become-…

Men needed in care-crisis conversation. (On men's roles in care work, in the USA)
By Gary Barker and Vicki Shabo https://www.nydailynews.com/opinion/ny-oped-missing-from-the-care-crisi…
@equimundo_org

Engaging Men and Boys in the Primary Prevention of Sexual Violence: This new book chapter explores sexual violence prevention work with men and boys. It identifies key principles and explores key debates and tensions. Free in PDF at https://xyonline.net/content/engaging-men-and-boys-primary-prevention-sexual-violence-book-chapter @the_daily_panda

Sexual violence perpetration among young men is common, with over one-quarter of young men at university having ever perpetrated sexual violence, as this systematic review finds. We must increase investment in understanding and preventing sexual violence perpetration.
[Plus graphics, Anderson, The Frequency of Sexual Perpetration in College Men - A Systematic Review 2021 – Abstract one, Table 6 one]

Is this what a feminist looks like?
An excellent piece by Deborah Cameron on the Queen, and what feminism is and isn't
https://debuk.wordpress.com/2022/09/11/is-this-what-a-feminist-looks-li…

A feminist: someone who believes two things: (1) that women are oppressed as women, and (2) that this can and should be changed through political action.
We should not uncritically equate “being a feminist” with “being a woman who occupies a position of power”

Cameron’s objection to the idea that the Queen was a feminist is about "the extraordinarily patriarchal nature—and I mean “patriarchal” in the strictest and most literal sense—of the institution she was born into and dutifully served throughout her life".

There are significant associations between men, masculinity, and risky driving.
1) Men are more likely than women to show various risky driving behaviours.
2) Men are more likely than women to support and tolerate dangerous or risk-taking driving. https://xyonline.net/content/cars-driving-and-masculinity 1/2

3) Men who agree more with stereotypical norms of masculinity (that men should take risks, be tough, etc) are more likely to be involved in risky driving.
4) Driver-related violence and aggression is most often by young men, against other young men. 2/2
https://xyonline.net/content/cars-driving-and-masculinity.

Reactions to Marin and Albanese show how women's alcohol consumption is treated differently from men's.
https://theconversation.com/reactions-to-marin-and-albanese-show-how-wo… via @ConversationEDU

Understanding, monitoring, and responding to resistance and backlash to gender equality and violence prevention initiatives in organisational and institutional settings
Resources from Our Watch and Respect Victoria, 2022
https://www.respectvictoria.vic.gov.au/understanding-backlash-and-resistance
@Respect__Vic @OurWatchAus

"Efforts to prevent and address #domesticviolence and #sexualviolence must include strategies and initiatives aimed at men and boys." - @MichaelGLFlood @QUT and @AlankaarSharma @ACUmedia for #DisruptiveAsia
Read the piece free here: https://disruptiveasia.asiasociety.org/engaging-men-in-preventing-domes…

Feminism Is Not Just A Women’s Issue
A great piece by @Alaoueslat for NADJA, about masculinity and the role of men in #genderequality and #WomensRights
https://www.nadja.co/2018/02/05/feminism-is-not-just-a-womens-issue/ @NadjaMedia

Asking For It: an eight-part podcast that unpicks rape culture in Australia, released weekly. You can listen to it wherever you get your podcasts, or at https://open.spotify.com/show/57Uo9tj8GrzxUS3eJgMVoW
(I’m on episode 5, on men and sexual consent.)

As another elite boys' school goes co-ed, are single-sex schools becoming an endangered species?
By Professor Amanda Keddie
https://theconversation.com/as-another-elite-boys-school-goes-co-ed-are… via @ConversationEDU

“a whole lot more training and education, if not culture change, is necessary in our police services, and in some of the other services that respond or should respond to victim-survivors and perpetrators.”
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2022-08-06/family-and-domestic-violence-uni… @CrimeJusticeQUT @QUT

Men accused of abuse rarely suffer the same lifelong consequences as survivors
There is a pattern of “accused abusers avoiding lifelong consequences for serious allegations of sexual violence and emotional torment.”
https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/women/johnny-depp-performance-… 1/3

So many accused abusers are still enjoying a star-studded career
Redemption examples include: Chris Brown, Dustin Hofman, Louis CK, Aziz Ansari, Morgan Freeman, James Franco, and others. 2/3

And, “Let’s not forget that it took 87 actresses to come forward with sexual abuse claims against movie mogul Harvey Weinstein before he was sentenced to 23 years in prison for rape and sexual abuse". 3/3
https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/women/johnny-depp-performance-…

Who's afraid of Amber Heard
https://internetprincess.substack.com/p/whos-afraid-of-amber-heard?utm_… 1/4
On the impossible standards female victims of men’s violence must meet, the cultural fear of angry and aggressive women, and the fact that every woman who alleges abuse, no matter how ‘perfect’ a victim, is vulnerable to the same misogynist attacks and denial directed at Heard

“Johnny Depp is a misogynist, abusive, serially violent wifebeater, and I believe that he owes his cultural victory to a combination of celebrity worship, targeted right-wing propaganda, and vicious, vitriolic misogyny.” 3/4

“Depp’s propaganda machine has effectively obfuscated most of the valid evidence against him, as well as engaged in a large-scale smear campaign designed to paint Heard as a crazy, manipulative abuser determined to take him down at any cost.” 4/4

The Patriarchs' War on Women
“The backlash against feminist progress that’s overtaking the U.S. is part of a global trend. Free and empowered women are a threat to authoritarianism worldwide—and the autocrats know it.”
https://msmagazine.com/2022/04/29/patriarchy-war-on-women-lgbtq-reprodu… 1/5

Around the world, patriarchal authoritarianism is on the rise, and democracy is on the decline.
There are strong links between authoritarianism and patriarchy.
2/5

Patriarchal authoritarians "promote increased state control over women’s bodies; the subordination of women in public office and the workforce; permissiveness toward sexual assault, harassment or abuse; hypermasculine ideals; the criminalization of LGBTQ+ people; tolerance of.."

“Four key domains are under sustained legal and political attack by legislators seeking to set back gender equality: access to reproductive healthcare; workplace equality and economic inclusion; protection from sexual and gender-based violence; and LGBTQ+ rights.” 4/5

“Feminist candidates, women elected officials and feminist policies are fundamental to the health and well-being of democracy.” 5/5
https://msmagazine.com/2022/04/29/patriarchy-war-on-women-lgbtq-reprodu…

Experts question the phrase 'mutual abuse' after testimony in Depp-Heard trial
The phrases "mutual abuse" and "reactive abuse" fail to account for the power dynamic in abusive relationships, some experts say.
https://www.nbcnews.com/pop-culture/celebrity/experts-question-phrase-m…

Stop Protecting “Good Guys”
Men’s sexist behaviour to women too often is excused or condoned because they are “good guys”.
https://hbr.org/2022/08/stop-protecting-good-guys 1/5

The “good guy” defence: minimizing, excusing, or deflecting the sexist or harassing behavior of a man by appealing to his status as a “good guy”. It appeals to his alleged innocence. It invalidates the woman’s experience of his behaviour and prevents his accountability. 2/5

Research finds “networks of complicity” in some organisations, in which perpetrators surround themselves with networks of colleagues who minimise and excuse their behaviour: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/337963973_Networks_of_complici… 3/5

5 ways to be a *genuine* good guy
1) Improve your situational awareness.
2) Check your own impulse to gaslight. Validate and gather more information about the woman’s experience.
3) Hold other men accountable.
4/5

4) Use positive reinforcement.
5) Integrate these conversations into your organisation’s culture.
https://hbr.org/2022/08/stop-protecting-good-guys 5/5

One-in-eight women working in emergency services experienced sexual harassment, Victorian report says
https://www.theguardian.com/australia-news/2022/sep/05/one-in-eight-wom…

Most boys who commit sexual assaults have been exposed to violence at home, Queensland study shows
https://www.theguardian.com/australia-news/2022/sep/06/most-boys-who-co…

Refugee and migrant women are often excluded from mainstream domestic violence services and policy https://theconversation.com/refugee-and-migrant-women-are-often-exclude… via @ConversationEDU

The Truth About Single Mothers And Domestic Violence: How we’re punishing women for leaving violent relationships
By Jess Hill
https://primer.com.au/single-mothers-violence/ @jessradio

How the jobs summit shifted gender equality from the sidelines to the mainstream
By Dr Leonora Risse
https://theconversation.com/how-the-jobs-summit-shifted-gender-equality… via @ConversationEDU

Research shows it's harmful to smack your child, so what should parents do instead?
By Professors Daryl Higgins and Sophie Havighurst @HigginsDaryl
https://theconversation.com/research-shows-its-harmful-to-smack-your-ch… via @ConversationEDU

Gendered views on drinking: A tale of two prime ministers
Gendered expectations around alcohol are far from equal, including perceptions of the acceptability of drinking in women compared to men.
https://phys.org/news/2022-09-gendered-views-tale-prime-ministers.html via @physorg_com

Andrew Tate's views are reaching teens, but they probably don't like his ideas, psychologist says
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2022-09-02/how-to-talk-to-kids-about-andrew…

Teachers Warn That Misogynist Andrew Tate Has 'Radicalized' School-Age Boys
As kids head back to classrooms, educators are horrified to find that Tate is their male students’ biggest idol.
https://jezebel.com/andrew-tate-influence-boys-teachers-1849447030

It Took Going To Prison To Recognize My Toxic Masculinity. Here's How I Finally Changed.
"While trying to live up to this flawed version of masculinity, I caused serious harm to others, my community and myself."
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/toxic-masculinity-prison-emotional-healt…

Coercive control: How proposed new laws will work
How might recognising coercive control as a form of violence save lives? Dr Kate Gleeson explains the proposed amendments to the NSW Crimes Act and the NSW Domestic Violence Act.
https://lighthouse.mq.edu.au/article/august-2022/coercive-control-how-p…

What women coppers conceal
Britain's police forces still drip with misogyny
By Julie Bindel
https://unherd.com/2022/08/male-coppers-are-rotters/ @bindelj

Wolves: The “alpha wolf” does not exist, at least not in the wild. In the wild, wolf packs simply consist of two parents and their offspring, in lifelong monogamy.
Older, misleading research had been only on wolves in captivity, in zoos. https://gizmodo.com/why-everything-you-know-about-wolf-packs-is-wrong-5…

Not All Men: A Brief History of Every Dude's Favorite Argument
By Jess Zimmerman @j_zimms
https://time.com/79357/not-all-men-a-brief-history-of-every-dudes-favor…
(Also see this XY collection of critiques of #NotAllMen: https://xyonline.net/content/engaging-men-violence-prevention-key-resou…)

Masculinity and Violent Extremism: I'm delighted to announce publication of this new book, with co-authors @DrJoshuaRoose, Alan Greig, Mark Alfano @moral_psych, and @SimonCopland
https://link.springer.com/book/10.1007/978-3-031-10497-8 1/2

The book "gives a persuasive account of the role of masculinity in far right, jihadism and anti-women movements".
It is "a must read for anyone wanting to understand the role masculinities play in violent extremist groups of diverse ideologies—far right, Islamist and far left". 2/2

Women are credited less in science than men
The gap in the number of publications produced by women and men in science is in part the result of unacknowledged contributions: women in research teams are less likely than men to be credited with authorship.
https://www.nature.com/articles/s41586-022-04966-w?fbclid=IwAR19B5sX7UiPOZeUhVmQeg9JXpOCb3VCn3JH6zGuCcB8CBkKLrI1ywbPfDk [Plus graphic, Ross, Women are credited less in science than men 2022 – Abstract]

Also see the piece, Sexism in the Academy: An excellent, detailed account of how male dominance in the academy and scholarship is sustained (2019). https://nplusonemag.com/issue-34/essays/sexism-in-the-academy/ via @nplusonemag.
I summarised it here: https://twitter.com/MichaelGLFlood/status/1359271844671459328

Understanding abuse: The Ryan Giggs trial in the UK shows we still need to educate juries about coercive control.
By Jean Hatchet @JeanHatchet
https://thecritic.co.uk/understanding-abuse/

Festivals must do more to address sexual violence.
34% of female respondents and 6% of male respondents had been sexually harassed or assaulted at a festival in the previous few years. 9% of women and 1% of men had been sexually assaulted. https://theconversation.com/festivals-must-do-more-to-address-sexual-vi… @ConversationUK

Preventing sexual violence: Best practice in prevention requires comprehensive and coordinated implementation that addresses the societal drivers of sexual violence. Must be based on evidence. Must use a spectrum of strategies. See this detailed review: https://xyonline.net/content/best-practice-prevention-sexual-violence-a…

The gender pay gap: what it is, what drives it, and what to do about it.
Here is a handy explainer from WGEA, including addressing some common myths and misconceptions...
https://www.wgea.gov.au/the-gender-pay-gap @WGEAgency

New guide to help engage men and boys to be part of the solution in ending violence against women, by @OurWatchAus. #MenInFocus offers practical and evidence-based strategies including how to foster self-awareness, build empathy and motivation
https://www.ourwatch.org.au/resource/men-in-focus-practice-guide-addres…

Lessons Learned in Gender Transformative Health Programming: A Rapid Literature Review
This research brief reviews evaluated evidence on how best to achieve gender equality and health outcomes through gender transformative programming.
https://www.igwg.org/2022/08/lessons-learned-in-gender-transformative-h…

How young Australians conceptualise domestic violence and abuse
This research report explores how young people define and make sense of domestic violence, including how they distinguish DV from other unhealthy relationship behaviours.
https://20ian81kynqg38bl3l3eh8bf-wpengine.netdna-ssl.com/wp-content/upl… @ANROWS

The Problem With Men Who Date Much Younger Women
Leonardo DiCaprio gets older. His girlfriends are forever 21.
By Jill Filipovic @JillFilipovic
https://jill.substack.com/p/the-problem-with-men-who-date-much

High proportions of Australian woman have experienced sexual violence, including 51% of women aged 24-30, as new data from the Australian Longitudinal Study on Women’s Health (ALSWH) documents. See the full report and infographics here: https://www.anrows.org.au/publication/a-life-course-approach-to-determining-the-prevalence-and-impact-of-sexual-violence-in-australia-findings-from-the-australian-longitudinal-study-on-womens-health/ @ANROWS

Women experience sexual violence at greater rates than previously thought, new Australian report finds
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2022-08-31/women-experiencing-higher-rates-… @ANROWS

Have you ever felt afraid or unsafe during sex with a partner?
This website is for women who are worried about sex and consent in their relationships. It is a space to find information and connect with support services. Anonymous, inclusive and safe.
https://www.beyondsilence.org.au/

Respectful Relationships: A Resource Kit for Victorian Schools
A toolkit by the Victorian Department of Education and Training, Victorian State Government (2020)
http://fuse.education.vic.gov.au/ResourcePackage/ByPin?pin=2JZX4R

Expect Respect Education Toolkit
An online toolkit containing a series of lesson plans for primary and secondary students aged 4-18, plus supporting resources, produced by Women’s Aid UK
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/what-we-do/safer-futures/expect-respect-ed…
@womensaid

Sexual assaults are at an all-time high. Why talking to your child about abuse is so important
ABC News, August 19 2022
https://amp.abc.net.au/article/101337538

Andrew Tate radicalised young men like me - and he won't be the last…
https://www.thecourier.co.uk/fp/opinion/3629545/andrew-tate-young-men-a… via @thecourieruk
[It's behind a paywall, but go to https://12ft.io/ to get behind the paywall.]

Public policy engagement guide: a toolbox for researchers
A 24-pp guide from the Public Policy Institute, University of Western Australia.
https://apo.org.au/node/319153

A dancing female prime minister is pilloried for partying. Meanwhile, in Australia …
That leaked videos of the Finnish Prime Minister partying have become a global talking point says more about us than it does about the young female leader.
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2022-08-28/sanna-marin-finnish-pm-partying-…

Sexual violence in South Africa: where are the male victims?
Professor Louise du Toit argues that there is a feminist case for addressing male victims of sexual violence.
https://theconversation.com/sexual-violence-in-south-africa-where-are-the-male-victims-186161 @TC_Africa

The Manual for Facilitators of Male Advocate Clubs to Prevent Violence against Women and Girls (in English and Vietnamese). A primary prevention program that empowers men to adopt non-violent masculinities and gender equitable attitudes. @UN_Women
https://asiapacific.unwomen.org/en/digital-library/publications/2017/04…

To Accelerate Social Change, Approach Philanthropy With a Feminist Lens
By Angelika Arutyunova and Leila Hessini https://www.ipsnews.net/2022/08/accelerate-social-change-approach-phila…

Andrew Tate isn’t just another misogynist with an online following. Here’s why you need to pay attention.
Grid takes a look at why Tate’s influence in the manosphere and particular brand of hate is dangerous.
https://www.grid.news/story/technology/2022/08/23/andrew-tate-isnt-just… @DrJoshuaRoose

Gender inequalities: Men are part of the problem and part of the solution
Gender inequalities are sustained in part by men – by how many men think, by how many men behave, by how men relate to women and how they relate to other men.
https://xyonline.net/content/gender-inequality-men-are-part-problem-and… (Speech)
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Male privilege is personal: most men have acted in sexist ways
I’m a nice guy, right? But in countless ways, like most men, I’ve perpetuated sexism and maintained gender inequalities. Looking back over my life, I can see times when…
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Men benefit from male privilege, whether we want to or not. When I send in my CV with a male name. When I open my mouth in a meeting. When I read the news. Etc. But, this privilege is naturalised and normalised. It’s invisible.
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Men are part of the *solution*. Men have a vital role in building gender equality.
Many men already live in gender-just ways: they respect and care for the women and girls in their lives, and they reject sexist norms of manhood.
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Some men already play a role in fostering gender equality, as public advocates.
Men will benefit from progress towards gender equality. In our health, our relationships and friendships, our workplaces, and our communities.
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There is plenty of work to do to build a more gender-equal culture. And men – men who care for women, men who care for justice and equality, and men who care for the wellbeing of our communities and society – have a vital role to play.
https://xyonline.net/content/gender-inequality-men-are-part-problem-and…
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Creating Compassionate Communities: Check out this one-day event coming up on October 12. Lots of fascinating discussion of issues of trauma and violence and of how to foster respect, equity, and compassionate communities. Join by livestream or in person. https://events.humanitix.com/creating-compassionate-communities-0ctbgfx7

Respectful Relationships Education - A suite of resources for a whole school community approach produced by @OurWatchAus, supporting organisations in the prevention of violence against women.
https://www.ourwatch.org.au/What-We-Do/Respectful-relationships-educati…

Intersectionality and social justice in programs for boys and men. A free eprint of this new journal article is available here: https://www.tandfonline.com/eprint/QXWIRWSFJEFDZEKHBP3R/full?target=10…

Don't blame women for low libido. Sexual sparks fly when partners do their share of chores – including calling the plumber. 1/2
https://theconversation.com/dont-blame-women-for-low-libido-sexual-spar… via @ConversationEDU

Women in equal relationships (in terms of housework and the mental load) are more satisfied with their relationships and, in turn, feel more sexual desire than those in unequal relationships. 2/2

How NOT to end up a 'lonely, single man': Tracey Cox shares brutally honest advice, from getting real about your pulling power to avoiding 'grey area' cheating - and focusing on your partner's orgasm first
https://mol.im/a/11135061 via @Femail

Take Action For Gender Equality and Respect
A guide to support secondary school aged students to reflect on what gender equality and respect means to them, engage with their peers on gender issues, and take action to create change in their community https://www.inspiro.org.au/blog/take-action-for-gender-equality-respect…

Religious leaders can motivate men to cede power and reduce partner violence
When faith leaders in premarital counseling emphasised the need for balanced power and decision-making, there was a decrease in DV and an improvement in relationships for both. https://www.pnas.org/doi/10.1073/pnas.2200262119

Louise Perry’s book, “The Case Against the Sexual Revolution”: Julie Bindel says there is much to recommend it, but she also has some serious criticisms. https://unherd.com/2022/06/in-defence-of-loveless-sex/ 1/5

The book neglects and seems ignorant of feminism’s long history of critiques of patriarchal heterosexuality and feminism’s emphases on female sexual pleasure. 2/5

(A key account of feminism’s emphases on both pleasure and danger is given by Carole Vance in her influential essay, free in PDF here: https://xyonline.net/books/bibliography/25-sexuality/g-women-and-sexual….) 3/5

Bindel rejects Perry’s solutions, a return to traditional monogamous marriage. She criticises Perry’s pessimistic views of men, and that we can only contain men’s violent behaviour through marriage. 4/5

Bindel criticises as naïve Perry’s strategies for how women can avoid sexual violence, given the common dynamics of men’s rape and abuse of women in relationships.
Instead, Bindel reasserts a radical feminist vision of a world free of sexual violence.
https://unherd.com/2022/06/in-defence-of-loveless-sex/ 5/5

The Tricky (And Necessary) Business Of Being A Male Advocate For Gender Equality
By Catherine Ashcraft and Wendy DuBow
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https://www.fastcompany.com/3046555/the-tricky-and-necessary-business-o…

Why Male Advocates? For at least two reasons.
1) Increasing diverse participation is not a women’s issue, but a business issue and a human issue. Also, men themselves benefit from increased diversity.
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Why Male Advocates? 2) Men in workplaces often hold a majority of formal and informal positions of power, so they are able to have a great deal of influence on the current climate.
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What should men be advocating for?
1. Advocate for changing the environment. In general, male advocacy is not about men advocating for or helping specific women.
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2. Advocate for individual and systemic change. First, there are lots of fairly simple or straightforward ways individual men can interrupt biases they see happening in the moment.
But this is not enough. Also advocate for altering systems.
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Other Things To Consider
1) Listen. Listen to the experiences of their female colleagues
2) Don’t assume all women want to participate in diversity efforts. (There are understandable reasons why women may distance themselves from diversity efforts.)
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3) Reframe negative reactions as valuable opportunities for developing empathy.
4) Realize that stereotype threat (fear of confirming a negative stereotype) can apply to male advocacy.
5) Approach advocacy with a “growth mind-set”.
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6) Be aware of the limitations of the male-female framing of this conversation. E.g., men and women share similarities, and the differences among men and among women often are bigger than the differences between them.
8/8
https://www.fastcompany.com/3046555/the-tricky-and-necessary-business-o…

The real reason why there are so few tradeswomen
The construction, building and maintenance sectors remain resolutely male dominated, which is unsurprising, given sexism is rife in vocational education and training classrooms.
https://www.afr.com/work-and-careers/education/the-real-reason-why-ther…

Everyone has a role to play in preventing men’s violence against women, including men and boys. @OurWatchAu have released a new guide with practical strategies on engaging men and boys to help stop violence before it starts #MenInFocus https://www.ourwatch.org.au/resource/men-in-focus-practice-guide-addressing-masculinities-and-working-with-men-in-the-prevention-of-mens-violence-against-women/

Understanding backlash and resistance
Understanding, monitoring, and responding to resistance and backlash in organisational and institutional settings.
Our Watch report for Respect Victoria
https://www.respectvictoria.vic.gov.au/understanding-backlash-and-resis… @OurWatchAus @Respect__Vic