Feminism is good for women: A response to some common MRA arguments

Men’s rights advocates (MRAs) often argue that feminism portrays women as always and ever oppressed, and thus *makes* women into victims. Related to this, MRAs argue that feminist beliefs are harmful for women themselves. However, the actual evidence is that having feminist beliefs and/or a feminist identity is good for women, and that having feminist beliefs or a feminist identity has a range of positive benefits.

Feminism and women’s agency

Feminism emphasises women’s agency, their ability to act, and it focuses on encouraging women’s individual and collective empowerment. Feminism emphasises women’s agency even in the most dire and oppressive of situations. For example, feminist research on women living with intimate terrorism by a male partner has examined women’s efforts to manage and lessen the violence and to escape such relationships. And feminist work on men’s violence against women includes self-defence as one violence prevention strategy.

Feminist beliefs and feminist identity are *positive* and *empowering* for women, as various studies show. For example;

  • Among women who have experienced abuse by a male partner, compared to women without feminist beliefs, women with feminist beliefs showed less self-blame and shame, had strong connections to and support from other women, and were more likely to embrace their personal agency and power (Gefter, Bankoff, Valentine, Rood, & Pantalone, 2013).
  • Among women who have experienced sexual harassment by a stranger, those women who identified as feminists were less likely to blame themselves for the harassment than women who did not identify as feminists (Carretta & Szymanski, 2019).
  • In response to sexual harassment, women who publicly identified as feminists were more likely than other women to seek help and support, and to see confronting harassment as positive and the right thing to do. As this study concludes, “a feminist identity may act as a buffer against the stresses of gender discrimination” (Leaper & Arias, 2011).
  • In a study among young U.S. women, women were more likely to confront a perpetrator of sexism (of sexist jokes, unwanted sexual advances, unfair treatment, and so on) in their everyday lives if they identified as feminists (Ayres, Friedman, & Leaper, 2009).
  • In another study, among women in Poland who had experienced sexual and non-sexual trauma, again, feminist identities and attitudes were protective of wellbeing. Women with feminist identification had better outcomes in terms of depression and self-esteem after the trauma than women without feminist identification (Kucharska, 2018).

Thus, feminism does not ‘turn women into victims’. Instead, it names and recognises the actual victimisation that women face, and it empowers women to resist and change this.

Taking feminist action itself is positive for participants.

  • When women take public action against gender discrimination, for example by tweeting against sexism, this has a positive impact on their wellbeing. An experimental study finds that, compared to other women, women who take action felt increased psychological wellbeing and lower levels of negative affect (hostility and sadness) (Foster, 2015)
  • On the other hand, when women ignore gender harassment or sexism, this can increase their tolerance of sexual harassment and decrease their support for survivors (Mallett, Ford, & Woodzicka, 2019).

People with feminist beliefs also are more likely to respond well to victims of violence:

  • On college (university) campuses, resident assistants in university housing *with stronger feminist beliefs* were more likely to provide material support e.g. referrals in response to disclosures of sexual assault (Holland, Gustafson, Cortina, & Cipriano, 2020).

Feminist beliefs are good for women, and men

Feminist beliefs also are good for women’s (and men’s) relationships and sex lives.

  • Among women, having a feminist identity is *good* for their mental health, body image, the quality and stability of their heterosexual relationships, and their sex lives, as a series of studies show (Kristin J Anderson, 2014, Chapter 6).
  • Being a feminist means having a better sex life. Feminist women “are generally more sexually assertive, better able to negotiate pleasurable and safe sex, and experience more equality in their personal relationships” (Redfern & Aune, 2010, p. 74).
  • Women with feminist male partners have relationships with greater quality, equality, and stability and greater sexual satisfaction (Rudman & Phelan, 2007).
  • Women with feminist beliefs are more inclined than women without feminist beliefs to have sex as result of their own sexual interests and wishes, not external forces (such as pressure from male partners), as a study among US college-aged women found (Schick, Zucker, & Bay-Cheng, 2008). In contrast, young women with greater support for traditional ideologies of femininity are more likely than other young women to be sexually passive rather than sexually assertive, have less comfort in their bodies during sex, and be less confident in advocating for safe sex (Curtin, Ward, Merriwether, & Caruthers, 2011)
  • Feminist identity protects women from body image problems. Meta-analysis of 26 studies finds that women with feminist identities are more satisfied with their bodies and less likely to have eating disorders. Feminism fosters critical thinking and acting for one’s own empowerment (Murnen & Smolak, 2009).
  • Feminist identity can protect women against involvement in unsatisfying or even violent relationships with men. Feminist women prefer men who do not conform to traditional masculine norms, and that is good for their relationships. On the other hand, women who accept patriarchal gender roles and sexism are more likely to want male partners who are emotionally controlled, dominant, etc. And this may mean unsatisfying, or even violent, intimate relationships (Backus & Mahalik, 2011).

Feminist women tend to feel better about their lives than non-feminist women.

  • A study among 691 women in the USA found that women who held feminist and moderate values scored significantly higher on measures of overall wellbeing – particularly on measures of purpose in life, autonomy, and personal growth – than women with traditional values (Yakushko, 2007).

Feminist beliefs also are good for men’s relationships and sex lives.

  • Men with feminist partners report greater relationship stability and sexual satisfaction than men with non-feminist partners (Rudman & Phelan, 2007).
  • Men who hold more egalitarian attitudes towards gender have significantly higher levels of marital happiness than men with more traditional attitudes (Kaufman & Taniguchi, 2006).

Feminism is anti-sexist, not anti-male

The stereotype of feminists as ‘man-haters’ is false. Feminism is anti-sexist, not anti-male. Feminism sees nothing fundamentally bad about being male (nor nothing fundamentally good about being female). Feminism centres on a critique of gender inequalities.

Feminism is built on a fundamental hope for men and men’s lives. Feminism takes as given that the problem is not being male, but the social systems that shape men’s and women’s lives. Feminism recognises the good in what many men do and are.

Indeed, feminist women and men have *more positive* attitudes towards men than non-feminists:

  • A U.S. study finds that feminist-identified men and women have lower levels of hostility towards men than non-feminist men and women (Kristin J. Anderson, Kanner, & Elsayegh, 2009).
  • ‘Man-hating’ comes out of gender inequality. Cross-national research finds that hostility towards men among women is higher in more gender-unequal societies, with greater gender gap in resources, and with higher levels of male hostility towards women (Kristin J. Anderson et al., 2009).

Feminist scholarship is taught in universities in the form of Women’s and Gender Studies. The men who take Women’s and Gender Studies classes at university find them a positive experience, and more positive than other undergraduate classes (Flood, 2011).

Further Reading

Note: For further reading on feminism, see the bibliographies here. Particularly see the section of introductory works, including the collection of recent, book-length introductions, many in full text (PDF).

References

Anderson, K. J. (2014). Modern Misogyny: Anti-feminism in a post-feminist era. New York: Oxford University Press.

Anderson, K. J., Kanner, M., & Elsayegh, N. (2009). Are Feminists man Haters? Feminists’ and Nonfeminists’ Attitudes Toward Men. Psychology of Women Quarterly, 33(2), 216-224. doi:10.1111/j.1471-6402.2009.01491.x

Ayres, M. M., Friedman, C. K., & Leaper, C. (2009). Individual and situational factors related to young women’s likelihood of confronting sexism in their everyday lives. Sex Roles, 61(7-8), 449-460.

Backus, F. R., & Mahalik, J. R. (2011). The Masculinity of Mr. Right: Feminist Identity and Heterosexual Women’s Ideal Romantic Partners. Psychology of Women Quarterly, 35(2), 318-326. doi:10.1177/0361684310392357

Carretta, R. F., & Szymanski, D. M. (2019). Stranger Harassment and PTSD Symptoms: Roles of Self-Blame, Shame, Fear, Feminine Norms, and Feminism. Sex Roles. doi:10.1007/s11199-019-01073-5

Curtin, N., Ward, L. M., Merriwether, A., & Caruthers, A. (2011). Femininity Ideology and Sexual Health in Young Women: A focus on Sexual Knowledge, Embodiment, and Agency. International Journal of Sexual Health, 23(1), 48-62. doi:10.1080/19317611.2010.524694

Flood, M. (2011). Men as Students and Teachers of Feminist Scholarship. Men and Masculinities, 14(2), 135-154. doi:10.1177/1097184X11407042

Foster, M. D. (2015). Tweeting about sexism: The wellbeing benefits of a social media collective action. British Journal of Social Psychology, 54(4), 629-647.

Gefter, J. R., Bankoff, S. M., Valentine, S. E., Rood, B. A., & Pantalone, D. W. (2013). Feminist Beliefs Associated with Young Women’s Recovery from Male-Perpetrated Abuse. Women & Therapy, 36(3-4), 332-355.

Holland, K. J., Gustafson, A. M., Cortina, L. M., & Cipriano, A. E. (2020). Supporting Survivors: The Roles of Rape Myths and Feminism in University Resident Assistants’ Response to Sexual Assault Disclosure Scenarios. Sex Roles, 82(3), 206-218. doi:10.1007/s11199-019-01048-6

Kaufman, G., & Taniguchi, H. (2006). Gender and marital happiness in later life. Journal of Family Issues, 27(6), 735-757.

Kucharska, J. (2018). Feminist Identity Styles, Sexual and Non-Sexual Traumatic Events, and Psychological Well-Being in a Sample of Polish Women. Journal of Interpersonal Violence, 33(1), 117-136. doi:10.1177/0886260515600163

Leaper, C., & Arias, D. M. (2011). College women’s feminist identity: A multidimensional analysis with implications for coping with sexism. Sex Roles, 64(7-8), 475-490.

Mallett, R. K., Ford, T. E., & Woodzicka, J. A. (2019). Ignoring sexism increases women’s tolerance of sexual harassment. Self and Identity, 1-17.

Murnen, S. K., & Smolak, L. (2009). Are feminist women protected from body image problems? A meta-analytic review of relevant research. Sex Roles, 60(3-4), 186.

Redfern, C., & Aune, K. (2010). Reclaiming the F Word: The New Feminist Movement. Zed Books.

Rudman, L. A., & Phelan, J. E. (2007). The interpersonal power of feminism: Is feminism good for romantic relationships? Sex Roles, 57(11-12), 787-799.

Schick, V. R., Zucker, A. N., & Bay-Cheng, L. Y. (2008). Safer, better sex through feminism: The role of feminist ideology in women’s sexual well-being. Psychology of Women Quarterly, 32(3), 225-232.

Yakushko, O. (2007). Do Feminist Women Feel Better About their Lives? Examining Patterns of Feminist Identity Development and Women’s Subjective Well-being. Sex Roles, 57(3), 223-234. doi:10.1007/s11199-007-9249-6.