Consent: An XY collection

There are great resources for encouraging norms of sexual consent and respect among men, building skills in negotiating consent, implementing consent education in schools, and so on.

This XY collection begins with accessible pieces aimed at individuals, particularly men, on sexual consent. Then there are materials for parents. Then we note further materials, including guides to the implementation of school curricula, short videos, and more. Further suggestions are most welcome.

Berkowitz, Alan. Guidelines for consent in intimate relationships. Campus Safety & Student Development, 3(4), pp. 49-64;
Bussel, Rachel Kramer. (2008). Beyond Yes or No: Consent as Sexual Process. In Yes Means Yes! Visions of Female Sexual Power & A World Without Rape, Eds Jaclyn Friedman and Jessica Valenti. New York: Seal Press;
Dr NerdLove, Getting A Yes - The Standard of Enthusiastic Consent (2013);
Dormitz, Mike - Consent and Dating;
Dormitz, Mike - Consent and Marriage;
Dormitz, Mike - Consent and Parenting;
Dormitz, Mike - Consent and Teens;
Flood, Michael. Thirteen steps men can take (flyer), 1998;
Flood, Michael. Hot and Healthy Sex. In Boys’ Stuff: Boys talking about what matters. Eds W. Martino and M. Pallotta-Chiarolli. Allen & Unwin (2001);
Flood, Michael. (2011). Men Speak Up: A toolkit for action in men’s daily lives. Sydney: White Ribbon Prevention Research Series, No. 4. [See page 11 on consent.]
Flood, Michael. Consent: Notes on fostering affirmative consent and challenging sexual violence. March 5, 2021
Men Teach Your Friends - Sexual consent. Handout, Kansas State University Women’s Center (n.d.);
PISC: Partners in Social Change, Summer 2013: Consent;
Weinberg, Joseph, and Michael Biernbaum. (1993). Conversations of consent: Sexual intimacy without sexual assault. In Transforming a Rape Culture, Eds Emilie Buchwald, Pamela Fletcher, and Martha Roth. Minneapolis: Milkweed Editions;
Wong, David. 7 Reasons So Many Guys Don't Understand Sexual Consent. Cracked.com, November 2016.

Parents

Parents have a vital role to play in fostering sexual consent among their sons and daughters. Here are resources for parents:

Raising gender-equitable sons – An XY collection of guides, articles, tipsheets
How to Promote Healthy Masculinity (1-page tip sheet). (White Ribbon Canada, 2019)
Toolbox: Respectful relationships (A series of resources, including tip sheets, videos, etc., including to support fathers in developing their son’s respectful sexual behaviour). (White Ribbon New Zealand, 2018)
Tough Talk: What boys need to know about relationship abuse (Liz Claiborne and Futures Without Violence, 2004)
How to Talk to Your Children About Developing Healthy Relationships (Love Is Not Abuse, Parent’s Handbook, 13pp.);
Open and Honest: A parent’s guide to talking with your child about sex and sexuality (New Zealand Family Planning, 2017).
Talk soon. Talk often. A guide for parents talking to their kids about sex (Western Australian (WA) Department of Health, 2018)
Consent Toolkit (Rape & Sexual Assault Research & Advocacy (RASARA), Australia, 2020)
Controlling Behaviour in Relationships – talking to young people about healthy relationships (Women's AID UK, 2021)

These pieces focus on parenting and teaching sons in particular:

Brasco, 10 Tips for Talking About Sexual Violence with Your Sons, Aug 19 2018;
Gordon, On parenting and rape culture, April 15 2014;
Hatvany, I Taught My Son How Not to Be a Rapist April 28 2017;
Levkoff, How To Raise Boys, Not Predators, Nov 11 2017;
Moyer, Ending Sexual Violence by Raising Better Boys, Oct 8 2018

Other XY materials

Further pieces on XY that focus on consent include the following:

Best practice in consent education: What schools-based education programs should look like (Michael Flood, 2021)
Consent: Notes on fostering affirmative consent and challenging sexual violence (Michael Flood, 2021)
Redefining consent (Speech by Stephen Montagna, 2003)
What does Consent Mean in a Society that Manufactures Contempt for Women? (Julian Real, 2009)
Manufacturing Consent - Is it rape? (Ben Atherton-Zeman, 2009):
Sexual ethics, consent, and violence prevention (Michael Flood, 2009)

Videos on consent:

Consent and tea: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQbei5JGiT8
Consent and tea: original version by Thames Police, in an English rather than American accent: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pZwvrxVavnQ
PPFA videos <http://bit.ly/consent101> that explain and model consent. As well as a lesson plan on consent <https://www.plannedparenthood.org/files/2414/4622/8692/Consent_Videos.Consent_Lesson_Plan.pdf>
Campus Clarity: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=laMtr-rUEmY
Cycling Through Consent, Wester University, Canada: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-JwlKjRaUaw

Other websites and resources on consent

Consent Toolkit - Rape & Sexual Assault Research & Advocacy (RASARA), Australia, 2020
Make No Doubt (NSW Government, Australia)
Your Guide to Sexual Consent (No More Foundation, 2019)
Resources on consent (compiled by The Consent Academy)
Consent+Toolkit (A resources for educating and talking about consent with children through young adult audiences, as well as materials for hosting a “Consent is…” campaign in your community, by the Wisconsin Coalition Against Sexual Assault)
Links on sexuality education for children and young people