a) Men, emotions, intimacy

Note: Also see the section on men’s sexuality, as this includes many references on men’s sexual and intimate relationships.


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NORMA, Volume 13, Issue 3-4, September - December 2018, Special issue: Masculinity and Affect.
Introduction: Masculinity and affect: new possibilities, new agendas / Todd W. Reeser & Lucas Gottzén
The personal is political?…? just not always progressive: affective interruptions and their promise for CSMM / Sam de Boise
Masculinity as cruel optimism / Jonathan A. Allan
Masculine stances and the linguistics of affect: on masculine ease / Scott F. Kiesling
Resonant masculinities: affective co-production of sound, space, and gender in the everyday life of Belgrade, Serbia / Andrija Filipovi?
Pink boys: colouring gender, gendering affect / Dominique Grisard
National (in)security and the shifting affective fields of terror in the case of Omar Khadr / Natalie Kouri-Towe
Breivik and I: affective encounters with ‘failed’ masculinity in stories about right-wing terrorism / Mia Eriksson.

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