a) General references

Note: Also see the section on men’s sexuality, as this includes many references on men’s sexual and intimate relationships.


Abbott, Franklin. (ed.). (1990). Men and Intimacy: Personal Accounts Exploring the Dilemmas of Modern Male Sexuality. California: Crossing Press.

Ahmed, Sara. (2004). The Cultural Politics of Emotion. Edinburgh: Edinburgh University Press.

Aldridge, M. E. (2001). Confessional culture, masculinity and emotional work. Journalism, 2(1): 91-108.

Allen, Marvin, and Jo Robinson. (1993). In the Company of Men: Freeing the Masculine Heart. Random House.

Allen, Marvin, with Jo Robinson. (1994). Angry Men, Passive Men: Understanding the Roots of Men’s Anger and How to Move Beyond It. New York: Fawcett Columbine.

Ansley, Chris. (2004). ‘She feels I hold too much in’: Exploring romantic intimacy, mental illness and masculinity. NZMSJ, 1, March.

Balswick, Jack. (1982). Male Inexpressiveness: Psychological and Emotional Aspects. In Kenneth Solomon and Norman Levy, (eds). Men in Transition: Theory and Therapy. New York: Plenum

Balswick, Jack. (1988). The Inexpressive Male. Lexington, Massachussetts: Lexington Books.

Baraff, Alvin. (1992). Men Talk: How Men Really Feel About Women, Sex, Relationships and Themselves. NAL/Dutton.

Becker, Verne. (1992). The Real Man Inside: How Men Can Recover Their Identity and Why Women Can’t Help, Zondervan.

Bendelow, Gillian, and Simon J. Williams. (eds). (1998). Emotions in Social Life: Critical Themes and Contemporary Issues. Routledge. Includes;.
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Berlant, Lauren. (1997). The Queen of America Goes To Washington City: Essays on Sex and Citizenship. Durham, NC: Duke University Press.

Berlant, Lauren. (ed.). (2000). Intimacy. University of Chicago Press.

Bianchi, Eugene, and Rosemary Reuther. (1976). From Machismo to Mutuality. New York: Paulist Press.

Bilodeau, Louraine. (1992). The Anger Workbook. Minnesota: Hazelden.

Blazina, C., A. G. Settle and R. Eddins (2008). Gender role conflict and separation-individuation difficulties: their impact on college men’s loneliness. The Journal of Men’s Studies, 16(1): 69(13).

Blazina, Christopher. (2001). Gender Role Conflicted Men’s Poor Parental Attachment and Separation/Individuation Difficulties: Knights Without Armor in a Savage Land. Journal of Men’s Studies, Volume 9 Number 2, Winter

Boscagli, Maurizia. (1992-93) ‘A Moving Story’: Masculine Tears and the Humanity of Televised Emotions. Discourse, 15(2), Winter, pp. 64-79.

Bowman, J. M. (2008). Gender role orientation and relational closeness: self-disclosive behavior in same-sex male friendships. The Journal of Men’s Studies, 16(3): 316(15).

Brennan, Teresa. (2004). The Transmission of Affect. Ithaca, NY: University of Cornell Press.

Cardelle, Frank. (1990). Journey to Brotherhood: Awakening, Healing and Connecting Men’s Hearts. New York/Sydney/London: Gardner Press.

Carrier, Joseph. (1995). De los otros: Intimacy and Homosexuality Among Mexican Men. Columbia University Press.

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Castleman, Michael. (1988). Making Love: A Guide to Sexual Fulfilment For Men - and Women, (Revised edition) London: Penguin

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Clark, Margaret S. (ed.). (1992). Emotions and Social Behaviour. Sage.

Clothier, Peter. (1997). While I Am Not Afraid: Secrets of a Man’s Heart.

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Conway, Robert. (1983). Being Male: A Guide for Masculinity in a Time of Change. Sth Melbourne: Macmillan.

Cooper, Mick, and Peter Baker. (1996). Emotions: The Feeling Man. Chapter 2 in The MANual: The Complete Man’s Guide to Life. London: Thorsons.

Cowlishaw, Bridget Roussell. (2002). Subjects Are from Mars, Objects Are from Venus: Construction of the Self in Self-help. Journal of Popular Culture, Volume 35 Issue 1, Summer.

Crawford, June, Susan Kippax, et. al. (1992). Emotion and Gender: Constructing Meaning From Memory. London: Sage .

Cvetkovich, Ann. (2003). An Archive of Feelings: Trauma, Sexuality and Lesbian Public Cultures. Durham, NC: Duke University Press.

Dalbey, Gorden. (1989). Healing the Masculine soul. Melbourne: Word.

De Foore, Bill. (1991). Anger: Deal With It, Heal With It, Stop It From Killing You. Deerfield Beach, Florida: Health Communications.

Dowrick, Stephanie. (1998). Forgiveness and Other Acts of Love.

Doyle, D. D. (2004). Rethinking manhood and intimacy. Reviews in American History, 32(4): 526.

Duncombe, Jean, and Dennis Marsden. (1995). Can men love? – ‘Reading’, ‘staging’ and ‘resisting’ the romance. In Lynne Pearce and Jackie Stacey. (eds) Romance Revisited. London: Lawrence & Wishart, pp. 238-250.

Edgar, Don. (1997). Men, Mateship, Marriage: The Myth of the Male in Love, Sex and Friendship. HarperCollins.

Edwards, Susan. (1995). When Men Believe in Love. Shaftesbury, Dorset: Element.

Ehrenreich, Barbara. (1983). The Hearts of Men: American Dreams and the Flight From Commitment. New York: Anchor Press/Doubleday

Erwin, Phil. (1998). Friendship in Childhood and Adolescence. London & New York: Routledge.

Evans, Mary, and Valerie Hey. (2010). Recovering from Romance: Resocializing Love and Intimacy. European Journal of Women’s Studies, February, 17: 69-73.

Evans, Mary. (2004). Gender and Social Theory. McGraw Hill.
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Falling Buzzard, Karen S. (2002). The Coca Cola of Self Help: The Branding of John Gray’s Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus. Journal of Popular Culture, Volume 35 Issue 4, Spring.

Fanning, Patrick, and Matthew McKay. (1993). Being a Man: A Guide to the New Masculinity. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications

Fischer, Agneta H. (1993). Sex Differences in Emotionality: Fact or Stereotype?. Feminism & Psychology, 3(3).

Floyd, K. (2006). Communicating affection: Interpersonal behavior and social context. Cambridge, England: Cambridge University Press.

Galasinski, Dariusz. (2004). Men and the Language of Emotions.
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Giardini, Federica. (2010). What’s Love Got to Do With It? European Journal of Women’s Studies, 17: 73-77.

Giddens, Anthony. (1992). The Transformation of Intimacy: Love, Sexuality and Emotion in Modern Societies. Polity Press

Gorski, Terence T. (1993). Getting Love Right: Learning the Choices of Healthy Intimacy. New York: Simon & Schuster.

Gorton, K. (2007). Theorizing emotion and affect: Feminist engagements. Feminist Theory, 8(3): 333-348.

Hicks, Robert. (1991). Uneasy Manhood: The Quest for Self-Understanding. Thomas Nelson.

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Hornstein, H. (year?). A Knight in Shining Armour: Understanding Men’s Romantic Illusions.

Jackson, Graham. (1991). The Secret Lore of Gardening: Patterns of Male Intimacy. Toronto, ON: Inner City Press.

Jakupcak, M., K. Salters, K.L. Gratz, and L. Roemer. (2003). Masculinity and Emotionality: An Investigation of Men’s Primary and Secondary Emotional Responding. Sex Roles, August, vol. 49, no. 3-4, pp. 111-120.

Jakupcak, Matthew, Matthew T. Tull, and Lizabeth Roemer. (2005). Masculinity, Shame, and Fear of Emotions as Predictors of Men’s Expressions of Anger and Hostility. Psychology of Men & Masculinity, 6(4), October.

Jamieson, Lynn. (1998). Intimacy: Personal Relationships in Modern Society. Cambridge: Polity Press.

July, William II. (2001). Understanding the Tin Man: Why So Many Men Avoid Intimacy. New York: Broadway Books.

Kelly, Janice R., and Sarah L. Hutson-Comeaux. (1999). Gender-emotion stereotypes are context specific. Sex Roles, Jan., Vol. 40, Iss. 1/2.

Kimmel, Michael S. (2000). Gendered Intimacies: Friendship and Love. Chapter 9 in The Gendered Society. New York & Oxford: Oxford University PressKnights, D. and E. Surman. (2008). Editorial: Addressing the Gender Gap in Studies of Emotion. Gender, Work & Organization 15(1): 1-8.

Kimmel, Michael S. (2000). The Gendered Society. New York & Oxford: Oxford University Press
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Kritsberg, Wayne, John Lee, and Sheperd Bliss. (1994). A Quiet Strength: Meditations on the Masculine Soul. New York: Bantam.

Kundtz, David. (2004). Nothing’s Wrong: A Man’s Guide to Managing His Feelings. Boston: Conari Press.

Kundtz, David. (year?). Men and Feelings: Understanding the Male Experience.

Kupers, Terry A. (1993). Revisioning Men’s Lives: Gender, Intimacy, and Power. New York & London: Guilford Press

Lazear, Jonathon. (1992). Meditations for Men Who Do Too Much. New York: Fireside/Parkside.

Levant, R. F., R. J. Hall, et al. (2009). Gender Differences in Alexithymia. Psychology of Men & Masculinity July 10(3): 190-203.

Levant, R., M. Halter, et al. (2009). The Efficacy of Alexithymia Reduction Treatment: A Pilot Study. The Journal of Men’s Studies 17(1): 75-84.

Levant, Ronald F., with Gina Kopecky. (1996). Men and Relationships: Coming In Out of the Cold. Chapter 10 in Masculinity Reconstructed: Changing the Rules of Manhood at Work, in Relationships, and in Family Life. New York: Plume.

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Lombardo, William K., Gary A. Cretser, and Scott C. Roesch. (2001). For crying out loud--the differences persist into the ‘90s. Sex Roles, Oct., Vol. 45, Iss. 7/8.

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McGill, Michael E. (1986). The McGill Report on Male Intimacy. Perenial Library.

Middleton, Peter. (1992). The Lost Language of Emotion. Chapter 6 in The Inward Gaze: Masculinity and Subjectivity in Modern Culture. London: Routledge

Moore, Thomas. (1998). The Soul of Sex: Cultivating Life as an Act of Love.

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Nowinski, Joseph. (1991). Men, Love and Sex. Thorsons.

Nowinski, Joseph. (1993). Hungry Hearts: On Men, Intimacy, Self-Esteem, and Addiction. New York: Lexington Books.

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