(ii) Raising sons, raising boys

Note: For further material on parenting boys, see the section “Growing up Male” above. For material on mothers and sons, see the section “Mothers and Sons”. For non-academic articles, guides, and tipsheets, see this XY collection on raising sons.


Feminist and feminist-informed works

Arcana, Judith. (1983). Every Mother’s Son: The Role of Mothers in the Making of Men. London: Women’s Press.

Asher, Rebecca. (2016). Man Up: Boys, Men and Breaking the Male Rules. Harvill Secker.

Boyd-Franklin, N., Franklin, A. J., & Toussaint, P. A. (2001). Boys into Men: Raising our African American teenage sons. Dutton.

Canada, Geoffrey. (1998). Reaching Up for Manhood: Transforming the Lives of Boys in America. Boston, MA: Beacon Press.

Caron, Ann F. (1994). Strong Mothers, Strong Sons: Raising Boys in the ‘90s. New York: Henry Holt and Company

Currie, M. (2008). Doing Anger Differently: Helping adolescent boys. Melbourne: Melbourne University Press.

Ferrere, Debbie. (1989). A Quiet Revolution. (Feminists with sons) Broadsheet, June

Garbarino, James. (1999). Lost Boys: Why Our Sons Turn Violent and How We Can Save Them. New York: Free Press.

Gouveia, Aaron. (2020). Raising Boys to Be Good Men: A Parent's Guide to Bringing Up Happy Sons in a World Filled with Toxic Masculinity. Simon and Schuster.

Green, Fiona Joy. (2011). Practicing Feminist Mothering. AK Press.

Gurian, Michael. (1996). The Wonder of Boys: What Parents, Mentors and Educators Can do to Shape Boys Into Exceptional Men. New York: Tarcher/Putnam.

Gurian, Michael. (1999). The Good Son: Shaping the Moral Development of Our Boys and Young Men. New York: Jeremy P. Tarcher/Putnam.

Gurian, Michael. (2010). The purpose of boys: Helping our sons find meaning, significance, and direction in their lives. John Wiley & Sons.

Hartley-Brewer, Elizabeth. (2001). Raising Confident Boys: 100 tips for parents and teachers. Cambridge, MA: Fisher Books.

Hawkes, Tim. (2001). Boy Oh Boy: How to Raise and Educate Boys. Frenchs Forest, NSW: Pearson Education Australia.

Howard, Jo. (1998). Bringing up Boys: A Parenting Manual for Sole Mothers Raising Boys. Melbourne: ACER (Australian Council for Educational Research) Press.

Hunter, S.C., and D.W. Riggs. (2015). Hegemonic Masculinities and Heteronormativities in Contemporary Books on Fathering and Raising Boys. Boyhood Studies, 8(1).

Katz, Jackson. (2006). Teach Our Children Well. Chapter 12 in The Macho Paradox: Why some men hurt women and how all men can help. Sourcebooks.

Kindlon, Dan, and Michael Thompson. (1999). Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys. New York: Ballantine.

Kipnis, Aaron. (1999). Angry Young Men: How Parents, Teachers, and Counselors Can Help ‘Bad Boys’ Become Good Men. Jossey Bass Publishers.

Kivel, Paul. (1999). Boys Will be Men: Raising Our Sons for Courage, Caring and Community. Gabriola Island, BC: New Society Publishers.

Metta, M. 2016. Embodying Feminist Mothering: Narratives of Resistance through Patriarchal Terrorism from both Mother and Child’s Perspectives. In Feminist Parenting, 144-167. Bradford, Ontario: Demeter Press.

Miedzian, Myriam. (1991). Boys Will Be Boys: Breaking the Link Between Masculinity and Violence. New York: Doubleday

Natterson, C. (2020). Decoding Boys: New Science Behind the Subtle Art of Raising Sons. Ballantine Books.

O’Reilly, Andrea. (ed.). (2001). Mothers and Sons: Feminism, Masculinity, and the Struggle to Raise Our Sons. Routledge.

Phillips, Angela. (1993). The Trouble With Boys: Parenting the Men of the Future. London: Pandora

Pollack, William. (1998). Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons From the Myths of Boyhood. New York: Random House.

Porter, Lesley, and Kerry Lane. (1998). An Invitation to an Exploration of… Mothers’ Significant Role and Contribution to Their Sons’ Lives, and how this Connection Supports Stands Against Sexual Abuse. Dulwich Centre Journal, No. 4, p. 17

Reichert, M. C. (2020). How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men. TarcherPerigee.

Rowland, R., and A. Thomas. (1996). Mothering Sons: A Crucial Feminist Challenge. Feminism Psychology, 6(1): 93-99.

Salisbury, Jonathon, and David Jackson. (1996). Fathers and Sons. Chapter 13 in Challenging Macho Values: Practical Ways of Working With Adolescent Boys. London: Falmer Press.

Sandretto, S., & Nairn, K. (2019). Do parenting advice books help or harm? Critiquing ‘common-sense’ advice for mothers raising boys. Gender and Education, 31(3), 327-343. doi:10.1080/09540253.2018.1533919

Silverstein, Olga, and Beth Rashbaum. (1994). The Courage to Raise Good Men. New York: Viking

Thompson, Michael. (2000). Speaking of Boys: Answers to the Most Commonly Asked Questions About Raising Sons. Sydney: Simon & Schuster.

Wells, Jess. (ed.). (1997). Lesbians Raising Sons. Los Angeles and New York: Alyson Books.


Other works

Alan-Williams, Greg. (1997). Boys to Men: Maps for the Journey. Doubleday.

Anderson, K.J., J. George, and M. Nease. (2002). Requirements, Risks, and Responsibility: Mothering and fathering in books about raising boys. Analyses of Social Issues and Public Policy, 2(1), pp. 205-221.

Biddulph, Steve. (1994). Manhood: A Book About Setting Men Free. Sydney: Finch Publishing.
4. You and Your Father.
7. Being a Real Father.

Biddulph, Steve. (1997). Raising Boys. Sydney: Finch Publishing.

Brown, L.M., S. Lamb, and M. Tappan. (eds.). (2009). Packaging Boyhood: Saving our Sons from Superheroes, Slackers, and other Media Stereotypes. New York: St. Martin’s Press.

Elium, D., and J. Elium. (1992). Raising a Son: Parents and the Making of a Healthy Man. Hillsboro, OR: Beyond Words Publishing.

Grant, I. (2008). Growing Great Boys. North Sydney: Random House.

Greenwood, Robbie. (1989). Bringing Up Boys. Broadsheet, March

Gurian, Michael. (1992). The Prince and the King: Healing the Father-Son Wound, Strengthening the Father-Son Bond. New York: G.P. Putnams Sons.

Palmer, Sue. (2009). Twentieth-century boys.

Saval, M. (2009). The Secret Lives of Boys. Inside the Raw Emotional World of Male Teens. New York: Basic Books.

Sax, Leonard. (2007). Boys Adrift: The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men. New York: Basic Books.

Tyre, Peg. (2008). The Trouble with Boys: A Surprising Report Card on Our Sons, Their Problems at School, and What Parents and Educators Must Do. New York: Crown Publishers.

Weiner, Bernard. (1992). Boy Into Man: A Fathers’ Guide to Initiations of Teenage Sons. San Francisco, CA: Transformation Press.

Wilder, J.E. (1994). Rite of Passage: How to Teach Your Son About Sex and Manhood. Ann Arbor, MI: Vine Books.

Yablonsky, Lewis. (1990). Fathers and Sons: The Most Challenging of All Family Relationships. New York: Gardner Press.