[Warning: This post contains sexually explicit language.]
[Trigger warning: stories of sexual assault.]
Men “can all be leaders” in the struggle to end violence against women. But maybe not all of us should be.
The other day I heard about yet another domestic violence homicide. And the news report sounded a hauntingly familiar refrain…
Whosoever would be a man must be a nonconformist.” (Why, after 200 years, Emerson is still relevant.)
When do you follow the rules?
When do you break them?
Do you break the rules in order to do the right thing?
Even if breaking the rules will get you punished?
Quick! Name “the world’s oldest profession.”
When it comes to violence against women, “the passivity of good men” is an atrocity. And we should be ashamed.
In her brilliant 2008 essay “Men Who Explain Things: Every Woman Knows What It’s Like To Be Patronized By A Guy Who Won’t Let Facts Get In The Way,” Rebecca Solnit writes: