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What’s the role of men in ending patriarchy?

Panel discussion: What’s the role of men in ending patriarchy?

Centre for People, Organisation, and Work, RMIT University, Melbourne (Australia), June 1 2017

Michael Flood

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I’m going to start with some points about men, patriarchy, and feminism which I hold to be self-evident. That is, some basic truths. And I will end with some harder questions.

So, this first section is “Engaging Men 101”.

Some truths I hold to be self-evident

To achieve gender equality, we’ll have to engage men.

To end patriarchy, to achieve gender equality, men will have to change. Putting this another way, we will have to engage men. Above all, because gender inequalities are sustained in large part by men – by men’s attitudes, behaviours, identities, and relations.

Patriarchy is about men – about male privilege, about men’s practices and relations, with women and perhaps more so with other men.

Men are members of a privileged group, and we receive various benefits and dividends whether or not we want to. We have an ethical responsibility, a political responsibility, to challenge and undermine this privilege, to change our own sexism and to challenge other men’s.

So, to put it far too simply, men are part of the problem, and men are part of the solution.

Okay, that’s Engaging Men 101. Let’s move to Engaging Men 102.

The ‘turn to men’ in gender politics

I have written recently about the ‘turn to men’ in gender politics. By a ‘turn to men’, I mean, an increasing emphasis on men’s roles in building gender equality. This ‘turn to men’ is a feminist achievement. But it’s also problematic.

If engaging men is going to make real progress, then some conditions have to be met.

(1) This work must be feminist.

First, this work must be feminist – and I mean, strongly, robustly feminist. Some efforts to involve men are based in small-l liberal, individualistic, corporate feminism. It’s ‘lean-in’ feminism, where the goal is to get more women – largely, economically privileged women – into the same positions of power as privileged men.

It’s not socialist feminism, raising questions about unfair economic structures. It’s not radical feminism, tackling men’s control of women’s bodies and sexuality. It’s not intersectional feminism, addressing the intersections between gender inequalities and other forms of social injustice.

So this work must be feminist, robustly feminist.

(2) We must challenge men. We must address male privilege, not only female disadvantage.

Second, this work must challenge men. It must address male privilege.

Patriarchy is as much a story of male advantage as it is a story of female disadvantage.

Male privilege is personal and everyday, as well as structural. Many men do sexism in our everyday lives, myself included. And whether men want to or not, we benefit from male privilege.

So, work with men should address privilege. But some of the work to engage men in gender equality spends too much time appeasing and reassuring men. We shouldn’t give men a cookie just for being decent human beings.

(3) We must involve men in personal and social change.

Third, we have to involve men in processes of personal and social change. Men must critically examine our own lives. We must tackle our own complicity in wider systems and cultures of sexism. If men are to claim support for feminism, we must practise feminism. There’s lots more I could say here about what it means for men to develop an anti-patriarchal practice, the mistakes it’s easy to make, and so on, but I want to move on.

And we have to mobilise men. Much of the ‘men’ work asks far too little of men. Wear a ribbon. Click on a pledge. That’s not much of a to-do list. What about, speak up about sexual harassment? Lobby for paid parental leave? Smash the patriarchy?

So, men have to put our own houses in order. And, take public, social action, in groups, networks, campaigns, and movements. We need male activists. Advocates. Trouble-makers.

Okay, that’s Engaging Men 102. Let’s move now to the ‘Engaging Men Masterclass’

Harder issues and trickier questions

Now, I assume that you’re a smart audience. You’ve got experience of, and expertise in, feminist politics. So let’s talk then about some harder issues, some trickier questions.

(1) Which feminism?

First, we all may agree that men must support feminism. But, which feminism?

The three of us up here have taken sides, to varying degrees, with radical, socialist, and intersectional feminisms.

And it seems to me that profeminist men have to make decisions about which feminist theory or politics to advocate. Profeminist men should offer broad support for all feminisms, and should in general avoid publicly attacking particular feminisms. But in the campaigns and the words we speak, inevitably we are forced to adopt particular feminist positions. And that means choosing some feminist positions over others. It means saying that some feminists are wrong. So, we must be prepared to defend the particular feminisms we adopt, acknowledge the circumstances which shape that adoption, and try to engage respectfully across feminisms.

(2) Non-feminist and anti-feminist women

Second, profeminist men are seen to be supporters of women. But what should profeminist men do when women speak or act in non-feminist ways? When women report that they feel empowered as sex workers? When women prefer their husbands to be dominant in relationships? When a girlfriend asks you to play out a rape fantasy with her?

I’ve got three tentative answers here. (a) Recognise that women, like men, are implicated in patriarchy and socialised in patriarchal gender norms. (b) Recognise – and this is controversial – that people aren’t necessarily the best judges of their own experiences or needs. (c) And, above all, continue to make ethical and political choices – about how you think you should treat others.

(3) Getting intersectional

Third, feminism these days is premised on intersectionality, the recognition that gender intersects with other forms of social difference and social inequality.

If we take intersectionality seriously, that also means recognising hierarchies and inequalities among men themselves. Some men are disadvantaged or oppressed. They face real social, economic, or political marginalisation and disempowerment. Not because they’re men, but because of their positions in other forms of social injustice.

So, the challenge here is to find ways to address the intersectional disadvantages some men face, while not losing sight of men’s power as a gender.

There are other key challenges, ones I won’t cover here:

  • How to tackling powerful sources of patriarchal ideology and practice, such as the global pornography industry;
  • How to link anti-patriarchal work with other forms of social justice advocacy;
  • How to respond to, and prevent, anti-feminist backlash and resistance;
  • How to fund and support this work; and
  • Whether, and how, to work with patriarchal and neoliberal institutions and governments.

The biggest challenge: How to get men on board

We need to build an anti-patriarchal movement. And part of this requires engaging and mobilising men. So, I want to finish on a really key question: How do we get men on board?

How do we generate support and action from larger numbers of men? And without diluting feminism? Feminism in popular culture already risks being de-politicised, co-opted, and de-fanged.

I’ve been writing about how to make the case to men, how to build men’s support for ending violence against women. So, here are some key strategies.

Personalise the issue. Show men how sexism and patriarchy affect the women and girls they know, and how they affect them directly. Invite men into the realities of women’s lives, whether that’s living with routine sexual harassment, or poorer opportunities at work, or slut-shaming, or something else. But move men beyond this to a concern for all women.

Appeal to values and principles. Appeal to men’s sense of fairness or justice or ethics. Working to end gender inequalities is the right thing to do.

Show that men will benefit. Tell men that they will benefit from moving away from traditional, narrow, notions of masculinity, which stifle and harm them (and oppress women). Hold out the carrot of better relationships with women, and better sex (there’s research!), and deeper friendships with other men.

Start where men are. Start with men’s existing understandings. Meet men where they are. But don’t leave them there.

Build on strengths. Build on men’s existing commitments to and involvements in gender equality,. Start with the positive, with what you can find of men’s equitable and respectful practices and relations. But avoid a naïve emphasis on how most men are not part of the problem (“#NotAllMen!”), and contine to center a robust feminist critique.

Popularise feminism. Use the F-word, claiming feminism and asserting its value, rather than responding to anti-feminist stigma by giving up and abandoning the label that defines this politics.

Provide knowledge and skills in action. Not only do we have to get men in the door, but we have to equip with them with skills in what to do: how to challenge sexism, what to say when someone makes a rape joke, what to do when your mate is texting his girlfriend 40 times a day to check on her.

Provide opportunities and invitations for involvement. Find ways to reach men: through their personal and professional networks, in the places where men gather, and so on.

Finally, we have to Build communities of support. Communities of support are vital to men’s ability to sustain a personal commitment to and involvement in anti-patriarchal work. I’m thinking of  informal friendship groups and formal organisations and networks.

Conclusion

A final comment. Feminism is not about men or for men. And men will always have a difficult, delicate relationship with feminism. When men take part in efforts to end patriarchy, this is ally politics, and ally politics is tricky. But it is also crucial. Let’s do what we can to involve men in the work of building a world of gender justice.