When you’re told you’re going to die, you go through five stages: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance. I remember learning about these Stages of Death and Dying, by Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross.
I’ve noticed that, as men, we tend to go through these same stages when confronted with the reality of men’s violence against women.
Miscellaneous
In a world dominated by men, the world of men is, by definition, a world of power. That power is a structured part of our economies and systems of political and social organization; it forms part of the core of religion, family, forms of play, and intellectual life. On an individual level, much of what we associate with masculinity hinges on a man’s capacity to exercise power and control.
But men’s lives speak of a different reality. Though men hold power and reap the privileges that come with our sex, that power is tainted.
Produced by the Institute of Development Studies (IDS), this report summarises and draws inspiration from the Politicising Masculinities symposium, which took place on 15-18 October 2007 in Dakar, Senegal. The report reflects on four key areas of discussion that took place at the symposium: new ways of theorising; male bodies and sexualities; shaping policies and transforming institutions; and mobilisation, activism and movement-building.
This paper, originally prepared for UNICEF in 2003, synthesizes lessons from the past two decades of work with men and boys to end gender inequality and men's violence, and to promote new models of masculinity and new relations between women and men. It distills the conceptual tools that can help organizations focus such work so that it is not a drain on resources that could go to women and girls. And it develops a strategic framework for addressing and involving men and boys.
Please see below for the attachment, in either PDF or RTF. A French-language version is available.
A special issue of the journal Agenda focuses on 'gender, culture and rights', with a series of articles on men, masculinities, and gender issues. Selected pieces from this special issue are available below.
This article explores the notion of ‘troublesome’ masculinities that characterise much of the policy discourse and programme thinking on problems of young men and gender. It critiques the dimorphism that shapes this view of young men’s gender trouble, and the ‘culturalism’ that constrains the perception of the troubled times in which many young men live.
The following declaration was authored by participants at the Global Symposium on Engaging Men and Boys on Achieving Gender Equality, held in Rio de Janeiro in March 2009. It was read out by a large group of men and women in the final session of the symposium.
PDF versions of the declaration also are available below, in both English and Spanish.
This special issue of the magazine XY: Men, Sex, Politics (1994) focuses on men and sex. It includes the following articles:
Journey of desire: new forms of monogamy and sexual preference.
Good thing it's not sex: sexual socialisation.
Loving and touching.
Sex with men?
Heterosex
A celibate marriage
You show me yours.
Diverse desires.
Gay patriarchy.
Please see below for the magazine, in PDF.
This special issue of the magazine XY: Men, Sex, Politics (1994) focuses on men in prison. It includes the following articles:
Inside/outside (On class, masculinity, sexuality and race in the prison system).
How Not to Be a Man (Reflections by a prison inmate).
Black in a White Man’s World (Interview with three Aboriginal inmates).
Gay Behind Bars.
Hell and Home (The many meanings of prison).
Prison Facts (A snapshot).
Three Minutes in the Life of Society’s Reject (A story).
Please see below for the magazine, in PDF.
Michael Kaufman’s framework provides an accessible and compelling account of the need to involve men and boys in building gender equality. Written in 2003, it offers a strategic approach with which to mobilize men and boys to work on their own and in partnership with women and girls to transform destructive masculinities, end oppressive gender relations, and promote gender equity and equality.
Please see below for the attachment, in both PDF and RTF.